The rules from your childhood home are now the rules of your current home , what are the new rules?

[OliveCrab]

Bed for 10pm
Walk most places

In bed for 7pm
Eat everything on your plate (regardless of appetite or liking it)
Talking back was beyond the pale and even my super lovely grandparents would punish me for that!
Fairly typical 70's upbringing with respect to rules and discipline. I was expected to do as I was told and not to be cheeky.

rules that transferred to my house

meals eaten at the table
all eat same meals
big clean weekly with bleach
weekly big shop
Tv Remote control stays on side table to not get lost
no coffee after 12pm
no tv during dinner
always be nice to people

things that went
daily hoover
iron everything
keep things for best, meaning never used
Christmas formalities
windows and doors open for an hour each day every day to air
smoking in the house
not allowed to wear black underwear

My own rules around bedtime and food are completely different, but I do expect a reasonable degree of compliance and respect.
I have more rules around things like not taking food and drinks upstairs though.

I don't know if this was an actual rule or something I'd misunderstood but I thought I was only allowed to wash my half every third day.
Really my hair needed washing every other day and sometimes I'd wash it in the sink in my room to get around the rule (that possibly never was).

Rules for us kids:
No playing outside on a Sunday morning
Respect your elders
Little boys and girls should be seen but not heard (not all the time!)
Loads of rules about table manners (no elbows, no "smacking" of lips or talking with mouth full, use fork the right way up, don't leave the table without asking)

Also rules for mothers:
Don't overspend the housekeeping money (imposed by Dad)
Increase accent by at least one social class when speaking on telephone (self-imposed by Mum)

All in the 1960s.

Crap, I'm not getting paid this week as I haven't tidied my bedroom!

No going to the toilet once you were put to bed. Just lie there desperate all night then get told off for wetting the bed. Also no flushing of the toilet after bedtime.

Oh and no walking through the living room when dad’s watching TV. Even though you need to go through it to get to the kitchen and garden.

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g . Are you my sister

I wish i could have established 2 sensible rules that we had in my childhood home - turn lights off and close doors!!!!

My kids and DH all hopeless but it has stuck with me. I hate doors open and all the heat wafting out.

Slippers on in the house. No outdoor shoes on indoors - that is successful

No swearing would be the main difference! And enforcement of rules would be a clip around the ear rather than losing phone and screen time.

You knock before entering someone’s bedroom. It doesn’t matter whether they’re an adult or a child, everyone is given that courtesy. When my step-kids started staying, it took ages to get them to remember that rule. At their house there’s literally no privacy but not in my home. You knock and wait to be invited.

There weren't many rules when I was growing up. I was allowed to drink and smoke as a teenager, not much enthusiasm for homework, not given much self esteem.

My DC had more rules and boundaries and a lot more love. It explains why they keep visiting.

No phone calls made until after 6.
No eating or drinks upstairs.
No laying on the sofa.
pyjamas for in bed only, not around the house.

I don't clean nearly as much or often as my mother. To be fair we lived in a small apartment in Central Europe and she had a fairly relaxed office job and I have a much bigger house with a garden and a bigger job.

Also my children have to do some chores. I didn't have to do any, my only job was to study.
I was extremely sheltered but in the end I did fine.

The rules I did transfer are: cooking daily, even if it's a quick simple meal; never buy biscuits - home baking if available or a square of good chocolate.
Also always open house to children's friends. They can come any time, stay for dinner, hang out.
My mother and father were always really welcome to my friends, even when we had very little in tough times they would share with our friends, it was a lovely safe home. I hope mine feels like that too.

• Do as I say, not as I do
• Cook, clean and wash for yourself
• Take your mum upstairs to make sure she doesn't fall down drunk
• Ignore your dad and stay away unless you want a mouthful of abuse.

Nothing at all. Same as in my house actually. The expectation is you treat everyone with respect, and take personal responsibility.

Works fine. Trust your kids and let them trust you.

God this is one of those things that will make me realise how weird my childhood was isn't it? Then again everyone's family's are weird right?

1. Must wear shoes AT ÀLL TIMES unless actually in bed.

1. When be in asked if you are telling the truth you must put your hand on your heart and 'swear to god'

1. No getting any food or drink without asking. Even as a teenager.

1. If something touches the floor it must then be washed. Eg you get a towel and drop it briefly. That needs re washed and you need a new one and you get shouted at

1. No choosing what's on the TV 85% of the time. Adults only. This sounds mad but I genuinely have missed so many things from my childhood that other people watched on tv etc. Missed a lot of generational references.

1. No food anywhere but eaten at the dining room table.

1. Don't cry

1. Don't tell anyone eg friends about anything to do with our family

Oh and another

• never ever ever ever bring a friend home without it being pre organised and agreed weeks in advance.

This is so different to my kid's childhoods because I hated it so much!

Never eat between meals
Never refer to adults by their christian names.
Always at my mother’s beck and call, fetching and carrying
do not raise your voice, ever, and do not cry either
sanitary towels to be torn into little pieces and flushed away, bit by bit
I wasn’t allowed to sit on the sitting room furniture. I had to sit on the floor.
sent to Sunday School until at least 12 when the other children there were no older than 6 or 7

stay at the table until everyone has finished eating, and no, dont look at your watch or out of the window

phone calls after 6 also.
home by 10 or 9.30