Just because certain parents can work more effectively to get an EHCP or adjustments for their child doesn't mean that their child shouldn't have those things. It means that a massive overhaul and major input of funding is needed so that ALL children with additional needs get everything that they need to thrive.
This will need significant additional funding but it really needs to be done and is an investment in our future society.
For example, a neurodiverse child who is diagnosed/had needs identified promptly when issues first appear and who has appropriate adjustments made in order to help them to succeed, who has teaching staff that fully understand their issues and have freedom to accommodate them in whatever way they need, will less chance of developing mental health issues and needing CAHMS input further down the line. They have more chance of functioning well in society as adults.
It really doesn't need to be a race to the bottom ( Child X is less needy than Child. Y so their support needs to be reduced)
Funding and finances are always a matter of choice and priorities and we can make choices to support these children properly. It is just that Kemi Badenoch isn't going to do this.
I would be removing subsidised food in HoP, reducing the things MPs can claim for to sensible obvious things, pursuing all the money that was wasted on inadequate PPE (contracts to sweet company etc) etc etc. I'd also be taxing the mega rich more and bringing in legislation to make companies like Amazon pay proper amounts of tax in this country. Etc Etc. Yes I know it is a balancing act and it may be that not everything can be done immediately but there is a lot that could be done to fund education, special needs, and the NHS better. We need politicians of all flavours who understand what things are like for ordinary people and then we need to do this.