Anyone really miss their mum

[Choosenandenough]

Just that realiy. I know there’s previous threads on this but I just really miss my wee mum so much still. She was far from perfect and neither am i and i didn’t have a great experience in my early years with her … to the point I could have gone NC but she fought the bit out so hard to be in my life and I loved her so much. So much. I miss her every day. I’m going through the worst break up ever and I’m 51 and I just want to phone her so much. She went through an awful lot in her life but when I was down she’d always say come on let’s go and get a lipstick or a face mask or just … she just said the right things. Och she was honestly, I have no words for how much I loved her. I miss her so much, what I would give just to have one more cup of tea with her or one more hug or one more phone call. I’d never say to anyone oh you need to love someone because it’s your mum or your dad or its family. But I really loved her and even still 3 years later i still can’t believe I’ll never speak to her again. I’m just gutted tbh. I don’t even know why I’m posting this… just big hugs to anyone who is really missing anyone today and anyone who wants to share anything tbh.

Funnily enough, I’ve been missing my mum terribly recently - more than usual. Like PP, I’ve not been feeling great mentally recently and would just love to see her and chat. She also never met my now 3.5 year old son. She would have absolutely adored him and I feel so sad that he will never know her and that she’ll just be someone in a (few, sadly) photo. She died 14 years ago when I was in my early 30s. Like PP as well, she was not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but she was my mum nonetheless 😢😢
sending love to you all on this gloomy grey Sunday evening x

Mum died 6 months ago,very unexpectedly. She was the best. Sometimes I miss her and weep but mostly I feel nothing. Just numb.

I want to say the same to people even though I did it too and I was impatient. It makes me so sad thinking of times I was short tempered etc but that’s the luxury of having a mum like that… my son could be grumpy with me and I wouldn’t bat an eyelid … I’d love to talk to her too about him and just all the stuff you want to say that you think you’ll always get to say. It’s so sad. Thank you for replying and I’m sorry you’ve gone through it too.

Oh that’s really hard. I have so little time for my mum in my 20s - it’s so common and I’d feel the same way to be honest but my son now just turning 20 is the same - so busy with career and life, its just the way of it and it doesn’t bother me at all that he’s busy l, I know it’s not personal but I totally get how you must feel when you reach the same age etc, that’s awful hard and to lose her so young is awful, I’m so sorry.

Lost my mum almost 30 years ago. I’d love one more day with her where we’d laugh our heads off together! ❤️

Thank you so much and hugs 💐to you too. I could have written word for word what you wrote - it’s just, it was so sudden with my mum too but I think even if it wasn’t - it feels like ‘right that’s enough of this carry on, come back now! It’s very hard to wrap your head around the fact they’re not coming back. And that you didn’t know that your last chat was your last chat. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through it too.

Me 😥 My mum was the sweetest, kindest, loveliest person in the world. I loved her so much. She's been gone for 19 years and she never got to be a grandmother. My DS is 17, and he said to me just yesterday, 'I wish I'd met your mum'. I'm blessed to have an absolutely lovely MIL who scooped me up when my mum died and was wonderful when DS was born, but she lives three hours away and it's not the same. I've lost my dad as well, and I'm an only child, so there's nobody who has any early childhood memories of me. It's hard.

So sorry to all the rest of you who are missing your mums too

Your post made me cry. I'm so sorry you lost your wee mum.

I completely relate to your experience of having a mum who wasn't perfect, or always what you wanted her to be... to the point you could have gone NC. That's me, too. But your relationship healed, improved and evolved over time. Mine too.

I don't know what to say that's helpful. With grief, there isn't much that is truly helpful. Just remember you were both blessed to have each other, I suppose. With very strong bonds like this, there's sometimes the sense of the departed one still being nearby. Try to feel that this is true, if you can.

Sending a big hug 🤗

I will NEVER get over the loss of my darling mum! I still tell myself she is living in a far away place! I love you mum!