Pls help controlling Dh left my sim card in a hotel should I be worried?

[purpleyammy]

Dh is controlling and lies a lot. Please don’t say anything about the relationship I have tried various ways of leaving including refuges etc but they can’t help me, I am ill and totally financially dependent on him for my dc.

recently he swapped my SIM card to an eSIM and my phone didn’t work. I don’t know what he did as the phone is in his name even tho I’d rather it wasn’t.

he took my original SIM card out and this was a couple of weeks ago. He’s now telling me he has no idea where my sim is. Should I be worried? I’ve had the same number for over /20 years and my phone is now not been working for two weeks. We are now not in the U.K. I’m worried as I drive a lot and have no phone now for even emergencies. I do have wifi calling but no signal unless I’m near wifi and this country doesn’t have a lot of wifi spots so unless I’m home I can’t use my phone. Should I be worried about my SIM card being left in a hotel?! Is there any security risks possible? He’s lied and lied and I’ve finally got out of him he left it there.

Anyone can call Customer Services or Complaints for any major company. Ask for help.

You don’t own the number. He does. It’s attached to an account in his name. You can only get it back if he is willing to transfer it to an account in your name. I assume he won’t do that so you need to forget that number and move on.

I agree with the PPs who say get another mobile and hide it from him.

This won’t work. Unless she is the account holder, they won’t give her access to the account.

When she agreed to transfer the number to an account in his name, she gave him that number. There is no way to get it back without his cooperation.

Can't you call the phone company and tell them you have lost your sim and want the number transferred to the new sim?

It's not her account, it's her husband's.

I pay for one of my DC's phone contracts and in order for him to speak to them, they have to go through me first and get me to answer security questions.

She can try. Or get a new sim, get the new company to transfer the number instead. Lost sim so can't get the pac code.

We know from the OP that the husband is controlling.

We also know that her phone account is in his name.

The phone company therefore won’t speak to her, he isn’t going g to speak to them, and even if either of them did speak to the phone company, they wouldn’t consider him to have stolen it because it’s in HIS NAME.

How exactly is she able to warn her friends when her phone doesn’t work?

Exactly.
Would reporting here help the OP in any way?
Genuine question.
I really don't know, but this isn't about a SIM card,
this is about the OP's and her kids' life.
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Can you write your parents a letter?
Let them know that he's removed your phone sim and is there a way they can send you a new one to a safe address?
You can put in and remove a sim when he is not around.
It's so important that you have contact with people to support you.

They won't transfer someone else's number to her without the permission of the person who owns the number.

Her husband owns the number.

And when the kids phones get nicked, do the kids ring up and sort it out themselves, or do they have to pass the phone to the account holder, to go through the security questions?

If it's the former, it's a huge breach of contract.

H may have put the card in another phone and be communicating with your friends and family pretending to be you.

Please get a PAYG sim and contact someone who can let your friends and family know your new number and what has happened.

Her husband has probably already cancelled it/removed the payment method anyway, highly doubt he will be continuing to pay for it.
Edit: or what poppinjay said - chilling.

And yes phone companies super strict about this kind of thing. I had someone take out a phone contract in my name and address and I still couldn't cancel it even though it was in my details, because I didn't have enough security information.

And you have done that in every country in the world?

She can't as it's in her husbands name and he's not going to let her.

i'd be on warned that he has kept the sim and is using it to send messages supposedly from you to your contacts to further distance them from you. he will also be able to see their reply's and get information that could make you more vulnerable.
get a payg burner phone you can hide and use in an emergency if you can and contact a DV service or the police as soon as you can. the country you are currently in, are you vulnerable due to how its run? eg women's rights are poorly respected, laws that make you have less rights as a woman?

you can ask the network provider for a PAC code- this helps transfer your old number to a new sim. Is the network provider UK based like o2?

i'd be concerned, sorry about the typo

You can co this op but you’d need to pretend to be your husband, but I’d guess as you’re scared of him you won’t, as he will find out.

the sim is terrifying he’d do that. And I’m guessing it’s not the only terrifying thing he’s done. Where are you in the world. And what are your health issues, you say you are unwell.

Could you call the hotel to see if it's been handed in to lost property?

Which country are you in @purpleyammy

She can’t transfer the number or get a new sim. He is the named account holder. It wouldn’t help in any case because he can do the exact same thing again. He might even have the sim and have installed it on a new phone.

Getting a new PAYG and transferring the numbers manually and not telling H is the only way to have private contact with friends.

Do you have your own bank account to which he doesn’t have access, OP?