To accept the end of my sexual life

[Wingfire]

Hi,

dh and I are both 43. The cut a long story short he’ll never have sex again. It’s a very complex situation and believe me, we’ve exhausted every option- counselling etc. he won’t have sex again and I accept that. Before I continue, please can I ask that people don’t suggest counselling etc- we’ve literally done everything possible. I won’t share his specific issues on here out of respect.

we have 2dc’s and despite our no- sex life, we still love each other very much. I’d hate to not be with him and in every other way our life is very good.

the problem is that I really miss sex. I’m not a nympho but I would like to have a regular shag!! My best friend thinks that I should get my sexual fulfilment elsewhere and that I shouldn’t feel guilty about this.

WWYD?

The DH could have been sexually assaulted for all we know. Let's not judge him.

The thing is OP doesn’t want to say exactly what the situation is, so any replies are just floundering in the dark really.

Of course they would, there’s no difference.
when I went off it I told DP to crack on discreetly but I wanted to know nothing about it! Just because one of you goes off sex doesn’t mean the other should have to. Just by think of the frustrations and bitterness that might ensue.