Is this worth a police report or will it go nowhere?

[Reportornotreport]

All 13yo girls.

My dd had a year off school a couple of years back, she's been diagnosed with multiple disabilities and that was a very difficult period of time.

She had 2 friends (hard for dd to maintain friendships) in primary school, however when they saw her getting 'special' treatment in school they turned on her.

This has continued into secondary school.

Dd has been subject to a fair bit of bullying by these two, they spread rumours that dd is faking her disabilities, and they told people how to trigger her disability as well.

The school has been brilliant actually, and put a stop to the in school bullying, one of the girls moved school.

The other one put a photo of my dd online saying that she's lying about her disabilities.

My dd can't have her photo online, I contacted the school, and her dad, her dad was great, took the photo down immediatly and apologised and the school also had words about bulling again.

Now dd has gone from an hour of school a day to half days, it's massive for her, but the girl remaining at the school is being awful again.

I was then scrolling online and see a new account describing an incident of being so scared because (daughters name) followed her home and she had to call someone for help.

Dd isn't physically or mentally capable of following anyone or intimidating them, I know where she is every second of every day, this is just a blatant lie.

I emailed the school to et them know this is starting again, and they are taking it seriously, however they advised that I contact the police.

Obviously this is bullying and lying, but I can't see how its illegal?

I would 100% contact them if there were threats or anything, but I don't want to stress dd out with making reports that will just go nowhere.

Is it worth a report or not?

This whole thing is so difficult, dd needs certain things so she can attend school.and these girls saw that and got jealous, not thinking that there are days dd can't move, the pain she is in, the toll it's taken on her mental health, the dozens of meds and awful side effects she's been through and everything she's missed out on. I could cry for my amazing daughter, she doesn't deserve this.

I messaged the dad, however he hasn't responded, he was my first port of call, maybe he's changed his number or something, because I really couldn't fault him last time.

It's breaking my heart that this girl is jealous that my lovely dd goes to part time school when she would love to be full time, and she can use the lift, when she would give anything to be able to run upstairs, or that she goes to learning support when the class gets too loud when she would love to join in and just be a teenager. She absolutely wouldn't love everything my dd has to deal with to get the measures in place so she can attend school.

That's why I would report it, hopefully a visit from the police would scare the little shit enough to stop and make her parents realise how bad she is (they may be a bit oblivious) and come down hard.on her.

I'm sure there are laws around online bullying, usually talked about when teenagers sadly take their own lives due to online harassment & bullying

I'm so sorry your daughter is going through this, it's awful

Well myself and one other makes it more than one... Your tone is very brusque... Perhaps you could chill??

I'm curious, have you talked to this girls parents? If the school are dealing with bullying complaints I can only assume they have talked to them numerous times. It might be worth telling them it's been escalated and the police are becoming involved. Just to give them a heads up if they are neighbours or friends of friends. That girls sounds really nasty and disturbed. Your poor DD

Get the crime number, the police school liaison officer can then go in and talk to the girl if it comes from a police officer then it may actually hit home that what she is doing is not ok.

Students are familiar with the school officer who will run assemblies on drugs, firework safety and similar public service topics as well with talk to students skirting on the edge of the law outside of school.

my tone is brusque

i asked a question

you assumed a tone when it was just words on a page

added to which, OP hasn’t mentioned once and that is who i care about on this thread!

I have messaged the dad but had no reply this time round, which is odd because he was great last time.

I've filled in an online report and I think they will call me back at some point tonight hopefully.

I just want this to stop. My poor dd struggles enough as it is she doesn't need this on top.

Thanks all.

very unlikely he’s changed his number

perhaps wants to have a sit down and proper chat with daughter first and then get back to you

but if he was good last time, be optimistic

Its been 3 days now so I'm not really sure why he hasn't been in touch, but the school have dealt with what they can, and I've put in a report online now, and it's been made private now, not taken down, but better than nothing.

All these girls have to do is nothing, dd goes nowhere and bothers no-one, she isn't being a pain or begging to be friends so they have no reason for this, they could simply pretend she doesn't exist and go about their day.

Did you get screen shots before it was made private @Reportornotreport

Yes I have screenshots and recordings of both the online things from this girl. I've also got all the school emails from what they have said about it over the last few years.

Call the police as school have advised, it's malicious communications and a criminal offence. At 13 she's over the age of criminal responsibility and clearly needs a shake up that a visit from a police officer will give her. What a cow.

I'm honesty biting my tongue from what I want to say about these girls, there's no need at all.

Who sees someone struggling and decides to go and make things worse. How bloody evil do you have to be. They are both only kids with loving, good, stable families, so it's not like they are neglected and lashing out or anything. They have been doted on.

Just waiting for the police to get in touch now, hopefully I can send them the evidence, they can have a word and scare the girl a bit and dd won't need to be involved, I feel this would be a massive set back for her and she's literally just started with longer school hours.

did the police get in touch?

Cyber bullying is illegal and using someone’s disability to target them (especially repeatedly) is a hate crime. I think you have quite a bit of illegal activity to use against this horrid young woman.

Yes they did, they have made an appointment for next week when there's no school here so she's relaxed so she can give a statement, they are waiting for a particular officer as well who is very experienced interviewing kids like my dd.

They said at a minimum they can do a welfare check with this girl to see that everything is OK at her home and give her a telling off basically.

Potentially she could be charged, but they need to see the evidence and get information from the school records first.

They are putting dds comfort above everything so it will take a week or two to all get resolved with the police, but the school have been amazing.

Yes, hopefully they’ll do something that shows her it really is unacceptable and scares her into stopping.

Potentially she could be charged,

what could this 12 year old be charged with did they say?

She's 13, maybe 14 by now.

They didn't say as they haven't interviewed dd or seen the evidence yet.

I was discussing the best course of action with the least impact on my dd so they went through all the outcomes of starting this and what they would mean in terms of dd having to have an input.

but you have reported her for claiming that your daughter followed her

surely she could just say.. i believed it was but it would seem mistaken identity?

As well as putting my daughters photo online and claiming that she is lying about her disabilities, plus incidents at school involving dds disability.

She has used my dds name, and dd was with me, near our house, which the girl is aware of.

If it goes nowhere then fair enough, but its at the point that the school advised police involvement, saying that this girl is causing deliberate distress and is harassing my dd due to the measures she has in place for her disability.

I'm hoping the police will just give her a fright so she leaves my dd alone. I don't want any extra stress, but this girl cannot keep doing this when my dd is just trying to live her life.

oh i thought that had been addressed and the police report was specifically about the claim your daughter was following this girl

has your daughter been to school since the incident?

I wouldn't have went to the police over the last incident as it was dealt with by the school and her parents. The school were great this time, but her parent hasn't contacted me back after I messaged this time.

I've added it into this report as background because dd is now being harassed.

Dd did go in on one day, but she had a panic attack and was sent home (this girl was glaring, staring and pointing at dd) , she's been having seizures all week now due to the stress and has been unable to go in.

Its the holidays here now so I'm hoping a couple of weeks at home will calm her down.

I don't have advice only empathy because this was me 25 years ago and the school didn't do enough.

Your school sounds good at least I would follow their advice