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Tell me it'll be ok?????

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princesspadam · 17/08/2024 22:59

I e been under so much stress lately that it's kept me off work.
Next week I move out of the home I've lived in for 25 years, raised my family in
To move into a rental with DP whilst our dream home is being built.

I'm trying not to get too maudlin over it, but worried that once again I'm sweeping all my emotions under the carpet when they eventually come back to bite me on the arse

So please tell me your positive stories of doing something similar

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Monkeysatonthewall · 24/08/2024 18:14

Ilikeadrink14 · 17/08/2024 23:04

You are moving to your ‘dream home’ and you are stressed about it???
Some people would give their eye teeth to be where you are! Sorry if you were expecting sympathy, but I just can’t give it to you. Count your blessings. Some of us have really important things to stress about, and moving into a dream home would not be one of them!

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I agree.

What a hard life to have spend some time in the rental while your dream home is being built.

There are people losing their homes as they can't afford to pay they mortgage.

Sorry for being nasty, I understand it's a big change and it's stressful but it's not a 'tell me it will be okay' situation.

pinklemonsparkle · 24/08/2024 18:27
Hmm
rosyvalentine · 24/08/2024 22:24

mortgagefreesoon5 · 18/08/2024 06:59

Can't believe the lack of empathy from certain posters.
You are leaving your home, place where feel secure to something totally new. Your feelings are totally valid. Some of us are apprehensive to change however good might be.
My reply below comes from the point of view that i, n regards to this move, you both have the same vision, ie you haven't been coerce to move. Other posters might come along and advise better in regards of finances etc.

I will always love my first home. I was so upset to leave it. So, I would take lots of pics/videos of your old home/garden/you in your garden, by front door etc. take some cuttings of your garden for your new home. I thoroughly cleaned the old house from top to bottom, that helped me believe it or not. I properly said good bye to my old home and thank her for everything.I also left a card and a bottle of wine , new owners were extremely grateful. In fact she's become one of my best friends in the last 3 years.
My new home was more practical for my growing family in the sense that it was bigger, it had character as it was an old home but I missed my old home. Slowly but surely we put our own things in it, decorated, change the lighting , added some rugs and window dressings , even changed the used of some rooms, planted my new garden and kept moving furniture around till I was happy, it has taken some time but it is ours, not "finish" by any stretch of imagination though, but it has a lovely feeling, it is welcoming and it is our safe place.
Good luck with the move OP.

OP, I agree with everything that @mortgagefreesoon5 says. I made exactly the same move as you a year ago. I was so upset leaving my old home. I dragged the move date out for ages because I just didn't want to go, even though, like you, I was moving to my "dream home", somewhere that I had wanted to live for years. I won't lie, the leaving was very hard and I was upset for days afterwards. I've made the new house my own and I'm happy to be here now, but on occasion (particularly if I'm feeling a bit down), I have walked to my old house (new house is nearby) and have had a bit of a minor freak-out 😄 I've done this twice (at night). I think it's a normal feeling if you've lived there for so long, raised your kids there etc., particularly if you're giving up your independence, as I was.

A year later, I feel much more settled and am really appreciating the extra space I have and the future potential of the new house. I think the move would be easier on you if you were going to your new home directly and not a rental. However, you'll get there! Just expect the emotion and ride it out. Best of luck! You'll be delighted in the long run. ❤️

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OoLaaLaa · 27/08/2024 09:21

princesspadam · 17/08/2024 22:59

I e been under so much stress lately that it's kept me off work.
Next week I move out of the home I've lived in for 25 years, raised my family in
To move into a rental with DP whilst our dream home is being built.

I'm trying not to get too maudlin over it, but worried that once again I'm sweeping all my emotions under the carpet when they eventually come back to bite me on the arse

So please tell me your positive stories of doing something similar

Huh? Keep it real , stop humble bragging whe folk have real problems on here

tuvamoodyson · 27/08/2024 09:24

cestlavielife · 17/08/2024 23:10

So don't do it then.

Exactly. Who is holding the gun to your head?

StMarieforme · 27/08/2024 09:33

OP I don't think you phrased your op well and the drip feeding doesn't help.

It's natural to be stressed over change, and obviously giving up your independence is scary. You will be fine, as it's clearly a long term decision well thought through.

I can see why people are a little shocked that you're off work with stress when it should be positives you're moving towards, but we all deal with stress differently, and if your Dr thinks you need to be off then no one can argue.

Make sure you are legally protected in this new venture; speak to solicitor's and heed their advice. Then relax!

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