The rules from your childhood home are now the rules of your current home , what are the new rules?

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Bed for 10pm
Walk most places

Don't read at the table

No TV in any other room than the lounge.
Only one pack of sweets per week from my pocket money.

All meals together at the table (unless at an organised activity like swimming club).
Up for 8am latest.

They pretty much are the same.

I can’t really think of any that are new in my house compared to my childhood home. Everyone eats the same meal together in the evening, everybody helps out with housework, nobody tells anybody to fuck off. That’s it really!

Max 2 hours television a day

No TV on a Sunday until there was something on the parents wanted to watch.
No milk bottles on the table.

The child does all of the washing up, cleaning the kitchen and ironing from age 10.
You don't leave the table until you've eaten everything.
The adults can smoke in whatever room they want, including your bedroom.
If you do something wrong you'll be hit.
No boyfriends- at all, ever.

No using the phone before 6pm (I think it was 6pm wasn't it?). Children not allowed in the lounge without knocking if adults watching tv. No ITV!

I’m sorry if these were the rules of your childhood. You’re not saying you’ve kept them, are you?

Only bbc on tv and tv only in the evening
no drinks with meals, only tea after eating
big lights on all the time
dont use your asthma pump because you will get too used to it

The only rule that we really had when we were growing up was to be considerate and respectful towards other people. That's pretty much the same as what we did with our dd.

On pain of death*, nothing hot or wet to be placed directly on the French polished dining table. The special custom-made mats it came with always to be in position under the tablecloth at mealtimes.

As soon as food or drink is consumed, the crockery, cutlery, glasses, mugs etc must be whipped away into the kitchen, washed up, dried and put away. Leaving things to drain is slatternly. Dishwashers are unnecessary.

Every single thing that goes through the washing machine must be ironed, with the possible exception of socks.

*Not exaggerating all that much.

Yes don’t use the phone before 6pm! No long phone calls if dad’s on call as the phone has to be free.
5 hours a week of telly to be marked out in the Radio Times.
sweets on Saturday after supper.
don’t run a bath deeper than the mark on the bath chain.

Everyone must go to church on Sundays.

Nice fruit (like grapes, kiwis etc) are only for adults.
Disagreeing means a hard smack round the head.
Bedtime by 2100.
Listening to sex noises from the adults is expected every other night
the only snack is non-nice fruit (apples or pears) or custard creams if you are lucky.

This reminds me of some more rules. All milk goes in a jug. Butter, margarine, jam and marmalade are all decanted to special dishes or plates. The carefully designed packaging that keeps them fresh and looks attractive is not good enough to go on the table.

No sitting on the beds. Bedroom doors to be closed in the daytime. No using of upstairs rooms in the daytime. No going in parents' bedroom without permission. Seriously, I remember going into my parents' bedroom to get a coat or something once when Mum was out and feeling like a thief.
I did once water down her favourite hand cream "to make it go further" because that's what she did with ketchup, etc. She wasn't pleased!

My husband’s family had a rule that they couldn’t eat the Christmas tree chocolates until the tree came down in the new year. He hated the rule growing up and yet he inflicts the same rule on our children. When he’s not about I always give the DC a sneaky chocolate.

No pyjamas unless you are very ill or going to bed.

No using phone without permission - and no calls after 8pm.

No going out without asking permission and long explanation why needed even in 20s - ( I like to be told but don't expect to say no to them and going for a walk is fine)

No being in pj past breakfast unless really ill then likely will be in bed.

No using bathroom outside your allotted morning time.

We didn’t really have any rules as a child! So it would be more like different habits.

You can keep your shoes on anywhere in the house
We will eat in front of the TV most days and everyone will eat separately when they come in from school/ work, it’s fine to eat in the front room
You can’t practice the piano if anyone is watching TV because they are in the same room
Its fine to go wandering off and play up to half a mile away by the age of seven,in the woods, or by the stream, just make sure you take your younger sibling with you and be back for dinner/ tea.

Most other things we do the same.

I was responsible for the family washing and ironing for five people from the age of 13. Washing on Saturday in the twin tub, washing hung out to dry or put on clothes horses in the house if it was raining. All items to be ironed were rolled up before fully dry. On Sunday I did the ironing with an electric flat iron (not a steam iron). I would sprinkle water on the clothes if they were too dry. I also used to cook the dinner and wash up.

No shoes on in house, slippers

If parents went to bed early, so do you

Parents chose what to watch on tv, you had no say in the matter

Meals were decided by stepmother, you ate it or got nothing

No pjs or dressing gowns downstairs - you remained properly dressed until you went to bed

Not allowed to watch ITV or have chewing gum - both 'common' apparently!