Do you have a glass of wine before guests arrive?

[mizzchilds]

Having guests come over for Sunday lunch. I’ll do most of the cooking. I get into a right flap so need something to help me relax.

Is it normal to have a tipple before guests arrive?

You know many of us can drink and not get pissed.

I rarely drink at all since menopause because it just makes me feel ill, but I always used to really enjoy a glass of wine while making Sunday lunch with some music on. I do miss my ‘Keith Floyd’ wine!

@Bjorkdidit let me hunt out those thimbles 👍

Always! It's the 'cook's drink'.

I have one as I am putting finishing touches on the roast and gravy. It helps relax me and get me in the mood and is a treat for all the effort I usually put in.

No because I'd be busy making sure everything is ready and would wait to relax until my guests arrived.

If it’s past 5pm I would, but not at lunchtime as too much daytime drinking zonks me out. But it would be because I fancied a drink, not to help with anxiety. If having people
over makes you anxious, either don’t do it, or choose better company 🤷🏻‍♀️

Always.

No it's not normal, drugging yourself to cope with anxiety or being anxious at the thought of guests visiting that you invited. Go to your GP and gets some help.

Yes I would absolutely do this, go for it!

This can’t be a serious post?

Of course its not ok to drink at lunchtime.

are you ok? Do you usually need a drink to relax? Is your husband not nice to you? Doesn’t he help with the kids/cooking?

above is the usual reply from the pearl clutchers.

my reply? Fuck it! Have a drink! Id not bat an eyelid if I arrived and you had a glass in hand!

enjoy🍷!!

I love cooking a nice meal with a glass of wine in hand - it’s part of the process for me and if was having guests for Sunday lunch I’d certainly have a glass while I got organised.

I can't see it being a big deal if you enjoy a glass of wine as part of the ritual of having guests and/or it helps you not to be on edge when the doorbell rings. I'd rather be welcomed in by a relaxed and slightly tipsy host than one who's visibly nervous. Personally, I wouldn't, because it doesn't take much alcohol to make me lose all my words and fall asleep in a corner so I'll want to wait until I can be seen to have a drink along with my guests.

@Boxina

give over, not everyone is a lightweight you know

Drinking wine as you can't calm down otherwise is a worrying sign

@DragonFly98

lol good one! 🤣 so funny

No, I never drink when cooking and I think it would be likely to make me more stressed

This is me too!
@mizzchilds enjoy your glass of wine 🍷 and a nice lunch with your friends / family.

This is a myth that thd British tell themselves to glamorise getting pissed.

No never,

if I’m having guests over I don’t drink until all the cooking and serving and clearing up is done (if at all). It makes me feel a bit rubbish and i need to be on the ball.

If you're well on your way to being pissed after one glass of wine then you're doing it wrong 😆

(Unless it's like my glass that fits a full bottle of wine - I use it for vodka 😜)

I love this response! Also I second the notion 🍷

I won’t do it specifically to relax, I can try wine if opening it for cooking but otherwise no.

Let’s not do the OTT response of labelling a perfectly normal reaction to having to make a large meal for guests (flapping and a bit stressed) as a diagnosed mental health condition which is totally different 🙄

I like a glass of wine while I cook a large meal, I enjoy it as part of it. I probably wouldn’t have more than one though if I was going to be drinking with dinner too. I don’t normally make Sunday dinner until about 4pm or later though.

You do what you want OP if a glass while prepping might help you relax a little that’s fine.

🤣🤣