Do you have a glass of wine before guests arrive?

[mizzchilds]

Having guests come over for Sunday lunch. I’ll do most of the cooking. I get into a right flap so need something to help me relax.

Is it normal to have a tipple before guests arrive?

Don’t ask about moderate alcohol use on mumsnet - weird place regarding booze

I didn't realise there was a set time it's acceptable to drink alcohol at. 4pm and not a minute before?

I wouldn't, and I agree with a previous poster that if you need alcohol to help you cope with anxiety, and you are getting anxiety over something as simple as cooking a meal, you need to seek some professional help for your anxiety. That isn't normal.

But it's normal to have wine with lunch. I just wouldn't start drinking before guests arrived as it's horrible as a guest to turn up and your host is pissed (the average glass of wine is a third of a bottle so yes, you could easily be on the way to pissed).

Pah hahahahaha!!! In what world?

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Good grief. This wins the internet. Now a glass of wine means you need proffesional help with anxiety and you might be pissed.

Yeah, because what ‘healthcare professionals’ really need is people who don’t have any kind of mental health issue or addiction wasting their time over fuck-all.

Getting a bit stressed while cooking a big complicated meal for guests isn’t ‘anxiety’. Having a glass of wine while you’re cooking a meal is a pleasant treat connected to a social event.

If the OP had said “Is it OK to keep half a dozen vodka miniatures in my handbag so I can down one in the toilets at work every time I have to make a difficult phone call?” then that would be the point at which she’d need to seek help, not [checks notes] enjoying a glass of wine to ease the burden of cooking a meal for friends on a Sunday.

A glass of wine while cooking dinner (in the evening) is pretty normal.

A glass of wine while cooking lunch and I’d be dozing off. I’d have nothing but toast lining my stomach.

If it wouldn’t bother you, OP, fair enough, go for it

Definitely, nothing better than cooking with a glass of wine and some music... makes the while experience more enjoyable 😁

All the time! Usually more than one

I don’t drink anymore but when I did, I often had a glass of wine on the go before guests arrived for lunch. Enjoy it OP & hope your lunch goes well. Cheers 🥂

Getting in a bit of a flap over cooking a big meal is not clinical anxiety. It is a normal thing that lots of people find a bit stressful in a perfectly normal way. It is normal to feel a bit flappy sometimes over daily stuff. Nothing the OP has said implies she has any kind of mental health problem.

There’s always one

The technical term is cook's nips. It's the privilege of the cook.

If you're cooking a Keith Floyd recipe I'd
say this is most definitely expected.

I don't because I lose concentration if I have had a drink. I wait until food is pretty well ready for off and have a small drink when olives or hors d'oevres are being circulated.

You misunderstood.

I said that if she has anxiety over something as simple as cooking a meal and needs to use alcohol to cope with that anxiety then the anxiety is obviously a problem and she needs help with that. I speak as somebody who has had severe anxiety in the past.

Separately, I pointed out that having the average home poured glass of wine will be a good third of the bottle and therefore you are halfway to pissed at least even if you don't think you are. And that's not very nice for your guests.

If you're going to comment so vigorously, I suggest you improve your reading comprehension skills.

No, but I have never drunk alcohol. I've just had a chocolate bar tho, if that helps in your solidarity

Shes concerned about her alcohol intake enough to post on mumsnet about it

I do also think it's a bit rude to the guests to start drinking before they arrive. They'll think they're drinking more than you or you'll be drinking a glass more than them and be pissed sooner

Me too! I follow the Keith Floyd School of Cookelly and ish just fined. I been done breklfast, (white Burgundy, Chablis I think, can't see as I've chuckled the bockle out), a glass or too of a light Beau, beau, boojolais at elevenees with a Tunnocks Caramel waffer. Abd now jusque warming for din-dins with a Chateau Lefeeeet. 🤪

Only between 4 pm on Christmas Eve and 00.30 on NYD, a thimble full at a time. And not if there's DC in the house or you have teens out and about that might need collecting from somewhere.

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It is in my social circle

No, and I like a drink but I think writing down the timings etc would help me get into less of a flap, than drinking alcohol would.

Otherwise, I'd be opening a bottle whenever I got into a flap about anything.

Oh dear.. I'm finishing last night's wine on my own and enjoying it.