To think DP is overly paranoid in hotels/apartments

[LaDamaDeElche]

Whenever I stay in a hotel with DP he puts a chair against the main door at nighttime, the door is locked, the hotel has cctv and security, so for me this is a bit overly paranoid. We stayed in an apartment for the first time - they have security guards patrolling the area, so very safe - and I woke up the first morning to see he'd dragged an ottoman from the hallway and put it against the locked door. I've talked to him about it before and he said his dad always did it when he was a kid, so it's clearly learned paranoia. Does anyone else do this or are DP and his dad a little bit much in their security consciousness, or is this common and I'm just really lax with mine?! 😂

Your father is a wise man. I know many people who smash old laptops / drives with hammers.

I've just read an article about an airline staff member being attacked and violently assaulted in her hotel room last week. This was in the raddison red at Heathrow!

I always put a chair in front of my hotel door. You're much more likely to have someone try and enter your room, than a fire breaking out. Also the fire crew will use force to open any doors that are jammed.

Clearly you have never had another guest be given a key to your room?

or a staff member just enter randomly?

when it happens once you can think it is a fluke. Once it has happened multiple times you realize that hotel doors are not secure, even if locked.

@Ponderingwindow yes I have - and I’ve been the person inadvertently given the wrong key. Which is why an always put the chain / bar on.

without a key hotel doors are very secure. They have to be. They are fire doors. And the Reason they are fire doors is to protect you from fire and smoke. They have to be easy to open, with one hand, from the inside so that you can get out in the dark / in a smoky environment. The hardware on the door eg the closer so it always defaults to closed) are not there for fun. They are there for a really good reason.

Always do that to avoid the cleaners coming in too early.

I’ve got two young dcs so I’m definitely putting something infront of the door to keep them in as much as keep others out. My mum and sister are currently in Turkey and they had a member of staff come into their room in the middle of the night so have since barricaded the door each night.

I watched a jury trial where a man allegedly raped a woman who was asleep in her room. The concierge let him in the woman’s room as he said he was her partner. The concierge testified that the woman was asleep and naked on the bed. She did not agree to letting this man into her room, not confirm who he was. The room was in the woman’s name. The man was a stranger who was at the same party she went to that evening. She went to her room alone and went to sleep. She thought she would be safe there but this strange man was let into her room hours later without her consent.

The worst part was that the jury couldn’t reach a verdict. I mean how could she consent if she was asleep? He wasn’t even invited into her room!

Anyway long story short- don’t presume you or your belongings are safe in hotels.

(FYI- I was doing my low degree at the time. I’m not a weirdo who watches rape trials for fun!)

I was the supervisor of a hotel , I’m just gonna leave this here , we had to fire our evening hotel receptionist and open a police report , he had given his number to a lady guest who flat out refused his advances (this man was married with kids ) in the middle of the night he was letting himself in her room , she pretended to be asleep and was scared she called her husband and blocked her door after he left a note in her room the final time he entered . Husband traveled down , receptive denied it but they got him on cctv and the notes he had left in her room , and another guest had witnessed it .

all of these could’ve been stopped by putting the chain / door guard / security latch on as I have repeatedly suggested. That’s what they are there for.

Not all hotels have these.

Just a few weeks ago I had two men trying to get into my hotel room (I posted on here about it). They were physically trying to break the door down. I did have a chair in front of it but I'm not sure how much it would have helped if reception staff hadn't come upstairs when they did but it was terrifying and I'll always put a chair there in future.

They really do. I stay in many hotels. I can’t remember one that hasn’t had one. And believe me I look because I’m a complete door hardware anorak 😬 (it’s my job in fairness!)

It would never occur to me to do such a thing and I travel a lot for work, often by myself for decades. So I think it's a bit batty.

I'm not doubting you've stayed in ones with those safety features so please do me the same courtesy and accept that I've stayed in hotels that do not have them.

Ok. Wow. You know best 😂

I had a cleaner come into my room unexpectedly. It may well have been an honest mistake. But she could have been a male. I see no harm in putting a barrier around the door and hoping you don't need it, rather than ever needing one that isn't there.

I was staying in a premier inn last year. I had just got out of the shower and was standing naked in the bathroom with the bathroom door open.
A staff member just used their key card and walked straight in.
Next time I stay in a hotel room I will be putting a chair or something against the door as well

Just a funny story, because I probably should have done this
Went on a family holiday, and was getting it on with my DH at midnight, when the concierge walked in with a couple of new guests, over a mix up with rooms 😂
I’d never seen my DH move so fast, as he dived off the side of the bed onto the floor, the concierge and the guests just stood in shock, while I howled with laughter.

I don’t know where you live/ travel, but I’ve only ever stayed in a room with an additional chain on it.

I've always been very security conscious. That was mostly instilled in me from my DF, and as a result of his time/training in the army. Also, by my mother was often alone on the farm growing up, we're only a few miles from a town that had (and still has) a lot of social issues/gangs.

I'm very security-conscious like your DP and I think you're being awful to him. Granted he's not a woman so it's a little unusual but I've met lots of people like you and I dislike being around them. Just accept different people have different ideas.

I'm with your husband on this one!

@BitOutOfPractice

i stayed in a hotel last Saturday. It didn't have any of those options. I considered using a chair, but there were only tub chairs. I was too tired to think of anything else(thinking now a rolled up towel would have done I suppose)

but I was 🤷🏻‍♀️meh

@Daisypod

Jesus, that must have been terrifying. I'm not sure I'd want to stay in a hotel again

where was this??

@BitOutOfPractice

NO. they don't ALL have them as I posted above

U.K. hotel in Coventry