Do you and DP message throughout the day?

[december2020]

A very random one but I was thinking how when DH and I were younger (pre marriage and kids) we messaged all the time throughout the day.
Now - not so much, unless there is news, coordinating schedules, kids or similar.

From my POV it's not a bad thing. I feel a lot more confident and sure in myself than I did when I was younger, where I maybe had a lot less self confidence.

But it got me thinking, am I weird. Should we be messaging throughout the day. Or is this normal.

As to not to drip feed, no issues between DH and I. Yes normal disagreements here and there but generally a very happy and supportive relationship.

No. What would be the point? We will see each other in a few hours' time. Also, most of us should be working, not messing about on our phone.

When I am at work I am totally absorbed with it and would only message DH in an emergency. If I take a lunch break I will normally check family WhatsApp and see what I might be missing.

Always ring to see how each others day is going when we get a moment, usually around 1pm

I'll also call around tea time to get a rough eta to see if he's doing dc club collections whilst I get on with putting younger one to bed. Or whether I'm collecting.

Not really, unless it’s need to know information or eg something interesting we’ve seen in the news.

Sometimes we do, sometimes we don’t. We usually check in at lunch time (unless I’m asleep after a night shift) or might chat about logistics or wedding plans.
I very rarely text him while I’m at work (at night) as I’m usually busy the whole time. Will find time to text if the kids are under the weather.

My other half works away for months at a time so yes, we do message back and forth throughout the day. There's a time difference, so I wake up to a good morning from him and he wakes up to a good night from me. I'd miss it, it keeps us close. When he's home though, not so much! Maybe a quick message at lunchtime if I'm in work, or a 'what do you fancy for tea'?

It’s the norm not to message all the time for most people as it’s really not seen as ok in many work places. My workplace is quite relaxed but I still wouldn’t sit there typing messages during working time. Not if wfh either. Phone is turned on only in case there is an important reason for contact

Yeah, a fair bit, lots of screenshots or links to news or current affairs, albums on Spotify, youtube vids to watch, pics of the kids and lots of silly stuff because we're 40 year old children.

No, just logistics, that's all we ever have done, maybe once a week. We don't work particularly long hours and see each other every night so don't feel the need, it might be different if one of us travelled or worked shifts and we hardly saw each other.

Married 14 years.. don't live together.. blending didn't really work.. rarely have but spend extended periods of time together.. 1-4 months . Messaging and phone calls are important so happen 6-10 x a day ..

I know it sounds weird but he was a contractor so whilst we had a home together he was away all week.. then he retired and I am still enjoying work but it's seasonal,,he is sailing around the world and go and join him when I'm free of work.. works for us

Nope, hardly ever. I probably only have his phone number for emergency use only.

Sometimes I find it a bit sad, but there again we are from different generations (age gap) so I think in his generation people didn't really do 'texty texty' all day long. Whereas men I dated before him, we texted frequently. I'm sure it's an age thing though, as my parents are still completely in love with each other but never message each other.

Me and DH are as follows on the rare occasions we do text:

DH: "am I picking kids up tonight ?"

Me: "yes please "

Conversation over !

He's genuine though. He's a very acts of service person and shows his love a lot through that. I think gushy texters probably talk the talk.

Not usually. The odd email re logistics as we work in the same building.

Rarely, unless it's something important.

Two reasons I think. We are both very busy in our working days for one thing, and also our relationship pre-dates mobile phones so in the early years we weren't in the habit of messaging each other.

Actually I think we'd both find constant messaging during the day quite annoying.

We don't since we moved in together but we both wfh and share a home office so we are rarely apart for long enough to need to have a text conversation.

My husband and I have only been together 3 years so we still send quite a few messages throughout the day. Pics of the kids, any nice food one of us might be eating and usually a selfie thrown in too. Not as much pre-living together etc though.

Yes we did, one of the things I really miss about him. He was often the first one to message something fairly mundane about his day but always warm and loving.

Usually the only time we text each other is to let the other one know we are running late, or about picking something up from the supermarket, and that isn't every day. I just had a look and last time we texted was last Friday.

The odd one here and there, but generally not unless there's something important to say. I miss the days of long, amusing emails (roughly 25 years ago now!)

Yes always. We have together almost 18 years and he always send a message asking how my day going and how am I doing.

Exactly the same here.

My DH messages or calls me throughout the day. It drives me mad. He says he’ll stop but he can’t help himself. He doesn’t even have anything to say! I think he has ADD or something. Whenever he is walking somewhere or making a cup of tea, or in a boring meeting, or walking to the loo, he bloody texts or calls me. I don’t think he can just be quiet in his own thoughts. He needs some form of constant interaction, with anyone.

Yes we send photos of our kittens to the person who is in the office that day and messages about what the kittens are up to 😆

We usually message once or twice during the day. He works in NHS and I work in education so it’s usually something moany or funny and then something practical/logistics wise. occassional days, we won’t text at all as one of us is busy but it’s probably only once a month. Plus I’m part time so on my days off, I’ll usually send a few messages. When he works nights, I usually wake up to messages and funny memes 😂 however when we first dated, we were 16 so sent LOADS of messages all day!

One of my friends told me it was weird that me and my husband text in the day. It's usually pointless, things we've seen that the other would find amusing or something annoying that's happened. The odd "in joke" I find it nice to have contact but i don't think it's weird to not when you live with them

I might be your husband. Cannot just be with my own thoughts