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purpleyammy · 2024-09-22T11:15:10+00:00

Dh is controlling and lies a lot. Please don’t say anything about the relationship I have tried various ways of leaving including refuges etc but they can’t help me, I am ill and totally financially dependent on him for my dc. recently he swapped my SIM card to an eSIM and my phone didn’t work. I don’t know what he did as the phone is in his name even tho I’d rather it wasn’t. he took my original SIM card out and this was a couple of weeks ago. He’s now telling me he has no idea where my sim is. Should I be worried? I’ve had the same number for over /20 years and my phone is now not been working for two weeks. We are now not in the U.K. I’m worried as I drive a lot and have no phone now for even emergencies. I do have wifi calling but no signal unless I’m near wifi and this country doesn’t have a lot of wifi spots so unless I’m home I can’t use my phone. Should I be worried about my SIM card being left in a hotel?! Is there any security risks possible? He’s lied and lied and I’ve finally got out of him he left it there.

RitzyMcFee · 22/09/2024 18:00

Get your giffgaff SIM here, with a reward when you join.

You can't just get a gifgaf pay as you go sim and put it in a phone in another country and expect it to work.

Whether it has roaming or not.

And how is she going to get it? What address can she send a UK sim to?

Normallynumb · 22/09/2024 23:44

I'm so sorry OP
Can you send a postcard/ letter to your parents or a family member
You could buy a payg sim for the country you're currently in?
You must try to leave him.
You can't live in fear

geekygardener · 23/09/2024 08:41

Please can someone tag mn and ask for this to be taken down. Sorry I don't know how to do that.

Op I'm asking for this to be taken down because if your husband has given you an eSIM it's most likely so he can fully track your usage. Including your access to mn. People are giving you advice but it's more than likely your husband will now know you may get a new sim or burner phone. You are at extremely high risk here. I won't give any advice here on what your actually can do if your being tracked etc because it may be seen by your husband. You know what you can and need to do because you have done it already before.

I'm a domestic abuse expert so I know what I'm talking about.

Good luck op.

SpikeGirl · 23/09/2024 09:11

geekygardener · 23/09/2024 08:41

Please can someone tag mn and ask for this to be taken down. Sorry I don't know how to do that.

Op I'm asking for this to be taken down because if your husband has given you an eSIM it's most likely so he can fully track your usage. Including your access to mn. People are giving you advice but it's more than likely your husband will now know you may get a new sim or burner phone. You are at extremely high risk here. I won't give any advice here on what your actually can do if your being tracked etc because it may be seen by your husband. You know what you can and need to do because you have done it already before.

I'm a domestic abuse expert so I know what I'm talking about.

Good luck op.

@mnhq can you help with this?

Thelnebriati · 23/09/2024 10:43

Tagging doesn't work, you need to report your own thread using the report button xx

YaCannyKickYaGrannyInTheShin · 23/09/2024 11:04

geekygardener · 23/09/2024 08:41

Please can someone tag mn and ask for this to be taken down. Sorry I don't know how to do that.

Op I'm asking for this to be taken down because if your husband has given you an eSIM it's most likely so he can fully track your usage. Including your access to mn. People are giving you advice but it's more than likely your husband will now know you may get a new sim or burner phone. You are at extremely high risk here. I won't give any advice here on what your actually can do if your being tracked etc because it may be seen by your husband. You know what you can and need to do because you have done it already before.

I'm a domestic abuse expert so I know what I'm talking about.

Good luck op.

That's not how Mumsnet works.

If the OP wants her thread removed, she'll have to report it herself and request removal.

MissSkegness1951 · 23/09/2024 13:12

geekygardener · 23/09/2024 08:41

Please can someone tag mn and ask for this to be taken down. Sorry I don't know how to do that.

Op I'm asking for this to be taken down because if your husband has given you an eSIM it's most likely so he can fully track your usage. Including your access to mn. People are giving you advice but it's more than likely your husband will now know you may get a new sim or burner phone. You are at extremely high risk here. I won't give any advice here on what your actually can do if your being tracked etc because it may be seen by your husband. You know what you can and need to do because you have done it already before.

I'm a domestic abuse expert so I know what I'm talking about.

Good luck op.

Ironic that you're trying to control what the op does!

She can ask for the thread to be removed herself.

MNHQ

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geekygardener · 23/09/2024 17:34

Get a grip @MissSkegness1951 I'm not trying to control anyone I'm simply supporting a person who may be at risk and not aware of the full extent. Have a day off your high horse once in a while

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