When I was under a lot of strain being bullied at work, I wrote a lot of things down.
A lot of the things I wrote when I was beginning to realise how much stress I was under did blame myself, wonder what I had done. Why they were behaving like that to me and assuming I had done something to cause it. Feeling that maybe I deserved it. If you saw those notes I wrote at that time you could take them as an admission of guilt that I had been the aggressor.
I can tell you, from a distance removed now, that I was the victim throughout. That I didn't do anything. Others who saw it happening, confirm this.
If she had been guilty, unless she wanted to be caught though, why didn't she destroy them? It wasn't as though they retrieved them from a long-since deleted file hidden on the computer. Or did she think she was too clever to be caught.
Or was she innocent and so never occurred to her that people could use them to show her guilt because she knew she hadn't written them as guilty, so didn't see through them.
One thing I discovered in the situation I was in, is that it can be a lot easier to hide when someone is guilty than when someone is innocent.
It's like the Wind in the Willows situation.
"One of those rabbits is a weasel"
"I'm not, I'm a rabbit."
We can see as as a watcher that the only way that "rabbit" could jump into denial is if it knows that they're speaking about him. And the only way it can know that it's speaking about him is if he is, indeed, a weasel.
In the same way an accusation can be easier to hide if you are guilty because you've thought of the excuses and can fend them off without even the person investigating realising.
For example, an item was broken that I needed. I knew that the only person who could have done this was the bully due to timing. Now the person I told didn't really want to accuse them directly. So they went to them and said "I'm looking for this item".
So they got the response "I haven't seen it since X dropped it on the floor last week, and Margaret told me that she was going to say I did it" they took that as innocent and the reason for it being broken, and that they were being accused unfairly. In their mind the only way they could have said that was if they were innocent, because they didn't know what they were being accused of. But they did know, for the simple reason, they did it!
The only person who could have known it was broken was me and the person who broke it. It wasn't obviously broken until you tried to use it, and the breakage was not one that could happen by accident easily. You could actually see where they had stuck a key through it inside and twisted.
So this was then switched round by the bully, and because they had apparently given a reason why it was broken, and said I was going to accuse them (they hadn't spoken to me in over a year at that point, so hardly going to have that conversation either) they switched it round to be me the aggressor and them the victim. And even though CCTV showed that they were not telling the truth that was the story that stood.
If they hadn't broken it, then they'd could have said something that seemed far more guilty because they wouldn't have known that they had to defend themselves against an accusation.
So I'm certainly not saying that she's innocent. I really don't know. However what I am saying is that I wouldn't take the notes as guilt.