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Do you ever 'just know' something?

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belindawolves · 19/09/2024 10:37

I knew that when I saw now DH online (dating) that he was going to be someone very important to me. I didn't know that we'd get married or live together, but it was like I was struck by lightning when I saw him. I just knew instantly that he was going to be part of my life. And I knew when I saw our house on Rightmove that we'd buy it and live there. We saw it the next day and made an offer and had it accepted all in one day. Has anyone else ever 'known' anything like this? I'm not a woo or superstitious person at all but I just 'knew' these things deep down. Anyone else?Smile

OP posts:
JackJarvisEsq · 19/09/2024 10:39

I seem to “know” when someone’s pregnant. Well someone I already know

They must look different somehow to me but only subconsciously

BobbyBiscuits · 19/09/2024 10:40

Gawd no. I wish! I always seem to not have the vaguest idea what's going to happen in the future, or how my actions now will impact that situation. I feel very unsure of my decision making abilities and fear doing the wrong thing!

pinksheetss · 19/09/2024 10:40

Yeah I have a had a few like this. I very clearly remember being around 13 and saying goodbye to my granny for the weekend and watching as I was driven off in the car and just knowing it was the last time I was going to see her. She died a few weeks later before I saw her again.

I have passed people in the street before and had a feeling they'd mean something in my life and then they'd somehow end up in it years later.

I was in a long distance relationship and as I said goodbye to him at the airport I also had a feeling that would be the last time I'd ever see him. We broke up before we'd ever see each other again and that was over ten years ago.

Lots of little similar things.

PeachRose1986 · 19/09/2024 10:41

As soon as I went into labour with dc2, I knew with absolute certainty that he was a boy (we did not find out at the scan or see anything that suggested he was a boy).

MoveToParis · 19/09/2024 10:41

Yes, also about a house.

But with ex-husband I suddenly just knew that he had cheated on me about eight years before we separated. We had been separated over a year at that stage, and literally as I was opening a cupboard, several things which I had never passed any notice of, or connected together came into very clear focus.

I don’t know the individuals name, but I do know when and where.

Malvala · 19/09/2024 10:42

I knew I was going to meet DH.

I didn’t know I was going to meet him exactly but for three weeks before we met I had the Christmas Eve excitement like when I was a child. I knew something amazing was on the way.

We moved in together after two weeks and we’re still going strong 18 years later!

LeavesTrees · 19/09/2024 10:47

I knew when I was pregnant with my first. I was in my 30s and the belief was that I couldn’t have children. I was sat on the bus a few days before my period was due and the bus started vibrating quite violently and the thought popped into my head ‘the bus is going to shake this baby out of me in a minute’. I don’t know where the thought came from, it was completely unexpected. A few days later I did the test and I was pregnant.

Tapestree · 19/09/2024 10:53

Yes, so much it was quite scary. ExP cheated on me and I knew, that very second, that it was happening. I dismissed this as ridiculous because there were no hints at all... But then, I started getting random thoughts like "he's texting her right now" and "he's on the phone to her now." when he was at work. I'd always text him then, just asking about his day, because I wanted to reassure myself that I was imagining things.
I thought I was losing it.
When it was confirmed that he was having an affair, he accused me of having hacked his phone, because I'd always message him just after he'd been in touch with her. I didn't hack anything, it was just a very strong feeling.

LolaJ87 · 19/09/2024 10:57

Yes @belindawolves same as yourself, when I met my husband and when we found our home. It also happened when I saw a dog available for adoption while we were waiting for house keys, but she was adopted before we could take her. A couple of weeks later I got the urge to check the rescue website and saw she was back there, she's been with us for 5 years now.

Maybe we just have strong gut feelings about what feels "right" to us.

Askingfortroible · 19/09/2024 11:00

Yes. I can read people so well Derren Brown needs to fear for his career.

Starlight1979 · 19/09/2024 11:41

Yep. With DP. I knew him through work for years before we eventually got together but the first time I saw him when he joined the company I felt like I'd known him forever. He just had something about him that felt so familiar and comfortable.

We used to speak on the phone a lot for work and every time we talked it was like chatting to your oldest, best friend who you can just talk to for hours. He just felt like home to me (in a completely platonic way - no EA or anything!).

Even now when I look back I think I knew from the start that we would eventually be together but it took years before we were in a position to do anything. But it did finally happen and I couldn't be happier 😊

Balloonhearts · 19/09/2024 12:09

When I was offered my flat I knew as soon as I opened the letter that I was going to accept it and that this was my address. I remembered the postcode from the second I saw it.

Same with my car. I wasn't there to view that car, I'd come to look at another one but I didn't even see it. I saw mine sitting on the forecourt and was like That's my car. Yes its 2 grand above my budget but that one is mine. Bought it then and there and it's the best car I've ever had.

When I was therapist searching I ended up calling a counsellor who did not have either the experience or qualification I was looking for but I just saw his photo and thought 'I'm going to trust you more than anyone one day.' He has been incredible.

ForZippyJadeEagle · 19/09/2024 12:28

People generally 'just know' something retrospectively when their idea at the time was proven to be correct.

And filter out all the times when they were wrong.

Retrospective cognitive bias.

And on a population level, it means nothing. For every person who 'just knew' their DP was 'the one' after a meeting, there are thousands who initially thought the same who ended up in shitty relationships or just not having a relationship with that person.

Same with all the people who 'just know' someone is a wrong-un and yell it from the rooftops when proven correct but don't remember all the other people they had a bad feeling about who turned out to be friends or just normal people who never did anything wrong.

Newtrix · 19/09/2024 14:10

Yes often and sometimes with very obscure things.

Fiftyfiveandcounting · 19/09/2024 14:31

I knew after one date that I would marry my husband and told my family and friends the next day. We were living together within a couple of weeks and have been together over 40 years now.

Spenditlikebeckham · 19/09/2024 14:34

Omg when I was quite newly single I envisaged being with a man called x who worked at y. Went on an impromptu night out one Friday night.. Never went out on Friday's. Ever. Met a man at a bar. Complete stranger. Called x. Worked at y. Never had a night apart since except the week in hospital when I had our dc.. Been together 12 years. Married 9.

MissionaryMumtoOne · 19/09/2024 14:42

I also tend to “just know” when someone is pregnant - it’s happened a number of times now, just getting a sense someone is pregnant from when they are very early on, and on a couple of occasions before they even know themselves.

Recently a friend gave birth and had chosen a name in her pregnancy for her DD which they kept a secret. When she announced, I was shocked as I had told my DH, that I was predicting she was going to choose the exact same name as she had chosen, first name and middle name. I think I remember mentioning the middle name several years ago as a name she had liked because of a family connection but guessing the first name was a complete fluke. We had never before discussed baby names other than this.

dhxxx · 19/09/2024 22:33

I have had a few instances. Our house for example. I saw it on Rightmove months before we were actually looking and fell in love. Screen shotted all the photos and saved them in a folder as the decor was just up my street. It sold pretty much straight away. Fast forward 6 months when we were looking, we found a different house and had put an offer in. Everything was progressing. One night something told me to go on rightmove and the house I loved had come back on, that very day! My heart was actually racing. Turns out the chain has fallen apart so the buyers had pulled out. I just knew this was our house. Within a week we'd pulled out of the other house and made an offer on this one. I don't know why I looked at rightmove again that night but it's like I just knew!

MrsSkylerWhite · 19/09/2024 22:35

In the old landline days (for anyone who doesn’t know, a telephone connection in your house), I knew who was calling before I answered.

dhxxx · 19/09/2024 22:38

I actually had the same with a job - interviewed for it, loved the people and the role but didn't get it due to an internal successful applicant (points based hiring). But hiring manager was very complimentary and said they keep me in mind for any other roles. Months later, saw an advert for a similar job at the company and was about to apply as I knew I was just meant to work there. The day I started filling my application in, the hiring manager emailed me out of the blue to say the original role was available (person went on maternity!). Again I just knew it was the job for me

landris · 19/09/2024 22:42

PeachRose1986 · 19/09/2024 10:41

As soon as I went into labour with dc2, I knew with absolute certainty that he was a boy (we did not find out at the scan or see anything that suggested he was a boy).

The moment I looked at the positive pregnancy test kit I knew with absolute certainty that I was carrying a girl.

SphincterSaysWhat · 19/09/2024 22:45

I believe I knew that my mum was going to die (on a very subconscious level).

She wasn't ill or particularly old but she died whilst we were on holiday in October half term last year. She had a stroke - it was totally unexpected and those days of being away and then scrambling to get home have scarred me in such a way I don't think I'll ever revisit the trauma.

But the last time I went to see her was about a month before she died (we live far from where I grew up now, it's about a 4 hour trip - there and back). I went around the house snapping photos of old photos of her and the family on my phone. I also picked up little notes she'd left for the milkman (for example). And I took one of her towels (for the smell of her laundry detergent).

I think I knew. Nothing woo about it - my brain clocked something was going on, I just wish it would have told me expressly. Our hearts are broken.

CrossUniStudent · 19/09/2024 22:47

Yes. When I was pregnant with no 2 I had this sudden random thought one day they had the cord around their neck. I couldn't get rid of the feeling but realised how utterly ridiculous it would sound if I kicked up a fuss. They were indeed born with the cord wrapped around their neck, twice, and it had to be cut off.

Leaving an elderly in laws party I sent my dh back to say bye for a second time. I had a feeling we may not see them again. Arguably not strange if they were elderly but we saw them a few times a year and I'd never had that feeling before,

BiscuitlyBoyle · 19/09/2024 22:51

About 20 years ago we were watching TV and there was an item about a couple having IVF at Bourne Hall. DH and I both looked at each other and said ‘that’ll be us’. At that point we hadn’t even thought about trying and we didn’t live anywhere near Bourne Hall. But we did end up having IVF and it was at Bourne Hall.

IDontHateRainbows · 19/09/2024 22:53

Could be confirmation bias / coincidence but I remember driving past a certain road many years ago and thinking it was exactly the place I wanted to live in. We weren't house hunting at the time. When we did, we were looking over a wider area. DH didn't know anything of my 'premonition ' but found a house on that exact road and we've lived there 12 years now.