Eurgh! Just lost my shit!

[Monicaaa]

I feel like such a fool!
I work hybrid and last week I was disturbed by a man knocking on the front door wanting to conduct a survey about some local issue. I explained I was working and in a meeting. When I told him this he smiled and insisted it would take two minutes! Cos obviously his survey is more important! I snapped and said 'no I am working' to eye rolling from him.
He has just disturbed me again, I was concentrating on a tricky task and his 'policemans knock' broke that.
When I answered, assuming delivery or some such he greeted me with 'i came last week...'
I interrupted 'I am working I told you that, I made it clear I work'
He started to respond with 'yes but...'
And I slammed the door like a petulent teenager!
I feel so silly and now I am cross and need to calm down before I start trying to unpick this technical issue again!
I understand not everyone at home is working, I don't mind outside noise etc, or a first knock on the door, that is for me to manage but why call again?!

What? To the poor Iickle man who just wanted her to leave her work to answer his important survey?? Don't be daft.

Fair enough!

'Kindness costs nothing' - @Janedoe82 , are you sure you're not John Die??

The bloke wasn't kind, was he? So why should OP be? Why hold women to higher standards??

He'll survive. I had someone do similar on the phone recently. Also man, I said I couldnt talk as was literally leaving for work and gave a time to call back, twice (couldn't really just hang up as I did need talk to them so didn't want to be rude even though it would been deserved).

In fact I'm getting thoroughly pissed off with people who don't listen to me, it happens a lot and I don't know why!

Forget it OP.

You owe him nothing and certainly not your time or consideration.

Janedoe82 · Today 15:12
You were unnecessarily rude and mean.

Absolutely! Why did you not stop what you were doing for the MAN. You could not possibly be doing anything more important than what the MAN wanted. It would only take two minutes of your time, which is much less valuable than his.
Hope that you are suitable chastened.

After he rolled his eyes at you the first time, rude is the only appropriate response to his return.

I think you were pointlessly rude, by being so reactive you increased the disruption to yourself.

Politeness and low reactions save you energy.

once my concentration has been broken I might as well get up This is nonsense. Ignore the door when you're working, if you were in the office you'd never have known they'd knocked.

No- I work with vulnerable people like the ones you see going to the food bank. It helps you keep things in perspective. Really not that hard not to be a twat to someone just asking if you want to do a survey. 🙄

Maybe you were a bit rude,but he should have taken no for an answer the first time!

Oh FFS. Absolutely pathetic. If he can’t handle a slammed door, he’s in the wrong job - and he certainly shouldn’t have gone back when he’d already been told “No”.

OP - you did nothing wrong. Ignore the bleeding hearts trying to show off how kind they are 🙄🙄🙄

No she wasn't. He should have respected her answer when she said she was working. He wouldn't turn up to an office block and insist people stepped away from a meeting.

The female ones are no better, to be fair. I had one the other week and as soon as I started to say I was working from home, she cut in and said, “Aha, you are working from home and I’m working from out here, hahaha! Anyway, what it is is…”

At this point I cut her off and said, “That wasn’t meant to be general conversation - I’m telling you I’m working. I can’t do this now”. I’ve just stopped answering the door now unless I’m expecting a delivery; it’s always someone trying to flog you tat or pushing you for donations.

She really wasn't. Unsolicited banging on the door is so annoying.

He sounds incredibly annoying, I wouldn't be upset. Around Easter time I had an old couple knock on the door during a weekday to talk about the church or jesus or something. I also thought it was a delivery but when I realised what they wanted I told them I'm an atheist and shut the door in their faces. Don't regret it one bit.