My fiancé had a vasectomy on Sunday afternoon. 3 days ago and he’s still having me wait on him hand and foot. I am extremely beyond grateful for what he’s done but I don’t think I can cope waiting on him any more. We have two children, 4 & 1. Our youngest has a rare genetic condition and it’s been a hard year and with a hard pregnancy, I’m on the go 24/7 like most parents but I have lots of medical appointments to attend to and usually go these alone whilst he’s at work but on top of it being half term so now my eldest in tow too. Now fiancé has taken just on two weeks off work to recover, day 3 and he still can not make himself a drink. Can not make his own food or even tidy up after him, taking a plate out or washing a glass or picking up laundry. He’s complaining he’s in so much pain so I’m at his call with painkillers alternating every 2 hours as well new ice packs, looking after our children and attending appointments as well as normal house work. I’m starting to loose the will to live, I feel he’s having me on a bit. I’ve asked him kindly if he can start getting back up on his feet soon and doing things around the home that aren’t strenuous but he’s refusing point blank. I’m starting to get really annoyed now and feeling completely unappreciated. I fully understand he can not go to work right now as his job is very hands on, physical with heavy lifting. How can I address this to him without sounding mean. I didn’t get all this when I had my children! I was up and out in the supermarkets 2 days after birth doing school runs!