A*rsehole neighbours

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I’m sat fuming. Second night in a row and need to vent because my OH cannot take it anymore 😂

I have neighbours of single mum and her three kids. One teenager, two primary age: Generally get on well. We are neighbourly, our kids play out together. I let them borrow things. We chat over the fence. But every few months she has a stint of all night parties and it makes me want to tear my hair out.

im not talking about loud but finishes at 12. I’m talking gets louder at 12 and is still happening at 3pm the next day. We are semi detatched. The music booms through. It’s so loud, can hear screaming and shouting. Laughing and yelling under our bedroom window. We have had teenagers crawling under our car, some random bloke in our garden before and it’s absolutely insane.

What pisses me off too is that I have a baby that it wakes up, a child who can’t sleep and I am grieving a significant loss. She knows all this. I’ve told her, she tells me she will turn it down and it goes quiet for 5 mins and then starts all over again.

my OH had a 5am argument with her when I was 5 months pregnant. She always apologises the next day but we’ve had two days in a row and I’ve had ENOUGH. My baby is awake. Dogs are going mad and I’m lost at what to do.

spoken to her nicely, spoken to her angrily, called the police once and it goes quiet for a bit then it happens again. We are literally in the process of selling our house because I cannot deal with it anymore but what do I do in the meantime? We own our house, she rents. I know I could call landlord but I don’t want bad blood or my kids to miss out on their friends. 🤬🤬

I would definitely get in contact with the landlord. At 3am, I wouldn’t care about bad blood. Very selfish of her.

Seriously? You’d sell your own house rather than talk to her landlord?

We were going to sell in a year but we’ve brought it forward. Our kids are close and I don’t want to tear friends away from them (also I feel a bit sorry for her kids and don’t want them losing our support). If I’m honest the kids could do with a social worker but they don’t meet threshold.

Get in touch with their landlord at whatever time they're disturbing you, every time, he put you in this position by letting to ar$holes, so let him feel the same inconvenience

My neighbour can be a twat like this . Turns out the landlord wants to know and also suggests contacting the police, he reckons it will give him more leverage to stop renting to her.

selling the house might prove difficult as you’ll have to declare the noisy neighbours and police involvement.

omg what 😳 how?

Oh frig. I best go join her party. I want to sell this bloody house 😂

We've just sold and you have to declare this type of issue with neighbours on the forms. Which is shit as it's not your fault and they also don't own their house, so can be moved on.

That’s awful OP but as you’ve already called the police at least once, it sounds like you are obliged to disclose this to buyers.

Are her kids all present for these parties? I really hope they are safe. It sounds like some of the guests are out of control /excessively drunk. I used to work in social services and these situations are very precarious for the kids involved.

If anything you’d better crack on with reporting her to landlord, if she gets moved on that will solve the problem for you and the future buyers.

🤣 on a serious note, hope it works out ok in the end for you!

Have you contacted Environmental Health with a noise complaint? Catalogue days/times etc each time.

Sounds like it already has to be declared because of the police involvement

I’m gonna threaten her with it past 1am. Kids are there, teenager gets drunk. I’m a social worker in my area though and it doesn’t reach threshold which is a pain

Contact her landlord. It’s usual for a tenancy agreement to have a clause about not annoying neighbours, or not creating a nuisance ( can’t remember exact wording I used to have included) The landlord should just give them a warning , keep the noise down or I’ll have to terminate your tenancy. Worked like a dream when one of my tenants was having noise problems from a neighbour. She was worried about speaking to them so I called their letting agent, noise stopped.

I've been there, absolute nightmare.
Ear plugs helped, white noise, fans, amazon alexa rain sounds.
I would complain to her landlord and complain to noise control simultaneously.
It's easy to find out who owns the house, a quick land register search will show you. It's such selfish behaviour and so stressful

I don’t think I can or I’ll have to declare it😭 they’re being so loud. I’ve already said something and text her. I’ve got my earphones and a podcast I’m just praying my baby sleeps through it. If she gets up there will be hell to pay. Absolutely do not agree with or condone violence but this may test it

They won’t still be friends if you move house, surely?
What a lot of excuses why you can’t just do something to resolve the situation.

My ‘excuse’ is that I want to sell the house? And don’t want buyers putting off. Plus cba with the drama of a big fall out. Big difference between an excuse and a reason.

And who knows they might still be friends. They’ll still go to the same school. Why should my kids suffer because my neighbours is a dick?

If you’ve contacted police or her landlord in the past, you already have to declare it so may as well!

Yeah but you’re actually in a worse situation now if you don’t keep going and get it resolved completely, since you already have to declare the police involvement.

If you report to landlord and get them relocated or their behaviour changed, it will be better as you can always then update the buyer with that if they ask for more details.

If they are partying through the night till 3pm there is likely without a doubt drugs being taken. She's likely on a coke binge and won't give a flying fuck.