Anyone really miss their mum

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Just that realiy. I know there’s previous threads on this but I just really miss my wee mum so much still. She was far from perfect and neither am i and i didn’t have a great experience in my early years with her … to the point I could have gone NC but she fought the bit out so hard to be in my life and I loved her so much. So much. I miss her every day. I’m going through the worst break up ever and I’m 51 and I just want to phone her so much. She went through an awful lot in her life but when I was down she’d always say come on let’s go and get a lipstick or a face mask or just … she just said the right things. Och she was honestly, I have no words for how much I loved her. I miss her so much, what I would give just to have one more cup of tea with her or one more hug or one more phone call. I’d never say to anyone oh you need to love someone because it’s your mum or your dad or its family. But I really loved her and even still 3 years later i still can’t believe I’ll never speak to her again. I’m just gutted tbh. I don’t even know why I’m posting this… just big hugs to anyone who is really missing anyone today and anyone who wants to share anything tbh.

Oh love, it is a loss that doesn't really go away. I'd love to have a chat about how the kids are getting on, or have someone who really cared when I'm sick.
I see people out with their mums and sometimes they look impatient and I'd like to tell them to appreciate what they have, though of course I often did the same thing with my own mum!

Mine died 25 years ago and I still miss her. I was in my 20’s when she died, I was off living my life and enjoying my career, and now I’m her age I realise how much I’ve missed with her. I wish I could go back and spend more time with her, ask her the questions I never thought to. I have so many regrets.

So sorry you lost your mum. It's so difficult isn't it. My mum died suddenly 4 years ago and I miss her every single day. I still can't believe I'll never speak to her again, watch her playing with the kids or sit round her table eating her stew. She was amazing (despite not being perfect either)

Sending you a very unmumsnetty hug in solidarity

My mum died 2 years ago today and I miss her so so much, today is exceptionally tough.
I'm really struggling with my mental and physical health at the moment and she would have been a big support emotionally.

My dad died 17 years ago so mum was my only parent for a number of years and we had grown a lot closer. I'm in my 40s and married with my own children but it's a really strange and uncomfortable feeling that I have no parents.

Sending you 💐

Long time ago now but definitely yes, of course!

It’s approaching the first anniversary of the loss of mum, dad’s second anniversary is in a few days time. Miss them both terribly but was grateful they were reunited quickly. Mum struggled for that year without her soul mate

It gets easier but yes, I still miss my mum, 10 years on. There have been lots of days in between when I have wanted to phone her, to sit over a cup of tea , or just to cry on her shoulder .
She was not perfect either , but she loved me through thick and thin.
💐 for all those who have lost their mums.

My mum died 2 years ago next weekend and I miss her terribly every day.

I really do, it will be her birthday next week, the sixth one without her. I've just had a baby and wish with all my heart my mum was here to meet her. They would adore each other. Sightly selfishly, I had a very tough recovery after birth and really missed the care she would have given me, checking up on me etc. My husband is very caring but it doesn't replace a mum.

It's four and a half years since my Mum died but she had dementia and we really lost her before that.
I miss her so much. She had been horribly physically and mentally abused by her own mother and wasn't perfect but she tried so very hard not to repeat the mistakes of previous generations. She gave us a wonderful childhood and was amazing with my children.
She was incredibly talented at all sorts of arts and crafts and I've recently taken up crochet and I keep wanting to give her a ring and ask her advice.

Yes, I do too 😔

Mine died ten years ago when I was 30 and she was only in her fifties. So sad

Yes, I do. I'm in my 30s, and lost her a bit over a year ago, after a cancer diagnosis. It sucks. I wish I could see her and give her a hug. And ask her for advice with the little one.

I get it. I didn't have a straightforward relationship with my mum and she passed away when I was 34. I'm going through every mother's worst nightmare at the moment and I feel asleep and dreamt she was alive. I was just lifting the phone to tell her that I couldn't bear it for another second when I woke up. PM me if you want to, I know exactly what a bad break up is like and I say all the right things, even though it isn't the same.

My mum died when I was in my 30s, and I often think about how much she has missed since then.

I also find it really hard seeing mums and daughters, at around my age, and the age she would have been, or grandparents out with grandchildren the age that my children are.

It's so hard to come to terms with what you've lost, but also what you'll never have.

I never had a Mom so your all really lucky to have had that bond. I'm a mom myself and I love that bond with my 2 daughters.

I lost my dad when I was 24 and I'm 54 now. Its hard to believe I've lived more of my life without him in it. Mum died when I was 38.

I miss them both, more so as I get older. I wish I'd spent more time with them but their deaths were both sudden.

I still have dreams about them which is lovely.

write to her. sounds daft(i amma bit) my dad died when was 53,i was 22. i hate not having him..so i write to him

My mum died 16 yrs ago when the kids were 6, 4 and 8 wks old. She’s missed them growing up, graduation, jobs, sporting achievements, our new home. Id like to tell her all of that.

my eldest had an op last week and no doubt she would be here looking after her

its still tough

I lost my Mum a long time ago, but yes, I still miss her. Very normal I think where you have a normal loving relationship with your Mum.
She has been there all your life and influenced so much about who you are. It is a huge loss.
3 years is no time at all.

My mum died fairly suddenly 11 years ago. I still miss her every day. Every so often a random song comes on the radio and I'll find myself tearful. I still have her number on my phone as I can't bring myself to delete it. I miss her so much.

Yes miss my mum a lot. She died 14 years ago when I was in my early 20s. She was only 50. Things have changed a lot since then, I now have 2 kids. Which keeps me busy and is lovely but also sad she is not here to meet them.

No-one will ever love me as much as my mum did. It's something that burns me every single day (lost her suddenly and unexpectedly 4 years ago). That love will never exist in my life again.

Losing her upended my life, I'll never get over it.

I've lost count of the "wish I could tell mum" moments I've had since she died. So many little and big things she's not been here for. Somehow it's the little things that are harder. She was the only one in the world who would message me to see how a work meeting went or how the kids jabs went or how parents evening went. She cared, she was genuinely interested in all the little things in our lives (my siblings and the other grandchildren). She always managed to make me feel 'thought about'

I realise this sounds very 'me, me, me' and of course it was reciprocal. I just never realised the true magnitude of it until she wasn't here anymore. Her love for me was absolute.

All I can do is love, support, cherish and nurture my kids, as she did with us. For 40 years she was my constant. Miss her every bloody day.

My Mum died nearly 30 years ago, and I still miss her. My boys were only 3 and 1 so don’t remember her. She would have been a fantastic grandmother to them and I grieve for what they have missed, and also what I have missed - someone who is interested in my boring day to day news and someone who loves and supports me through thick and thin. I still have letters she wrote to me and recipes in her handwriting that can still occasionally make me cry all these years later.

Yes I miss my mother after 9 years and my father after 14 years. I think about them daily and probably always will. The posts on this thread are so poignant.

Hugs to you OP and everyone on here. X