Would you allow 14 yr old daughter to be home alone with 15 yr old boyfriend for an hour?

[Barrenfieldoffucks]

As above. DD has been seeing her first boyfriend for about a month, he seems nice. He has been coming round to hang out with her on his days off, which we are fine with with the basics rules of: downstairs, or if upstairs door open, no home alone.

His bus is likely to get to ours about 30-45 mins before I get back with my sons...would you allow this? Daughter is respectful of our boundaries but I don't know if I would be being a little pedantic to suggest a later bus.

He would be leaving at a set time anyway as they both have training for their respective sports this evening.

What do you think? Oldest child, all new to us!

You know your DD best. At age 14, would she jump into the sack as she knew she only had an hour to lose her virginity or would she not even notice you're not there?

DD was 17 when she had her first serious boyfriend. They waited a year to have sex, as she was clear that "I don't want his penis anywhere near me. I'm only 17" This was after 6 months dating.

Don't assume all teens are the same about sex, so go with how your daughter is.

Unless you plan to stop them being alone together totally @Barrenfieldoffucks what are the going to do indoors that they couldn't do outdoors?

As it didn't happen it now gives you time to prepare if it is likely in the future. For me it would depend on what conversations around consent/sex/safe/sex etc had already been had .If chats had been had then you can slot the boyfriend visiting into that pre existing narrative and what your expectations are and what she can do and who and how to contact someone if she wanted to and felt pressured.

If you haven't already had the early chats - I think it might be better to have said no - not because she might do anything - but she might not know what to do if he was to ask something and she wanted to say no.

Sorry, but that's naive.
You can get pregnant or pick up an std in a few minutes.

Absolutely not! there is no way i would let my daughter if she was 14 spend an hour alone with a 15 year old boy! That is just asking for trouble - they are very likely to get into mischief in that hour! What if he forced herself on her - even if she said no and then that escalates into a police matter I wouldnt take this risk with my daughter !

Yes they could easily sleep with each other in that hour! It only takes 5 minutes and your 14 year old daughter could be pregnant or get at STD

Yes if you want a grandchild in 9 months.

Your daughter sounds lovely and sensible.
Let them have time together and ignore all those who thing teenagers just want to fuck at every opportunity, or that this boy will coerce her into something.
No wonder we have a generation of kids who have no confidence, who are unable to make decisions, and who model their behaviour on hysterical parents who mollycoddle their kids and are too afraid to open their door or respond to a phone call unless the caller has texted to say they are going to ring...

Jesus sodding christ
Ridiculous

Not really I know what I was up to with my boyfriend at 15 whenever we were home alone and I was lucky not to get pregnant!

How do we know this ladies daughter isnt feeling fruity and will take the hour to sleep with her bf ! look at how many one night stands there are in teens and 20s.

Despite not needing to worry as OP stated DH was home anyway, this whole type of scenario is about mutual trust and respect for boundaries, which may be straightforward and may not. As many others have said, if any sort of sexual type activity was the intention, they’d find a way , most likely they wouldn’t have done anything

Saying that they could go for a walk and end up doing it outside! you cant control her completely

Me too

The mil allowed this.
Now me and her son are 23 with a 7 year old 😂

Oh this thread is old

Totally agree.

No I wouldn't OP.

Noticed that too after posting, actually read all the OPs posts for once but not the date,

Why don’t you just have a conversation with her about sex ?????
tell her definitely not ok under 16 , and after that only when she’s ready with protection

her reaction to this conversation will tell you what you need to do next

Yes , as it would give me the opportunity to shop for essentials for my new grandchild

come on op 🙄🙄