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What's the most cheeky/ridiculous favour someone has asked of you ?

149 replies

TomandJerrysmousehunt · 17/09/2024 15:24

Mine was for me to book a day off work to sit with my friend in the car for an 8 hour round trip to collect something. She didn't need help with the collecting, but wanted company in the car, other than the radio. I told her I couldn't get the day off work. I was certainly not wasting a day off work to sit in a car for 8 hours.

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Twilightstarbright · 17/09/2024 16:56

@Halfscottish I’ve had similar. MIL and SIL didn’t understand why DH and I didn’t want to take a week off work to look after her 3 kids so SIL could work in her ‘big important job’. DH and I have ‘big important jobs’ (not that it matters) and we pay for childcare in the holidays! What made it worse is that SILs husband is a university lecturer and was on holiday at that time! If she was a single mum I might have felt more inclined to help but didn’t see why their own Dad couldn’t look after his kids.

See also, do we want to spend our annual leave renovating MILs holiday home (that we aren’t allowed to use)? That would be a big
no.

ChampagneLassie · 17/09/2024 17:01

WitchyBits · 17/09/2024 16:22

Years ago my nan had lovely little isolated holiday home about 300 miles away. Her neighbour hounded her to go for a few days and after months she relented and said yes she could go for 4 days. Then the neighbour said it was up to my nan when as she had to arrange the transportation and ensure it was fully stocked as well seeing as how she doesn't drive herself and not to forget that her old incontinent dog would need to be accomodated too. Needless to say, she never got there.

A very casual acquaintance from the school gates asked me if I could look after her reception aged daughter "for a while " as she had an urgent hospital appointment related to her very obvious pregnancy. She was desperate. I arrived at her house and she ran out the door so quickly I didn't notice a bag in her hand. Her little girl said mummy was going to have a baby and then a 3 yo and 18 month old started crying upstairs. She'd left me with 3 tiny kids I didn't know and in a house that was filthy to go and give birth. I spent all evening cleaning her crusty house and had to send my DH to the shops to buy food to feed the kids. I ended up taking the kids to my house and leaving a note as it was so grim. The following morning I had no choice but to call social services and she was very well known to them and ask the kids under a care plan. The kids were with me for 48 hours and then she cage home and complained that I'd called the social services 🤷🏼‍♀️. I actually ended up being involved with that family for another 4-5 years and at that point they had 7 kids and the house was condemned. She lost/got back those kids so many times it was heart breaking.

Why would someone do this? Ie keep having kids

ChampagneLassie · 17/09/2024 17:01

Wrong post

Spidey66 · 17/09/2024 17:02

My sister asked for her and bil to stay in my place while going to a friends party. They then demanded that as she was pregnant she should have our bed while we had the sofa bed.

A) she wasn't visiting me, just using me to avoid paying for a travelodge
B) I would probably have offered but it was the demand that got me.

She didn't go in then, decided it was to close to her due date.

ChampagneLassie · 17/09/2024 17:06

countrygirl99 · 17/09/2024 16:44

Years ago before my 2 DC started school BIL set up his own business. SIL phoned asking if I could do the accounts (I'm an accountant). They didn't just want accounts pulled together for the bank and tax they wanted me to do all the book keeping, invoicing, pay bills, chase debtors. I was working full time in a managerial role and had 2 small children. Apparently SIL "just didn't have time , what with 2 children". SIL was a SAHM with 2 school age DC and had previously worked in a bank and had the admin skills for the day to day stuff. I just said I hadn't done any small business tax for years so it wasn't worth paying me and a tax expert by way of saying no politely. "Oh, we weren't expecting to pay you"!

This one is particularly brilliant!

squashyhat · 17/09/2024 17:09

A long time ago I was at a friend's party. Friend's brother and his wife (who I also knew) were at the same party and had young child. It was getting close to the time for the babysitter to leave and the CF wife suggested childfree me might like to relieve the babysitter for an hour or two so they could carry on enjoying themselves. Of course they would pay me Hmm

distractmeagain · 17/09/2024 17:10

next door neighbour wanted our wi-fi password as the kids had got tablets for christmas and their internet was down....

Sprinklesandsprinkles · 17/09/2024 17:14

I was baking a lot of practice cakes to open a baking business. I was making them randomly and giving away lots of free slices to friends as neighbours to get feedback and get it off my hands.

My CF neighbour said for your next practice cakes can you do it for X date for DS birthday, this is what I want. She sent a cake photo that has hours worth of models on which I hadn't been making on my practice ones. I said that's a lot for me to do time and money wise but if you pay the ingredients I'll make it for you. She asked how much, I told her about £15 and she said oh I'll leave it then.

So she was willing for me to spend MY money and hours of work but not to cover the base fee!

Allthehorsesintheworld · 17/09/2024 17:17

Living in Europe after DH died man ( ex Pat Brit) who'd built something in the garden ( paid work, not a favour) phoned. Their teenage dd had done something they didn’t approve of, could she stay with me as they’d heard I was a counsellor. Explained I wasn’t I was a ( insert niche therapy here too outing to say) That’ll do he says, can they bring her over Saturday. I said I’d think about it and let him know. Called him back and said a week in her own room with en suite and all meals and the therapy daily if she agreed would be €30 a day. Not paying that he shouts, I thought you’d do it as a favour and slammed the phoned down.

Another one : British woman appears on the doorstep , never seen her before. She’s a friend of a woman I vaguely know. She’s going to the UK to a hen party and can’t leave her teenage son with her DH as they’ll fight. Can he stay with me and he’ll do any gardening, odd jobs etc.. Stupidly I agreed. Lad seemed ok for two days then started to talk really strangely, are dragons real, are there zombies outside at night. Mum’s phone goes unanswered, as does step dads. I leave messages for both. After 5 days a couple turn up who’ve come to get him. They seemed very on edge, asked me about his medication ( what medication?) Turns out poor lad was quite mentally ill, had been dangerous in the past and in their words should never have been left with me. Never heard from any of them again…

Anonym00se · 17/09/2024 17:28

countrygirl99 · 17/09/2024 16:44

Years ago before my 2 DC started school BIL set up his own business. SIL phoned asking if I could do the accounts (I'm an accountant). They didn't just want accounts pulled together for the bank and tax they wanted me to do all the book keeping, invoicing, pay bills, chase debtors. I was working full time in a managerial role and had 2 small children. Apparently SIL "just didn't have time , what with 2 children". SIL was a SAHM with 2 school age DC and had previously worked in a bank and had the admin skills for the day to day stuff. I just said I hadn't done any small business tax for years so it wasn't worth paying me and a tax expert by way of saying no politely. "Oh, we weren't expecting to pay you"!

We would have this all the time. DH is an accountant and the world and his wife would ask him to do their tax returns. Some were bog-standard tax returns, others turned out to be their entire annual accounts for their small businesses. He’d also spend weeks chasing them for information which they’d provide hours before the submission deadline. He even had times where he’d travel 100+ miles to collect their ‘paperwork’ (ie. A shoe box full of random invoices, receipts etc that he’d have to sift through).

Sometimes he’d barely get a ‘thank you’ for his efforts. Every Christmas holiday for the entire week between Boxing Day and NY would be spent doing other people’s tax returns. He’d never hear from half these ‘friends’ for the rest of the year. Eventually I put my foot down and told him to tell them that I’d banned him from doing them. Now he only does close family/friends.

changedusernameforthis1 · 17/09/2024 17:31

DS1 was about 6 weeks old when one of my longest friends came to visit with her DD who was 7 months.

She said she was popping to the shop and would be back in 5, and did I mind watching her DD.
I said of course not, the shop was literally down the road.

She came back at almost midnight (she'd come to mine for lunch) blind drunk and excitedly told me about this guy she met and what they got up to in his car 😳 when I pointed out her daughter who she'd left and not said a word to me, not even a text, she simply said "Yeah but I trust you, I knew she'd be fine."

Entirely not the point 🙄

WitchyBits · 17/09/2024 17:39

@ChampagneLassie

Both parents had been raised in care and lacked every type of social/domestic skill going. This was also before the benefits cap. It was around 2008 as that's when I had my own daughter ( and why I felt bad for them). The amount of times I had their 3-4-5 kids as well as my four was ridiculous and social services never once helped me with the costs I incurred as a result. They were eventually relocated to Wales and then he left her to go live in a quarry in a tent and she lost her kids again. And got them back. And lost them. It was the most heart breaking thing.

Womanofcustard · 17/09/2024 17:48

The dog-napping thing….DID YOU DO IT?

youlied · 17/09/2024 17:53

To make a wooden house sign for a relative of my ex. I spent ages routing it out, sawing letters finishing it off etc and they took it off me showed it off. No thank you and not even a bottle of wine for my efforts

KateDelRick · 17/09/2024 17:54

A parent contacted me to say that her son didn't enjoy the specification of the GCSE paper I was teaching. She'd found a more preferable one for her son, and expected me to give up lunchtimes and after school to teach it - for free - on a one to one basis.

twyst82 · 17/09/2024 17:54

Old army friend I hadn't talked to in years messaged to ask if I'd drive 1.5 hours each way (we had been posted to a different uk country) and pick up a designer hand bag for her as the eBay seller didn't post. Then when we visited her area (we have family there) to go out our way and drop it off to her. It was a firm NO!

Ewock · 17/09/2024 17:56

Mine is a childcare one. My 'friend' stated that as I now work pt I could have her dd on my two days off along with mine. I laughed and told her I'd taken a significant drop in salary to be able to spend time with my dd and cut down our childcare costs, I did not do it to save her money. She never spoke to me again.

thicklysettled · 17/09/2024 18:04

A cousin I hadn't seen in years wept about how she didn't have enough money for the food shop and didn't know how she was going to manage with her kids. I gave her £100 - I knew she'd never give it back to me, so I had no expectations there. Next day she's all over FB, at a local carvery place buying lunch for all the kids, and then cracking on with a pub crawl through the roughest pubs in town.

She's beyond help, she really is.

useitorlose · 17/09/2024 18:05

New joiner to our book club, hasn't actually attended yet. Asked for someone to send her PDF copies of the books we are reading.

ArcticBells · 17/09/2024 18:07

To stack a mountain of logs for a neighbour as she had friends coming over

RockyRogue1001 · 17/09/2024 18:32

poppyzbrite4 · 17/09/2024 15:44

I had spent all day preparing dinner for myself and a friend. She sent me a text saying:

"I've just sent you £30 can you pick up some wine. Tesco are doing this particular wine that I want."

Tesco was a 40 minute round trip.

Please tell me you didn't do this!!!!

Homelanderswife · 17/09/2024 18:35

Ewock · 17/09/2024 17:56

Mine is a childcare one. My 'friend' stated that as I now work pt I could have her dd on my two days off along with mine. I laughed and told her I'd taken a significant drop in salary to be able to spend time with my dd and cut down our childcare costs, I did not do it to save her money. She never spoke to me again.

The exact same thing happened to me too! What is wrong with people?

ichundich · 17/09/2024 18:38

Asking me on a weekly basis if I mind taking their DC from 8 a.m. & into school because they are at work
Asking me to pick their child up at the crack of dawn for a trip so they can get hammered the night before
Asking me if I could walk down the road to collect a FB purchase for them when they live in the same village and weren't away

LondonPapa · 17/09/2024 18:40

I’m friends with a numerous chefs (from Michelin to Instagram famous) due to my former life. Someone I hadn’t spoken to in a very long time messaged me out of the blue to ask me to secure a last minute reservation to a top restaurant for their anniversary. When I said no, they accused me of ruining their anniversary as they’d promise their OH a table 😂

Another chap asks me for £50, every year, like clock work. Blocked him and then he asked when she saw me in the street. Next-level CF!!!

poppyzbrite4 · 17/09/2024 18:41

RockyRogue1001 · 17/09/2024 18:32

Please tell me you didn't do this!!!!

I did. To my shame, I went to Tesco, got the wine, came back and carried on making dinner. I was furious but I felt obligated as she'd sent me the money. The wine is obviously a gift for the host!!