I’ve had a rubbish day at work today. How was your day?

[mechanicalpencil]

Struggling at work with the end of a 48 hour migraine and the beginnings of the next one already lining up.

Migraines been much worse lately due to increased workload and peri so am struggling.

Asked for some help and support with my duties at meeting with new Manager who basically dismissed my concerns and made me feel a bit worthless…

How was your day?

Monday Monday and it all starts again!
Although trying to stand up for myself more at work..
not easy though..
How was your day?

Day was actually brightened by a stranger. . Had a bereavement recently.. One not talked about. A canny woman with her ddogs asked how I was..i said a bit rubbish actually.. She said she was sorry about that.. That lots of people have hard times but wishing me well would hopefully make me feel better... It absolutely did tbh.. Her little ddogs are lovely. Not a breed I particularly like but their little personalities shone through..

I’ve had a rubbish day too.Today was rough. My wife fell last weekend and I took her to hospital. Today I took her to have the dressings on her arm and leg checked and changed. I held her hand as she cried in pain as the nurse very gently removed the old dressings.
We need to go twice a week for this and looking at the prescription for dressings it will be for a few months.
I am nearly in tears as I write about this but I am posting it to say that no matter how bad things are they could be worse. My wife had breast cancer 12 years ago but is free from cancer now so stupid little things like a lack of balance and dementia will not beat us. I often kiss the scar where her breast used to be and say “You don’t have cancer”
Make the very best of any day.

@OldJohn

Shit meeting at end of day where manager did that toxic thing of remarking about something I’d done but to the whole team saying “can we all remember that…”
I told her that I knew it was about me and reminded her that she’d actually explicitly told me to do this thing under a week ago.
I was so pissed off afterwards, I emailed above her head and asked for clarification as our whole team were baffled.
Been job hunting tonight.

yes, same
perimenopausal brain and some overweight enlarged ankle
asked for a teeny tiny help from supervisor who made a whole meal out of it that I am always helped. Told her to ask manager am I wanted in their place because I honestly, would happily stay home tomorrow and sleep well once the kids go to school and actually take care of my joints and diet

A bit crappy, I’m an inpatient in hospital at the moment, I’m on a settling in day before my treatment starts, a bit like settling in days in reception but with fewer toys. But after about three hours of trying I finally got the wifi to work on the tablet they’ve given me.

Well done for talking to your boss, even though it wasn’t the outcome you wanted you should feel proud for taking that step. Are you on preventative medicine for your migraines?

Frantically searching for a new job due to stress, anxiety and my manager being a sneaky little fucker.

Just one job in a 45 mile radius was advertised today!! One!

I suffer from migraines as well (hemiplegic) and it’s absolutely horrendous. I had to take a year off work to get them reduced by meds!

Monday is my day off, usually a lovely peaceful day. I went and bought pumpkins for the kids.

DD's teacher pulled me aside at pick up to talk to me about ongoing bloody "friendship issues". He's fed up with trying to mediate between a load of 8 year olds. We still don't know, but suspect, who the main trouble maker is as all blame eachother. They're on their last chance before he refers them all to the head as he can't take it anymore. Why can't they all just pack it in?

@Blusterydaytodaypoohbear
That’s lovely to read. Sometimes the kindness of strangers can really make a big difference to the day someone is having.
Sorry for your loss 💐

Day 8 with my DC as inpatient in hospital (not our local). Hopefully home tomorrow 🤞
Also another baby welcomed into the family after DN gave birth a few hours ago 😊

@OldJohn
oh so sorry to read this, that was a rough day.
You sound an amazing partner. You are absolutely right, we need to remember to count our blessings each and every day.
Sending you and your wife lots of strength to get through this 💐

@Hmmmmnotconvinced
oh yes, there’s few things that my line manager relishes more than calling people out in such ways in weekly meetings…Also familiar with the “you must all do it this way” and next week the opposite…
good luck with the job hunting!

A leader I trusted threw a very difficult situation back in my face hard today. I don't think there's any going back and it makes me sad as it was a lovely place otherwise.

That was crappy of your supervisor @bringslight , sounds like you put her in her place though!

Thank you @Simonjt . It’s not easy for me to stand up for myself but I am so tired of being treated so poorly the time has come to bite the bullet in the hope that the more I do it, the easier it will become! I am on preventatives yes, but have had a lot of extra stress lately with an abundance of unavoidable triggers so unfortunately they are not having much effect and have been worse than before.
I am sorry to hear you are in hospital. How long is your stay going to be? I wish you all the best for a smooth and successful treatment! And hope the wifi is better tomorrow! 💐

@goldenmoose i feel your pain. It’s awful especially if you have a manager that does not understand 🙁　why you are complaining about “just a headache”.
Keep trying with the job hunting, something will come up!

So many unpleasant managers about.
Looking back, I can only recall one fantastic one and so many unpleasant ones.

Life can be like that sometimes! It's been taxing here too and sorry people have had or having a difficult time. Think I'm too tired to process everything at present.

Some of these messages have put my crappy day in perspective. I completely laid into my DH this morning over something minor. Dropped the f bomb in front of my DD7 and everything. We all had D&V this week, I had it first, which meant I had 2 days of feeling awful before I was everyone's nurse whilst still feeling awful. I did 5 loads of laundry this weekend, changed all the beds, bought and cooked food that noone really wanted and broke up umpteen fights between two fed up poorly children and started my period. This morning my DH failed to make sure DD10 (ASD) had her packed lunch (she barely eats school food) or her phone (walks to school so has her tracker). I told him he was an idiot, if she didn't eat it was his fault. I was feeling murderous all day. I shout like that maybe once a year. Not good.

Thanks @mechanicalpencil 🙏 I love a mechanical pencil btw

i am 40 and this is my first ever shite job. So I’m grateful for making it this far.

I think it is becoming more and more normal for employers to treat employees poorly, its such a hard one to change as it is a problem in so many work places. Not sure, the plan at the moment is two weeks, its a grippy sock holiday, so timing is up in the air really, but I don’t really see it being longer than that.

Lovely supportive thread, sorry to hear of the various trials people are going through.

Hate migraines, was just thinking happily that I’d not had any terrible ones for a while. Then BAM a vile nasty one drilling through my skull making me feel foggy, then just as I think it’s going away it gets bad again.

Day 5 today - marginally better had a cheeseburger which wasn’t a miracle cure but helped a bit…

Got an insecure manager she’s quite inconsistent (I used to do her job in a different team but she seems to want to ‘prove a point’ a lot of the time). I hope she’s not too stressed although of course it’s not my issue to solve. I work in the NHS - I’m trying to focus on one person at a time and give my best, it works some of the time. Got a couple of days off now, the upside of shift work.

This thread has made me very pleased to be self employed. My colleague is an impeccably behaved Seat Leon abd my customers are lovely young people who are learning to drive. No evil bosses! So my work day was ok, after work had to tell my friend something I knew she’d find painful, so that wasn’t pleasant.

Struggling with insane workload.

I usually get a migraine or two towards the end of the summer term when things are crazy busy trying to get ready for the new academic year.

But I had one last night, which is the first time I've ever been this stressed at the start of a new year. It's not a good sign.

@MuggleMe
D&V oh you have my sympathies 😩
I hope everyone is on the mend soon, it’s extra tough looking after others when you yourself feel rough too so i think you can definitely cut yourself some slack there!!