Come & share your mansplaining stories here!

[TheStroppyFeminist]

Yesterday a male colleague told me that adding an extra column to my document would make it better.

a) It didn't and b) I've been hiring people since way before he was born so he can FTFO

What have you had mansplained to you recently?

Remembered another one involving the ex. After a huge show of how much housework he did (not very well but I was still at the stage of being wowed that a man could work a washing machine unaided) he proceeded to tell me he had been looking forward to mopping my hallway. Puzzled I asked why. He rushed to show me where I had "clearly mopped AGAINST the grain of the wood" - to which I explained annoyingly the decorators had simply varnished that bit against the grain, which also annoyed me, but it was the varnish not me. He actually rolled his eyes at me and insisted I was wrong before getting the mop out. Half an hour of mopping said spot later (I shit you not, less than 1m sq - he really tried to take the varnish off bless him) he finally admitted I may have had a point. No apology, of course.

We carry a small silver tray at the hotel bar/restaurant I work at and this man stopped me at the bar while I was placing a few drinks on the tray and told me to place the drinks all on one side, close to my body. He was talking down to me, mansplaining and sniggered at me when I said I'm used to doing it this way. He was with a few mates so I'm assuming was trying to impress them by sniggering. I've worked in hospitality for 20 years and know how to stack a tray to balance it out. He then ordered his drinks with the barman and helped himself to a tray to carry his drink into the next room. (The hotel has quite a few rooms with tables but the bar is in the restaurant part) The barman offered to help but the man declined. He ended up spilling some of his drinks when he tried to place them on the table. I wished I was in the room to see it. 😂

I had this same conversation with mine at 35wks!!! 😂 good luck with yours I have 1wk left before he comes now!!

DH telling me that his “methods of teaching” are more effective than mine when helping DS(7) with his maths homework. His method involves becoming impatient with DS and giving him the answers. Mine involves modelling and questioning. I’m a teacher. DH is not.

I was on the tram on my to a big protest for women's rights where I live a few years ago. Had a t-shirt on that made it obvs where I was headed. A man asked me if I was going there, then proceeded to mansplain how it would be better if all the women just stayed at home to protest so that the march wouldn't disrupt public transport and inconvenience people 🤦‍♀️

When complaining oil was dripping from my brand new car i was told it was water from the air con. Hadn't used the air con. It took four times for them to admit it was actually oil. Needed a new gearbox

My FIL-

• telling me I drove the wrong way into work (he didn't know the location of my workplace or the route I took).
• telling me what was in the teen magazines I read when I was a girl, long before I met his son
• telling me what was happening in tv programmes that I was actually watching.

He was an arrogant arse and I got the impression he thought I was argumentative, but my dad would never have spoken to a woman like that so my FIL certainly wasn't going to get away with it! Luckily, his son is nothing like him at all.

I haven't been through the entire thread yet but I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to.

My sister is 53, I'm 50. Her boyfriend tried to mansplain the menopause to 2 perimenopausal women!

Twat!

Several years ago I went into a Jaguar car dealers with DH. The car was for my main use (for business use), being funded by my job.This was explained to the salesman (who didn't listen obviously). We only went into there because himself likes Jags, I don't particularly but thought we could have a look anyway, just in case they managed to convince me. The salesman proceeded to talk directly to DH, only pausing to show me the parking sensors and other driving aids on the one he pointed out was a "really easy to drive and a pretty colour" and which would "make it easier for me to manage" Cue our exit after telling him I drove between 30 and 35 thousand miles a year and was quite capable of driving AND parking a car! DH saying "thanks mate, I'll never get a Jag now" 😂.

I got a Volvo instead, they didn't talk to me as if I was a child!
Other manufacturers obviously available.......

We are being evicted for the new landlord to sell up. When the estate agent came to meet us I asked about ways to market ourselves for a new place to rent and said should I say how much rent we pay. His snotty and pompous reply "No, they'll think you can't afford the rent". Nice one.

@PanicAttax Reminds me of a relative of mine. He decided he wanted whipped cream with a pudding we were having, but I told him I only had single cream in the fridge. Despite me telling him that it wouldn't work, he tried and tried to whisk it, first with a balloon whisk, then with an electric whisk. He must have spent 20 minutes before muttering something about a bad batch of cream. No apology to the woman who had been successfully whipping cream for years!

A fellow board member, who works as a maintenance supervisor, lectured me, an infectious diseases consultant who does research on flu, about the flu vaccine. Needless to say his understanding was elementary at best but that did not stop him pontificating.

I fly aeroplanes for a living and navigate/read maps for a hobby. I have been mansplained to more times than you can possibly imagine. The number of men who have watched all the episodes of Air Crash Investigation who want to tell me how a particular part of my aircraft works is mind boggling. However, get out into the wild with a map and a compass and it is as though every random passing man feels the need to give either directions, or tips on how to read a map.

I was on a training course one time with my team mates. We were preparing for an international competition and made up most of the British team. All of us, bar one, female. The instructor was male, he mainly teaches men (he teaches a lot of military types to navigate up on the moors) and he was gobsmacked at the number of men who stopped to show us where we were on our maps - even more surprising to him was that when he was walking with us with his man out, random men did not stop to help us. Because of course women with a map must be lost. 🙄

I received a message at work from a director sending me an external best practice guidance document for my profession. They said it's what we should be applying here and that I could learn from it, etc. I told him that not only were we already doing those practices and more, but that I was the author!

I wish you’d asked him: “would that be box pleats or knife pleats?”

My FIL mansplained karate to me as he got to yellow belt (belt number 4, so a very low grade) 30 years ago whilst I was stood there in my gi with my black belt on. I have 3 black belts in karate and literally own a karate club teaching 30+ students but no apparently I was wrong in my understanding.

My ex tried to give me tips on breast feeding our newborn. At the time he had watched a couple of videos about it, whereas I was actually doing it (successfully) every 1-2 hours day and night.

My Dad’s was ‘I know you won’t listen to me but ……………….’ 😂

Probably had a point then....

Ages ago now but male colleague tried to tell me that doing some exercise would sort out my pregnancy spd pain. Also tried to mansplain what I must do in labour and how to breastfeed. Another time was asked if I wanted to check with my husband first when cancelling car insurance which had gone up.

Mansplaining how bad eVs are compared to ICE vehicles when he wasn't comparing apples with apples - like exploring oil has zero impacts - and I have >34 yrs exp in env management and 20 odd years in carbon assessment.

Women at least ask questions!

I am lucky enough to be slightly acquainted with the absolutely awesome Kate Prior, and she really is as amazing as that post would make you think. She has definitely earned every one of those medals.

OMG! Laughing and cringing with equal measure……same experience as an earlier post, wanted kitchen upgrade so contacted a well known company who kept insisting they had to speak to the decision maker and was “he” available before they would even make an appointment. Kept saying it is my kitchen and although I am married that I was the decision maker. Finally managed to get them to come and give me a quote, for context I was also having new curtains fitted so they were within earshot of the meeting, he kept insisting he had to discuss finances with the decision maker and basically what a waste of his time this was as my husband wasn’t there. My curtains fitters who both happened to be women were horrified at how he spoke to me! Seems he forgot to consider that it was my money paying for new kitchen………was waiting for the company to call back to ask what I thought of the quote and did I want to go ahead as that would have given me the pleasure of telling them exactly what I thought. Unfortunately they never did, incidentally the quote was nearly double what a lovely local company had given me so went with them. All of the fitters for new kitchen were men who didn’t have a problem doing business with a woman. Very pleased with my new doors, oven hob etc now FYI but that meeting still makes me angry…….

Me too and it's all bollocks. I just zone out tbh because what do they know?

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