Come & share your mansplaining stories here!

[TheStroppyFeminist]

Yesterday a male colleague told me that adding an extra column to my document would make it better.

a) It didn't and b) I've been hiring people since way before he was born so he can FTFO

What have you had mansplained to you recently?

I had a guy explaining that female orgasms are a myth... He's recently divorced, I love that for his exwife!

Twice this week, same guy at work explained how to wrap a package for collection by a courier, I have been doing my job for many years. Yesterday, did you put all the contact details inside the package? My boss looked at him and said, you're brave. I just gave him the side eye. Last week a guy in Aldi car park mansplained how the parking worked, it was very busy, he was on the hatching, I thanked him for his concern then said, off you fuck. Satisfying.

My worst recent example was MNsplaining ie it was on MN and I don’t know if it was a man or a woman. I was told I obviously don’t understand the criminal justice system and didn’t I realise that miscarriages of justice happen. I’m a criminal barrister. When I later mentioned that to another poster on the same thread (it was a Lucy Letby thread for my sins) I was told ‘yes but you’re not her barrister’.

A mansplaining to me that oil is not organic, that you don't see bits of leaves or trees in it do you. On and on.
I have an A Level in Chemistry and almost everyone knows that oil is created by millions of years of pressure on the carbon of tree and vegetation remains.

your story reminds me of the time I casually said to my BIL about something on the news ' those bastards must have been in collusion' and he FREAKED OUT. He said what did you just say?? I repeated myself and he called his wife in the room for me to repeat it again. I was made to spell the word then he grabbed his phone and called his daughter in law to crow over the word. She's a teacher and had shamed him over 'making up a word'.

Poor guy tried looking it up using a K not a C and for a year that man stewed LOL

And even if it hadn't originated from trees, of course it's organic in the chemical sense - hydrocarbons are organic molecules, there's a clue in their name.(PhD chemist)

Some of these are reminding me of a man I know although to be fair, he is just patronising to everyone... he regularly posts news summaries on Facebook as if they are deep insights. He writes long posts about them, usually a good few days after the fact and clearly thinks he is delivering penetrating analysis of the situation for everyone on his feed. But its just a (not so brief) summary and then a pretty generic opinion already stated by 4000 people online, more succintly and with more wit. Eg, "The UK prime minister is being accused of taking inappropriate and expensive freebies and gifts from a Labour life peer. ... <blah blah for another 200 words>. Of course, to accuse Sir Starmer of taking £20,000 for housing for his son when he just borrowed an apartment that could have been rented out for that sum, but which he nonetheless declared, is an unnecessary attack considering the scrutiny he and his family were under at the time, including the media camped outside his house. This is a sad reflecfion of the hypocrisy under which the media operate."

I'm a GP. My (non) medical dad often tries to give me medical advice when I am unwell. Along the lines of "Have you tried any paracetamol? It can help with fever and pain" 😒

I stopped into the local showroom when looking for a new car and walked down to the ones I was interested in. The sales guy was over sharpish to tell me that these were the premium cars and maybe I’d like to look further along the row. I went so far along that row that I left.

Oh. My. God.

Just last night a male junior dr mansplained critical care bed management to me. I have worked in ICU for 25 years, 18 of them in a leadership role. He’s been with us since August. He won’t make that mistake again.

@spikeandbuffy I’ve worked with Kate Prior. She is very funny and an amazing dr.

A bloke once decided to mansplain the plot of Titanic to me, and actually went on to ask whether I knew it was based on a true story.

"Oh, is it?" I said, "What happens at the end?"

His face was a picture. Unfortunately I was unable to keep a straight face after that, so I never did find out.

😂

Not sure if it counts as mansplaining or sharing opinion but a colleague says all the time 'what people don't understand is....' then hours of his research usually, flat earth, chemtrails, illuminati, 5g, 13 family global control etc etc...

The true and deeply touching story of the love affair between Jack Dawson and Rose DeWitt-Bukater, rather spoiled by some nonsense about a ship sinking.

I was on a train to my home town from London, scrolling through Facebook to see a local newspaper article that claimed all trains from London to the town had been cancelled that afternoon (including the one I was on). I commented that it wasn't correct as I was travelling on one of the supposedly cancelled trains. Got a reply from a man who mansplained to me that I wouldn't be able to travel to the town from London because "cancelled" meant there weren't any trains - I read his comment as the train pulled into the station, took a photo of the sign with the station name on and asked him to explain how I got there then. Funnily enough, no reply...

I haha'it gets dark at night because the sun goes down and the moon comes up, but not as bright'. OK 🙂 I'm 50, PhD.

Told a new gynaecologist about harmless but weird menopause symptoms and asked if he had specific explanations for them.

He looked down his nose at me and said 'it's called being a woman'. Guess what, I took my custom elsewhere.

I’ve had men explain to me that I’m pronouncing my surname wrong over the years, never had a woman do that. Surname is foreign but not from where these men think it’s from and the languages have very different linguistic origins.

I had a school dad explain to me what Northern Ireland was like during the troubles. He’d been to Derry the previous weekend and he’d never been to Ireland before. It was interesting to learn all this. Ps I grew up in Northern Ireland during the troubles.

Oh my god, I have had two more happen to me just this week (and the mansplainer has only been in 4 days!)

Mansplainer is my old boss, now I'm an equal manager to him in another dept but tightly linked work wise. Both depts work in partnership with each other.

We're legally opposing a project outcome, I've written the appeal. Another business area wanted something clarified. Mansplainer(MSP) proceeds to call me and tell me what I need to email back in response. I tell MSP I know, and I send said email. MSP then also emails writing exactly what I just said, but in different words. Annoyingly, the whole reason I was doing the appeal was because MSP was "sooooo busy" doing way more important things than me 🙄 but yet still found time to jump in.

Then another this week MSP and I are in a meeting with very senior boss discussing output figures in one area of the country under my management. I say what the figures are and MSP jumps in, tells me I am wrong, starts to screen share and pulls up a report drafted a few days prior then launches into an explanation on the figures. Me and (female) senior let him waffle on, until I jump in and point out A) I know what that report says, since it's also for my area and I helped write it and B) it's a report for the wrong area of the country and not the area we are there to discuss. And suggest maybe he should stop screen sharing.

Needing a new car because mine was made a wright-off, while empty in a parking space by a young man looking for his dropped phone, I went to three garages and told them what size engine I was looking for and would like to test drive their car. All three laid on a test drive with a weaker engine because in their own wisdom, I didn’t need it. VW listened and I love my Polo which I drive round Europe.

The garage does send me postal updates but to Mr. W, when I complained they said is nothing to complain about, I asked the man if he would liked to be called Mrs/Ms. he gave me a funny look.

The garage does send me postal updates but to Mr. W, when I complained they said is nothing to complain about, I asked the man if he would liked to be called Mrs/Ms. he gave me a funny look.

Not mansplaining, but this touched a nerve: I yesterday received a letter from the CPS to tell me that the man who was harassing me would not be prosecuted (because he is mentally unfit). This is a very clear case of a gendered crime. I am being deliberately targeted as a woman by a man because I am a woman. The letter from the CPS was addressed to me as Mr Fink. 😡

Fink
Oh my goodness. Sorry to hear of your problem I don’t know how you can get something done. Keep on at the relevant offices. You are in my thoughts. Take care of yourself x

Two in two days from DH.
He had a shower and I went in after him, but the water was really chilly. So I say to him "We seem to have run out of hot water, this shower is cold". "You have to turn it on" says he. No shit Sherlock. And it was his fault as I'd asked him an hour earlier to put the water heater on and he hadn't.
And today, getting coffee from a machine "You have to hold the cup under the spout until the coffee stops coming out".
If we hadn't been in a hotel with other people around I'd have brained him with the toaster.
I swear he thinks I'm 4.

Have you seen this one on another thread where OP is talking about how her sex life dwindles when her DH is watching porn. How helpful that the op has this man to explain that all the women are wrong and if she changes then he won’t ’need’ the porn…

Man here.
My first piece of advice would be to completely ignore comments about porn addiction, exploitation etc.
Since it has a predominantly female audience, Mumsnet is overflowing with negativity about not only porn, but men in general.
More specifically, women who are completely oblivious when it comes to sex, the psychology of sex, and natural male desire.
At 54 years young, you still have much more than you need to arouse and interest your man. Focus on the psychology of establishing a true connection and he won't need to go near porn.