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Is this worth a police report or will it go nowhere?

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Reportornotreport · 30/09/2024 14:15

All 13yo girls.

My dd had a year off school a couple of years back, she's been diagnosed with multiple disabilities and that was a very difficult period of time.

She had 2 friends (hard for dd to maintain friendships) in primary school, however when they saw her getting 'special' treatment in school they turned on her.

This has continued into secondary school.

Dd has been subject to a fair bit of bullying by these two, they spread rumours that dd is faking her disabilities, and they told people how to trigger her disability as well.

The school has been brilliant actually, and put a stop to the in school bullying, one of the girls moved school.

The other one put a photo of my dd online saying that she's lying about her disabilities.

My dd can't have her photo online, I contacted the school, and her dad, her dad was great, took the photo down immediatly and apologised and the school also had words about bulling again.

Now dd has gone from an hour of school a day to half days, it's massive for her, but the girl remaining at the school is being awful again.

I was then scrolling online and see a new account describing an incident of being so scared because (daughters name) followed her home and she had to call someone for help.

Dd isn't physically or mentally capable of following anyone or intimidating them, I know where she is every second of every day, this is just a blatant lie.

I emailed the school to et them know this is starting again, and they are taking it seriously, however they advised that I contact the police.

Obviously this is bullying and lying, but I can't see how its illegal?

I would 100% contact them if there were threats or anything, but I don't want to stress dd out with making reports that will just go nowhere.

Is it worth a report or not?

This whole thing is so difficult, dd needs certain things so she can attend school.and these girls saw that and got jealous, not thinking that there are days dd can't move, the pain she is in, the toll it's taken on her mental health, the dozens of meds and awful side effects she's been through and everything she's missed out on. I could cry for my amazing daughter, she doesn't deserve this.

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nootcoffee · 04/10/2024 15:17

it’s a tragedy that your daughter will be so
limited in opportunities if she continues to miss out on so much education. What chance will she possibly have for passing her GCSEs. How does she spend her days at home when not at school? and presumably all this impacts your job too?

Reportornotreport · 04/10/2024 15:23

ValleyClouds · 04/10/2024 15:16

I don't have advice only empathy because this was me 25 years ago and the school didn't do enough.

Your school sounds good at least I would follow their advice Flowers

I'm so sorry you didn't deserve any of it, and the school absolutely failed you 💐

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ValleyClouds · 04/10/2024 15:28

Thank You OP, I would maybe make a record of every incident going forward in case police are going to get involved Flowers

Reportornotreport · 04/10/2024 15:29

nootcoffee · 04/10/2024 15:17

it’s a tragedy that your daughter will be so
limited in opportunities if she continues to miss out on so much education. What chance will she possibly have for passing her GCSEs. How does she spend her days at home when not at school? and presumably all this impacts your job too?

I home school her when she is here, the school have been great with helping me. She isn't doing many subjects, but is absolutely on track for 4 of them at least.

I had to give up my job when dd was diagnosed so living on next to nothing as a carer currently, but I'm doing an online degree so I'm ready to go back when dd gets the right meds and her health stuff settles.

The future scares me for her, but she is very talented in many ways, and she has already had some interest in her artwork, and has tens of thousands of followers online for another hobby she has (she isn't identifiable at all, no-one would know it was her) so she will hopefully have opportunities in future.

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