If you have children, how did you feel when you first found out you were pregnant with your first child?

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If you have one or more children, how did you feel when you first found out you were pregnant with your first child?

What were your emotions when you first saw the test result?

Scared? Excited? Other emotions?

I may have to go through this soon, and I don't know how I'll feel. Just wanted to hear from others.

Lovely description, Serenity.

Honestly, terrified and very conflicted whether I should go ahead with it. Wrong time, wrong father. But she's the love of my life and I'll miss her when she goes off to do her own thing in the next few years..

Stunned. Amazed. I'd only been with dp for 4 weeks. I'd wanted a child for years and years. I tested in the morning before work (in the toilets at the local Sainsbury's, how romantic) and was interviewing all day. It was OK in the interviews but in between, all I could think about was the image of the stick and the two lines. It was an extraordinary day.

Absolutely terrified!

I was a month into a new relationship (it's now 5 years on and we're married).
I was technically still married to my ex at the time as well as my divorce had not been finalised yet.

I was 36 and the biggest worry was how to tell my dad 🤣🤣

Very scared all 3 times. First 2 were weird and atypical (both were ectopic), third was an ivf pregnancy.

With my successful pregnancy I did not allow myself to link pregnancy with an actual baby (or two in my case) until well into the second trimester when they were moving, I'd had ante natal tests and I'd passed dates of viability. That messed with my head quite a bit and in hindsight I should have got some counselling.

I felt the emotions others have posted about once they were here btw. They are the most amazing thing I could have ever done with my life. But actually finding out I was pregnant was one of the worst.

Another checking you are ok due to slightly weird phrasing of your op.

I was only 21yo. Did the test in a public toilet. Was really scared and a bit excited. The worse bit was telling everyone though as my partner wasn’t overly happy and I think my mum was a bit shocked due to my age. I was super broody at that point in my life though so not having the baby was never going to be an option. That baby turned 26 last month!

I was delighted, devastated, excited, scared all at once. Even though I wanted a baby I felt some level of regret, like I wanted this but now I am not sure, this is life changing and I don't think I am ready, a real mix of emotions.

Terrified. I was 22 years old and found out during my lunch break

No home tests when I was first pregnant but I knew very early on - one tingly boob in the shower. Exactly the same sign with 2nd - both at maybe only 6 weeks.
Very happy and excited both times.

Terrified. I was 17 years old.

Yes! You'd be crazy not to. I'm still scared now and she's a teenager.

Wishing you all the best and it all turns out how you want.

Disbelieving. I was five days late but I hadn't even noticed because my cat was unwell, and we'd hardly tried that month, both at unlikely times.

So I only just noticed I was late, but my cycles were really erratic and I was six days later than usual the month before to no effect.

My husband was very nonchalant when I asked him to pick up a test because all of our false alarms had been the same long cycles. He went out to do another errand and I really didn't believe the faint line steadily getting stronger.

Delighted, with a dash of 'what the fuck have I done'

Terrified and sick. Though she was planned and very much wanted.

Ecstatic

I was at university so slightly tense...

Terrified and immediately full of dread. I sank to the bathroom floor and cried. DP (now DH) came in and found me like that and we both just sat there staring at the test/into space for a long time.

We were only 20, in our final year of university and had literally (as in that week) just moved into our first rented house together. We were penniless but together. I was on the pill. We decided to go ahead with the pregnancy and would never ever change a thing now but at the moment it felt like the worst thing that could have happened. I remember thinking ‘I’m either going to have to go through an abortion or have a baby!’

I often feel quite sad about the whole thing, and that was our experience of finding out we were going to be parents.

We muddled through and are now very happy 10 years later and eventually joined by DS2 last year.

I was happy and excited in a way I had never felt before, it was an amazing feeling. It’s because I had been desperate for it to happen for so long and never thought it would happen for me (the odds were really stacked against me). It was the most magical feeling.

Then I remember a panicked feeling of
overthinking now it’s in there I have to give birth one way or another and would I be able to cope with the pain.

I spent hours swinging from huge joy, to panic. But it was the second best day of my life, the best day was holding my baby in my arms for the first time.

Scared shitless, baby one was a happy accident. We had everything we needed to on paper, house, good incomes, we were late 20s and early 30s.

But it was still hard to digest. At the time weren't ready just then for babies. Both of us were too selfish, enjoying a lifestyle and doing what we wanted. If course all of that had to change, and it did change.

It was that final "I'm really an adult" milestone for us. We don't regret it for the world

We were also both very blase about pregnancy risks and miscarriage and all went well for us. We then had unexplained secondary infertility for several years, that made us both realise how lucky we truly were.

I've never been happy to be pregnant, either always scared or detached. Even with dc 2 after many losses and trouble conceiving, I just couldn't get my head around it until he arrived and even then it was a bit surreal until the full flush of happy set in, knowing we did it. We had a second.

We count our blessings everyday. Even though I haye clichés it's the only way I can describe it

Thank you everyone. It's good to hear that people have a wide range of emotions. And even if you're terrified, it can still work out.

Sending strength to posters who have been through hard times with fertility issues X

I immediately threw up, nothing to do with morning sickness and I wasn’t shocked as we’d been trying, so no idea why that was my body’s reaction!