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Regular Reins for Older Kid?

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BakerBop · 04/10/2024 05:25

I'm looking for some new reins for my daughter. She's 5 minutes from hers not buckling up anymore but I don't want the vest/bib ones like most I've found for older kids. I just want normal ones in a bigger size. And they need the short clip-on straps as well as the walking strap. Anyone have recommendations? Thx.

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Eccentricthesnowman · 04/10/2024 05:28

Sorry no help to you regarding bigger reins but Have you tried a wrist strap? I found this a good bridge between the usual reins and hand holding

chicken2015 · 04/10/2024 05:44

We use these for our 7 year old daughter who is autistic, non verbal and has significant learning disability. And they are really good, not cheap but definitely worth it for safety. I wasn't sure how old ur daughter is or if it was for speical needs, but these also do smaller version for up to 7

Regular Reins for Older Kid?
chicken2015 · 04/10/2024 05:46

I've just seen u don't want vest /bib I don't know if these are suitable but it's what we use and they are for safety so best ones for us.

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Lem0nie · 04/10/2024 05:59

littlepeoplebig_adventures on Instagram has some for her son. I’m sure if you message her she’ll let you know where she got them from 😊

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BakerBop · 04/10/2024 12:52

Eccentricthesnowman · 04/10/2024 05:28

Sorry no help to you regarding bigger reins but Have you tried a wrist strap? I found this a good bridge between the usual reins and hand holding

Thx but I don't like the wrist strap idea. I'm looking to keep the regular reins as I think they're safer (and more comfortable).

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BakerBop · 04/10/2024 13:01

chicken2015 · 04/10/2024 05:44

We use these for our 7 year old daughter who is autistic, non verbal and has significant learning disability. And they are really good, not cheap but definitely worth it for safety. I wasn't sure how old ur daughter is or if it was for speical needs, but these also do smaller version for up to 7

Thx. She's 9 and it's not for any special needs. I looked at those ones but it's not only that they're the vest/bib design but they don't have the short clip-on straps either. Thx anyway.

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BakerBop · 04/10/2024 13:05

Lem0nie · 04/10/2024 05:59

littlepeoplebig_adventures on Instagram has some for her son. I’m sure if you message her she’ll let you know where she got them from 😊

I'm not on social media, but I'll try to find an email to message her. Thx!

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BakerBop · 04/10/2024 16:24

Lem0nie · 04/10/2024 05:59

littlepeoplebig_adventures on Instagram has some for her son. I’m sure if you message her she’ll let you know where she got them from 😊

I can't find her Instagram (most likely because I'm not on Instagram!) but thx anyway. I'll keep searching.

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User364837 · 04/10/2024 16:27

Ok… I’ll bite 😆
What are you concerned will happen if she doesn’t have reins on?

NewUser1111 · 04/10/2024 16:29

I’m so intrigued. Why do you want reins for your 9yo who doesn’t have any SEN? Not trying to be goady- genuinely interested

arthar · 04/10/2024 16:32

She's 9 and it's not for any special needs

There is a reason regular reins are not made for this age group...

MumChp · 04/10/2024 16:33

BakerBop · 04/10/2024 13:01

Thx. She's 9 and it's not for any special needs. I looked at those ones but it's not only that they're the vest/bib design but they don't have the short clip-on straps either. Thx anyway.

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9 yo? No SEN?

But why?!

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BakerBop · 04/10/2024 16:51

For those asking, she's always had them. I tried her going without them a few times years ago, but she wandered or rushed on ahead without asking. Constantly raising my voice wasn't the way to go and the extra safety of the reins avoids all that. I know most kids stop using them at 4 or 5, but safety is safety and having them on is completely normal for her.

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GrazingLamb · 04/10/2024 16:53

You have to stop. It’s completely absurd that a 9 year old uses reins.

MumChp · 04/10/2024 16:55

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BakerBop · 07/10/2024 17:01

I was also thinking there might be somewhere that makes reins? If I really can't find any regular reins in a bigger size, then that might be an option too. Does anyone know somewhere that makes reins? Thx.

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DeireadhFomhair · 07/10/2024 17:14

A few years ago she was a lot younger!! (obviously). I agree with PPs, this is completely inappropriate for a 9 year old - whatever about a 4/5 year old.

MN deleted this thread originally, I'm very interested to know why it's been reinstated.

@BakerBop you don't seem to be taking any of the comments on board that this is inappropriate for a 9 year old. Why?

Just to add... how do you ever expect her to learn if she's still in reins heading into double digits?
What other adults are in her life? Do they also use reins?

SophiaJ8 · 07/10/2024 17:22

This is insane. I hope someone in your child’s life phones social services (if this is even true)

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BakerBop · 07/10/2024 17:31

DeireadhFomhair · 07/10/2024 17:14

A few years ago she was a lot younger!! (obviously). I agree with PPs, this is completely inappropriate for a 9 year old - whatever about a 4/5 year old.

MN deleted this thread originally, I'm very interested to know why it's been reinstated.

@BakerBop you don't seem to be taking any of the comments on board that this is inappropriate for a 9 year old. Why?

Just to add... how do you ever expect her to learn if she's still in reins heading into double digits?
What other adults are in her life? Do they also use reins?

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Thanks. I spoke with the Mumsnet staff and provided them details about why I am asking for help and they were really helpful.

I am only looking for recommendations a specific product. Please don't take this as rude but if it appears that I am not "taking any of the comments on board that this is inappropriate" it is because I am not, it isn't, and I did not post here to get those sorts of comments. I know what it is safest and best for my daughter, and all the other adults in her life totally understand and know why reins work best for her.

If anyone has any recommendations for regular reins in a bigger size, or where I can get some made if none are available, I would be very grateful.

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chicken2015 · 07/10/2024 18:23

I would suggest that if she is not safe just walking along side you at 9, then u definitely do have a child with special needs , ur just not aware or in denial. No child who doesn't have a speical need would need reins , it's also interesting u don't want the vest type , I would assume becuase u don't want it to stand out. Well the one I suggested is the way for safety and it is fine for my 7 year old. U won't find what ur looking for because it is not on the market. Because Restraining a child at 9 would be considered abusive , if it wasnt for an extra need. Reins for a child with speical needs are on market because there is a need.

FortunataTagnips · 07/10/2024 18:41

I just don’t believe that a 9-year-old without severe special needs would even agree to wear reins. How humiliating!

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BakerBop · 07/10/2024 18:56

chicken2015 · 07/10/2024 18:23

I would suggest that if she is not safe just walking along side you at 9, then u definitely do have a child with special needs , ur just not aware or in denial. No child who doesn't have a speical need would need reins , it's also interesting u don't want the vest type , I would assume becuase u don't want it to stand out. Well the one I suggested is the way for safety and it is fine for my 7 year old. U won't find what ur looking for because it is not on the market. Because Restraining a child at 9 would be considered abusive , if it wasnt for an extra need. Reins for a child with speical needs are on market because there is a need.

Thanks for the suggestion. The problem with the vest type designs isn't that they stand out (though you're right they do), it's just that they're too involved. They'll be much warmer for her to have her on, they have two buckles not one, the handle at the front isn't needed, and the one at the back isn't only unneeded but would be uncomfortable to lean back on when sitting down. I'm just looking for something simpler. Thanks though!

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arthar · 07/10/2024 18:59

I'm really surprised MN had put this thread back up, they must know people are going to question it and OP isn't willing to explain. It seems quite goady (the thread, not MN) and strange of them to support it.

chicken2015 · 07/10/2024 19:03

BakerBop · 07/10/2024 18:56

Thanks for the suggestion. The problem with the vest type designs isn't that they stand out (though you're right they do), it's just that they're too involved. They'll be much warmer for her to have her on, they have two buckles not one, the handle at the front isn't needed, and the one at the back isn't only unneeded but would be uncomfortable to lean back on when sitting down. I'm just looking for something simpler. Thanks though!

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I would be intrested in what ur daughters school think of u using reins as I'm assuming she is in mainstream and they wouldn't use reins.

I'll be completely honest I wish I hadn't suggested something. I don't enjoy putting reins in my nearly 8 year old. I would love her to walk freely, she is non verbal autistic with significant learning disability. My 5 year old will run off occasionally and I wouldn't dream of putting her in reins! Ur restraining your child. It should not be done unless extremely nessasery. I think if u wouldn't tell her school u do it. Then I would suggest its abusive. And you need to find another way.

chicken2015 · 07/10/2024 19:05

It makes me feel extremely uncomfortable that I have suggested something that could be potentially abusive.