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I’ve had a rubbish day at work today. How was your day?

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mechanicalpencil · 04/10/2024 21:12

Struggling at work with the end of a 48 hour migraine and the beginnings of the next one already lining up.

Migraines been much worse lately due to increased workload and peri so am struggling.

Asked for some help and support with my duties at meeting with new Manager who basically dismissed my concerns and made me feel a bit worthless…

How was your day?

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mechanicalpencil · 08/10/2024 07:06

Wishing you all a better day today.

If you’re unwell or looking after ill loved ones , then an extra special big bundle of strength and good wishes 💐

If you’ve got a toxic boss or workplace , remind yourself of your own worth and hold your head high.

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Hmmmmnotconvinced · 08/10/2024 17:29

Lovely thread.
Following on from my shitty meeting yesterday, I had some boundary wins…
x5 colleagues approached me separately and said that the meeting was baffling, handled poorly, caused stress and should have been delivered by the manager who’d made the claims of poor practice (but denies this).

I emailed said manager and told her that what she’d asked our manager to say to us caused confusion and ill-feeling in our department and invited her to join our meeting next week to clarify and clear up our confusion.

She replied saying it was her fault for not communicating properly and that she will see me at some point. She came to find me and was extremely extremely slippery, changing the subject about 50 times, trying to distract me with other points but I continuously brought the conversation back to what we need her to do to make everyone feel sure that they’re doing the right thing.

She tried again and again to blame other people and suggested that people had taken this the wrong way (they hadn’t, she always gets our manager to do her dirty work for her).

I emailed her immediately after our chat to keep track of our agreed action points and hopefully now she’ll have to face us all and can’t blame anyone for the confusion.

More slippery than a politician covered in Vaseline!

I spoke to my friends and colleagues afterwards and told them that we need to really hold her to answering a question in plain terms to avoid ambiguity. We are all armed to not allow her to change the subject or play games as she always does.

This works well on three levels.
A) We will all know what we need to be doing/ not doing.
B) My lovely manager who always gets caught in the middle of our team and this other woman gets to hand it over to her.
C) Slippery lady can’t lie.

Boom Boom for boundary wins!

Don’t ever be scared to Tell the bastards to F off! It feels great and they deserve it! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

mechanicalpencil · 08/10/2024 21:15

PerkyTitan · 07/10/2024 21:39

Day 8 with my DC as inpatient in hospital (not our local). Hopefully home tomorrow 🤞
Also another baby welcomed into the family after DN gave birth a few hours ago 😊

@PerkyTitan hope your DC is home safe and sound now 💐

@DucklingSwimmingInstructress that’s tough, it’s even worse when it’s someone you trusted.

@Nomorecoconutboosts I really hope your migraine clears soon. Get a good rest and prioritise some time for yourself before your next shift.

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mechanicalpencil · 08/10/2024 21:24

@Hmmmmnotconvinced

Well Done!!! 👏 👏 👏
wow what a fruitful day!!

I think I need to take some notes because the points you described with the “slippery” manager is one of the things I am having to deal with right now and I find it so hard. I admire the way you handled this! I will try:

  • Bringing the topic back round when manager tries to go off an unrelated tangent because they don’t want to deal with the query and hope you will forget the reason you sought them out in the first place
  • emailing after for written record

Hopefully, things will be improved from now on!

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 08/10/2024 21:31

Mines been very up and down. I had an ok day at work. I've been trying to figure out what course I should be looking at to become less fireable (is that a word?). I found a couple of free online courses so looking forward to cracking on with them. But these thoughts have been running round my head for days so it was good to get some clarity and direction. Did get very frustrated with a client but my colleague felt the same which was comforting.

Then dh and I went to a meeting at DS' new school and heard some really frightening things from some of the other parents. Felt a bit shaken so went to watch DD do gymnastics and I turns out she can do stuff I didn't know she could. So that was a nice pick me up.

mechanicalpencil · 08/10/2024 21:32

Another tough day here featuring amongst other things, a blunt, somewhat rude email from a manager asking me to stop bothering them on the subject I had raised. Is there any need for it I asked myself.. especially when related to ill health and reaching out for help.

However, I was thinking of you all today as it appeared in my inbox! You all gave me strength!

A massive rainbow also appeared later in the day and it made me think of @OldJohn , make the most of each day.

Hope you all have found something in today that has spurred you on!

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mechanicalpencil · 08/10/2024 21:40

@StrictlyAFemaleFemale
A colleague was talking about free courses recently and i was surprised how much stuff is out there if you know where to look!
The school stuff sounds worrying though. Hope everything’s ok.

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daisychain01 · 08/10/2024 22:06

DucklingSwimmingInstructress · 07/10/2024 21:55

A leader I trusted threw a very difficult situation back in my face hard today. I don't think there's any going back and it makes me sad as it was a lovely place otherwise.

Ouch, that sounds brutal. People like that don't deserve to be in a position of leadership.

goldenmoose · 08/10/2024 22:30

well my day was the worst day of my working life so far! Quite a few jobs have been cut.

Mine is “not currently at risk” due a large project but could be “reviewed thereafter”

AhBiscuits · 08/10/2024 22:35

A woman I supervise is approaching the end of her probation and we're going to need to fire her. Pulled her up on so many mistakes today, mistakes I wouldn't expect someone to make after their first couple of weeks let alone 5 months. No amount of training seems to help. I don't think there's any other option.

DoggoQuestions · 08/10/2024 23:43

We had no internet at work today and it was wonderful!

daisychain01 · 12/10/2024 18:35

Our work network is decidedly flakey and unreliable. It stresses me out no end, especially if I've got a diary full of meetings that I can't run. I end up having to drive home and Im so behind I have to work extra to catch up. It should be nice and relaxing but I wish! It just winds me up - I can't stand wasting time.

daisychain01 · 12/10/2024 18:44

That's stressful @goldenmoose can you update your CV and put the feelers out, if nothing else to reassure yourself that your skills and talents are needed elsewhere. At least your employer has been honest, but it can feel destabilising all the same.

OldJohn · 12/10/2024 18:50

AhBiscuits · 08/10/2024 22:35

A woman I supervise is approaching the end of her probation and we're going to need to fire her. Pulled her up on so many mistakes today, mistakes I wouldn't expect someone to make after their first couple of weeks let alone 5 months. No amount of training seems to help. I don't think there's any other option.

That is exactly why we have probation. If someone can't do the work they fail their probation. If the manager and HR are good they will give some advice about more suitable jobs.

mechanicalpencil · 18/10/2024 21:26

Good evening everyone,
Another unpleasant meeting with management today. Left feeling sick with that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach.
I tried to stand up for myself again… but it’s hard! It feels like being back at school dealing with the bullies…
I will keep working on it.
On a positive note, enjoyed lovely evening meal that DH cooked.

How was your day?

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