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The casual things that wealthy people take for granted

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KaleQueen · 04/10/2024 21:31

Inspired by a thread that’s gone totally off topic….where someone suggested a £400 watch was cheap.

What’s the most casual (even accidental) brag you’ve ever heard a wealthy person say?

I can start as I know someone who celebrated a big birthday recently and is an absolutely lovely person but during their party (in the wonderful house) they said “oh! Here comes the string quartet. I had completely forgotten about them!”

^www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5174898-to-feel-slightly-suspicious-of-dp?page=35&reply=138771616^

OP posts:
Manypaws · 06/10/2024 14:45

@CrowleyKitten Why didn't you stick with the £100 guitar?

TinkerTiger · 06/10/2024 14:46

Disappearedwife · 04/10/2024 21:34

Im not particularly wealthy but a £400 watch IS cheap.

An expensive watch is well into the thousands (£3k+). £400 is probably just a metal/plastic watch.

Next thing I’m going to hear is that £50 is an expensive hand bag 😂😂😂

Edited

🙄

Not expensive doesn't mean 'cheap'. Get over yourself

TinkerTiger · 06/10/2024 14:48

FussyFusspott · 04/10/2024 21:41

A colleague of mine buys expensive clothes online and if she doesn't like them she actually bins them as it's too much hassle to return or take to a charity shop.

And this is why I don’t waste my time worrying about how we can save the environment. We’re fucked.

KajunBayouGurl · 06/10/2024 14:51

I once complimented a Woman(millionaire) that I kno on her vehicle. Her, response to me was, "IT'S JUS A CAR!!" It wasn't jus a car, in my book!! It was an amazing vehicle, perhaps a Cadillac, I can't remember, cuz it was yrs. ago. THE MORAL TO MY EXPERIENCE, A SIMPLE "THANK YOU," WOULDA SUFFICED, INSTEAD OF HER, REPLY TOO ME, "IT'S JUS A CAR!!"🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

KaleQueen · 06/10/2024 14:54

TinkerTiger · 06/10/2024 14:48

And this is why I don’t waste my time worrying about how we can save the environment. We’re fucked.

I think that’s a whole new thread….😂

OP posts:
stayathomer · 06/10/2024 15:08

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Just being able to replace the washing machine when it dies, or other white goods without stress and worry about where that money is coming from.
Ive done this- the only guy who fixes washing machines in our vicinity charges 120€ for call out alone! Cheapest washing machine was €220 and had just gotten paid so technically didn’t think about it (definitely did by the end of the month and dh asked could we not just do our washing in the neighbours’ 😅😅😅)

CrowleyKitten · 06/10/2024 15:09

Manypaws · 06/10/2024 14:45

@CrowleyKitten Why didn't you stick with the £100 guitar?

because I was able to save up for my favourite model of guitar. I still don't think the cheap one was a bad guitar. it's a completely different style. most beginners guitars are modelled on a Statocaster type design and scale length. my expensive guitar is a Gibson SG. the neck is much shallower, and the fret scale is shorter. so as a short person with smallish hands, it's easier for me to play. the pickups are a different style, and give a different, crunchier sound more suited to the sort of music I like playing. the cheap one has a whammy bar, which my expensive one doesn't, so for songs where that is useful, that's the one I'll use, and generally sounds much smoother unless I use distortion pedals. they're very different guitars. but the price of the cheaper one doesn't make it a bad guitar. it's perfectly decent.

they sound and play differently. this doesn't mean the cheap one isn't good, it means that I use them for different things. the one I literally saved up for for a few pounds here, a few there, for over a year, obviously, means more to me emotionally. but also, the other was my first guitar that I learned on, and I still love it. they both have their strengths and weaknesses.
I've never felt a need to buy an ACTUAL stratocaster to replace my stratocaster based beginners kit guitar, because I've got that style and sound covered already. I quite fancy a Jaguar or Telecaster style one at some point, but it wouldn't have to be the Fender originals. I'd settle for a Squier one (their budget range) or even just a knockoff type. saw a lovely powder blue telecaster style economy guitar last week that could tempt me. it was cute as hell, and not very expensive at all.

Manypaws · 06/10/2024 15:12

"I was able to save up for my favourite" , just like some people are able to save for their favourite watch, car, coat etc. We are very fortunate to have that choice

CrowleyKitten · 06/10/2024 15:17

Britinme · 06/10/2024 14:42

@CrowleyKitten so you saved up for a more expensive guitar you wanted - please consider that for some people saving to buy some more expensive but long-lasting clothing or shoes or coat that they really wanted would be as important to them as the guitar was to you. I have foot issues and the kind of shoes I need to wear were definitely beyond my monthly budget in years gone by. Winter coats are expensive and there were five of us, and so on. I really can't see why you're dismissing the idea that a monthly budget might include money set aside for clothing or shoes that are not bought immediately, especially when there are children to consider.

that was back before I left home. at the time I was paid weekly, and everything left at the end of the week went into the pot. so I'd spend as little as I could to add to it. I had a lot more disposable income than I did now, as my household contribution was to pay for the internet. I could afford a lot more then than I can now. but those two guitars, I'll never get rid of either of them.
the cheap one actually went a long way in getting to know my now husband. we met in the local pub on millennium eve, and playing guitars was something we had in common. we only lived around the corner from each other, so a lot of our courtship was going to each others houses to play guitars and talk music. and we're still happy together 24 years later.
he came with me to buy the SG.

CrowleyKitten · 06/10/2024 15:21

Manypaws · 06/10/2024 15:12

"I was able to save up for my favourite" , just like some people are able to save for their favourite watch, car, coat etc. We are very fortunate to have that choice

yes, but that doesn't mean that the less expensive ones aren't still expensive, or that they're not good.
like the person saying you can't get a decent handbag for £50, when you obviously can.
I can see that being able to save for something that IS a luxury doesn't invalidate those that are cheaper than that. are there more expensive guitars. yes there definitely are. does that make my SG cheap. no it doesn't. it was expensive.
does it mean my £100 guitar isn't "decent" definitely not. it's a fully functional, reliable instrument that I still own 25 years later

Manypaws · 06/10/2024 15:57

But you can't dictate what other people find expensive or inexpensive

friendlycat · 06/10/2024 16:07

Ramblomatic · 06/10/2024 14:34

You should get some salt and vinegar for that chip on your shoulder 😅

Nepotism will always exists, and some people will always be able to blag their way through life, but this is the minority.

I've never hired someone unintelligent for a high paying job, or given someone a promotion because of the way they look. Unless you're a model/TV presenter etc, this is fantasy land.

What I have come across is a lifetime of people stuck in dead end/entry level jobs who weren't willing or able to put the work in, who spend their time moaning about their face not fitting, or that everyone promoted ahead of them is a kiss-arse.

I remember taking an entry level job in my early 20s. Was promoted to department manager after three months. The person who trained me kicked off because they'd "been there for five years".

Yes love, you've been in an entry level job for five years...that's a you problem.

Well said.

Whilst I will acknowledge that some people don't have the best start in life and may come from a background where education and advancement is not encouraged which may then lead them into low paid work. There are others who work their way up the ladder and put in a serious amount of hard graft to get there.

There are also jobs that are not rewarded very well for the level of care and commitment given.

But up thread there was somebody arguing that a consultant surgeon should not be financially rewarded more than the hospital cleaner. Utter madness!

RampantIvy · 06/10/2024 16:17

Manypaws · 06/10/2024 15:57

But you can't dictate what other people find expensive or inexpensive

It's all relative though.

Completely agree. I have relatively few material things. I love music, so I got some Bang & Olufsen headphones. We watch a lot of movies so we have a nice TV

I don’t disagree with this @Ramblomatic. I think there is a difference between paying for excellent quality and splashing out lots of cash just because you can.

Like you we like watching the sort of TV programmes that really need an excellent quality picture so have a decent TV (a Which? best buy). We need a reliable car so we have a reliable brand, The washing machine gave up the ghost recently (we had had it for over 21 years so it wasn’t worth repairing) so I bought a washing machine that was recommended as a best buy from Which?

I also subscribe to the view of buy cheap buy twice, but I have a limit as to what I can afford. Basically, I want value for money – not the cheapest and not the most expensive.

Going back to the watch - £400 is NOT cheap for a watch for most people. It is if you can easily afford a 5 figure sum for a watch but given that there are an awful lot of watches for sale under three figures I wouldn’t class it as cheap. And stating that it is cheap is incredibly tone deaf – and aren’t most watches made from metal?

Crushed23 · 06/10/2024 16:19

I haven't RTFT obviously.

I am by no means wealthy but I don't have kids so have some disposable income that I can fritter. I was organising a meet up with friends to see one of our favourite DJs play. Tickets are ~£40 and I was very surprised when one friend declined on the basis the ticket was too expensive (we're all in our 30s).

It was a good reminder that I shouldn't take for granted being able to make the most of living in a cool city and seeing live music whenever I want.

Manypaws · 06/10/2024 16:20

@RampantIvy I have said all along that it is relative , that's the whole point

Disturbia81 · 06/10/2024 16:31

Crushed23 · 06/10/2024 16:19

I haven't RTFT obviously.

I am by no means wealthy but I don't have kids so have some disposable income that I can fritter. I was organising a meet up with friends to see one of our favourite DJs play. Tickets are ~£40 and I was very surprised when one friend declined on the basis the ticket was too expensive (we're all in our 30s).

It was a good reminder that I shouldn't take for granted being able to make the most of living in a cool city and seeing live music whenever I want.

Well done for coming out of your bubble into the real world.

Calliopespa · 06/10/2024 16:35

Ramblomatic · 06/10/2024 13:57

In the words of Alan Partridge..."Come to London, you'll either be mugged or not appreciated".

Mad thing is, you can get a 'superclone' fake Rolex now for around £1k. The movement inside and the materials aren't as good, but if it's on your wrist it would take a watch expert getting a really good look at it to know it was fugazi.

That actually explains a lot.

Bellyblueboy · 06/10/2024 16:36

Disturbia81 · 06/10/2024 16:31

Well done for coming out of your bubble into the real world.

Everyone has different lifestyles, priorities and budgets. Everyone’s world is different. Your world isn’t the real one!!! What a silly comment.

Calliopespa · 06/10/2024 16:36

Disturbia81 · 06/10/2024 16:31

Well done for coming out of your bubble into the real world.

Oh give her a break; she’s admitting she needed a wake up.

Butnothingsclear · 06/10/2024 16:41

friendlycat · 06/10/2024 16:07

Well said.

Whilst I will acknowledge that some people don't have the best start in life and may come from a background where education and advancement is not encouraged which may then lead them into low paid work. There are others who work their way up the ladder and put in a serious amount of hard graft to get there.

There are also jobs that are not rewarded very well for the level of care and commitment given.

But up thread there was somebody arguing that a consultant surgeon should not be financially rewarded more than the hospital cleaner. Utter madness!

It’s not just about ‘a background where education and advancement is not encouraged which may then lead them into low paid work.’ There are SO many other factors that make it infinitely more difficult for some, or even impossible, to work their way out of poverty. Besides, we need those lower paid roles just as much as the higher paid roles. The lockdown showed us that. There shouldn’t be work that is so low paid that people can’t live comfortably.

Disturbia81 · 06/10/2024 17:11

@Calliopespa That's why I said well done 😆

Disturbia81 · 06/10/2024 17:12

@Bellyblueboy It's the world where most people live.

RampantIvy · 06/10/2024 17:12

Well said @Butnothingsclear

smithsgj · 06/10/2024 17:23

Disappearedwife · 04/10/2024 22:17

I’m so poor I don’t even wear a watch! :)

I just check my time on my phone

Exactly. A watch is just a thing for people too lazy to take their phone out of their pocket. That's seriously lazy

Chateauneufdu · 06/10/2024 17:24

KaleQueen · 06/10/2024 08:22

Exactly my point 🤩 or should I have said wonderfully entitled to do whatever she wants with her wads of cash including regularly buying an opera ticket for hundreds of pounds then thinking ‘ner…..I can’t be arsed to go to that’ (again) 🤩 beautiful stuff ❤️

Um ok 🤷‍♀️