Why are some people slobs?

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I used to be bloody awful as a teen; proper floordrobe, used plates and glasses left for days etc. Mum used the phrase 'health hazard' on more than one occasion. But when I went to uni I grew out of it, pretty much instantaneously. I'm now pretty houseproud, but still quite relaxed overall (I have two small children, doesn't feel worth being too stressed about the state of the house! We're not instagrammers).

My husband on the other hand...oh my days!!! He has an office down the garden which is very much his domain, I don't go in there. Except for today as he asked me to fetch something. It's gross!! Rubbish lying everywhere in spite of there being a bin right there, crumbs, used hankies, random empty boxes of things which he bought last year. I just don't understand how someone can be productive in a space like that?! I closed the door and backed away slowly 😂

Then again I've heard a lot of geniuses live in squalor, is it a thing??

Just wondering, did you used to be a slob? Did you grow out of it or are you still happy surrounded by mess? Do you live with someone with different standards to you? Just interested really!

I have adhd
I can't be tidy if I tried
I am clean though

ADHD. I just keep the office door closed and keep my side of the bedroom tidy. It’s not so much about being a gross slob as having stonking ADHD and a bit of depression thrown in.

Ok, calm down Hyacinth! I suppose love?

For me it was crippling depression and ADHD. When you don't care if you get hit by a train tomorrow why would you care about dishes in the sink?

Sometimes it's a sign of depression, sometimes a symptom of being ND and sometimes just a reflection of people having different standards/ways that want to live.

Is your husband reasonably clean/tidy in the house?

I'm a slob. I didn't grow out of it , but I had to get better due to having DD. The tendencies are still there though and I can let it go run wild for about a week or so, then force myself to sort it all out.

Absolutely not, but I understand that it’s not as simple as ‘slob’ or ‘not slob’.

I can't be arsed tidying the whole time.

Tbh I judge people whose houses are spick and span, I think it shows a lack of imagination and creativity. I feel uncomfortable in places where you feel untidy for just existing in a physical form.

So it goes both ways.

I've often wondered this myself. Or why people marry those with poor personal hygiene.

Im a minimalist my home looks empty but spotless.

Downstairs is fairly presentable - I'd need an hour to get it 'guest ready'. My bedroom though is a mess. Yes, I may have a suitcase from my holiday a whole month ago still on the floor (thought it's mostly unpacked). Huge pile of clothes on top of the chest of drawers. Clothes flung over the top of the door (I never close it). Worse: I stripped the bed two days ago but still haven't put on a clean fitted sheet (though it does have a mattress cover and clean pillow cases),
No dirty plates or used tissues though!

"Slob" here. And I mean it. Really bad. But. I'm also a Successful business owner who retired on gazillions aged 55. The same year I got an adhd diagnosis.

So I'm great at some things and absolutely shit at others.

You may have a clean and today house, but are you as creative and capable of hyper focus and synergising as I am?

Fucking thought not.

I potentially could have been a slob as a teen but no chance as my mother used to clean obsessively and my room was no exception! Once free of all that, I am not particularly tidy nor clean, my energy levels are too low. Hasn't got better as I've gotten older, I have even less energy now so I live with a mess. Not great! I am clean where it matters, i.e. when cooking, personal hygiene, but if my mother was alive she'd be aghast at the state of the house!

For me it’s adhd (not diagnosed but I’m 99% sure) plus chronic illness. If you’ve never been really ill long term you can’t imagine how exhausting it is to just pick up a plate sometimes. I get random bursts of energy when I manage to tidy for a bit which keeps it just about acceptable but it’s always a bit messy at the very least.

Why as people do judgey ? How about mind your business

I could have written this!

I was a terrible slob in my 20s and grew out of it when I started to be able to buy nice things and take pride in my home. Now I’m pretty tidy out of habit, because I’ve learned it’s far less effort to put things away as you go and always have comfortable surroundings than to let it get out of hand and have to spend a whole day sorting it.

My brother is a terrible, terrible slob to the point that it’s not that pleasant being in his house because every surface and inch of floor is covered in something that shouldn’t be there. I find that level of mess stressful to be in, and can’t relax, but he associates it with feeling happy and unpressured.

Our mum is absolutely obsessive about tidiness and has quite serious anger issues, so spent our entire childhoods having screaming meltdowns and threatening to walk out over so much as a bottle of squash left out on the side. It’s not difficult to trace the connections between that and our own attitudes.

Im a self confessed 'slob'. Its partly ADHD, and partly, that quite frankly, it doesn't bother me.

I put rubbish in the bin, and i take plates out, but i'm not tidy by a long shot. Ultimately, its my stuff, if i wanted to tidy it, i would.

Quite frankly, i'm physically disabled, have limited energy, and i'd rather spend my time doing things other than trying to make my house look like a show house when its my home and i live in it.