I think to be resilient, kind, and hard working, part of it is teaching that we may not be happy in the moment, no one is always happy or always any other emotion - understanding and accepting emotions are fleeting, and there is a satisfaction from living those qualities even when we aren't happy in the moment.
An important thing at this stage is being around people who have the qualities you want. Find community groups you all can grow with as a family and in a few years, activities he can do without you that support those qualities and support him where he's at as part of the wider community. I found St John Ambulance Badgers good for this, when my older son was a SJA cadet he had over 100 hours of volunteering before he was 15.
Most of what I can think of involve much older children and depend on a lot of of factors - it worked for us to be structured home educators for primary and I think part of why my kids engaged well when they chose to go to secondary was that it was their active choice, but I lived in an area that's long been a blackhole of education and had bad school options. If you're in a better area, you'll have more options. Similar with tech, what type of conversations - you'll likely need to have on-going ones as he gets older about how he's perceived can be very different to his intent, with my older son, this was mostly around how he can appear intimidating or dismissive when he doesn't mean to be and how to be more aware of that, with my older daughter, well, she once shouted how she has the right to express her emotions however she wants, whenever she wants and I had to pull her up on that not being the case and a lot more conversations about interpersonal conflicts where emotions were or appeared to be used to manipulate.
I think the most important overall is keeping communication going, accepting that any ideas on best practice for this are limited and accept practice and ourselves will likely need to change over time for the child. One thing that didn't work for me and I regret with my 20 year old is putting big issues on small shoulders. When my kids were young, we went to rallies including about violence against women, we had those conversations as everyone says to do, as I thought were needed and then at 8 he started to talk about all boys and men in a very negative way, one I remember is him just coming out with guys being oppressors just to keep women down while looking sadly at his sisters and his father and I had to do damage control. Not all of it could be repaired - we had major issues when he was in college of him not getting help he was entitled to because 'other people need it more'. When he was stalked and sexually harassed as a 15 year old by adult women, he was terrified, found by school staff hiding, but he wouldn't get support after because 'others need it more'. It's stuck in his head that resources are limited and as a guy, especially one that usually passes for White and able, he has to step back and put his needs aside to avoid being the oppressor. He's a kind young man who is can be happy, hard working and appears resilient, we have a great relationship, but I have my fears at times that he'll end up in a bad state with this mindset. Awkward to admit that it took many conversations with my husband and watching my kids grow to see that while it's true that men don't understand women, I equally will never really know what it's like for boys and men while there is more media on guys, it's just as distorted as the media on us. I changed more to focus on mutual communication and mutual understanding, which helped a lot, if not as much as I'd like.