If you have children, how did you feel when you first found out you were pregnant with your first child?

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If you have one or more children, how did you feel when you first found out you were pregnant with your first child?

What were your emotions when you first saw the test result?

Scared? Excited? Other emotions?

I may have to go through this soon, and I don't know how I'll feel. Just wanted to hear from others.

I was so excited. I was praying I got to keep this one, that she would be my girl and she is everything and more. I was so so excited, then reality kicked in and I just kept it to myself for the day and told my hubby in the evening, it was sweet

Shocked and then immediately very excited and happy. My husband was the one who first thought I was pregnant, and I told him he was being silly because of course I wasn't pregnant, I was on the pill and never missed a dose. So much for that. It happened about 6 years before our brilliant life plan, but we were thrilled.

Absolutely ecstatic, we both were and wanted to shout it from the rooftops. We had been trying for 4 years and then our beautiful son came along. I adored being pregnant and was lucky that i felt so well throughout. Our gorgeous son in now a handsome 18 year old and is turning into an amazing man.

Thanks for the replies. Did anyone feel just plain scared?

Totally shocked, scared to death, elated in a way I’d never experienced. Thrilled and scared all at once basically. It was a totally unplanned pregnancy. But having my firstborn was the making of me. Totally cleared and oiled all the rusty cogs inside my heart and made me a better, more compassionate, humble person. Stronger too!

Over the moon excited! He is now off to university and I'm wondering how I will cope!

I remember a few weeks into my pregnancy, I was crying on my mother’s shoulder, literally, saying, “I’m just so scared and I just want him to be scared with me sometimes,” because my then-husband was so optimistic (which was great) but he sort of wouldn’t allow me to be afraid, which is such a normal and healthy response. We are aware of the incredible and lifelong responsibility ahead. It’s huge! Being scared is so normal. And also, you’ve never done this before. It’s new terrain.

Well, I was approaching 30 and felt we better 'get on with it' and had been told to by the GP because I had potential fertility issues due to pcos. When I found out I was pregnant after several months trying I was just relieved we had got the positive test. Didn't really associate it with having an actual baby and felt no excitement or bond with the bump at all. Very matter of fact. She's amazing though and bonded well when she arrived.

I was in the shower. Partner brushing teeth. He goes oh shit! I was like, whatttt?!

Sat in near silence for a 2 hour car journey speechless. 🤣

So yes absolutely terrified

So excited. My husband was out for the day. He barely got through the door when I shouted " You're going to be a father!"

We told each other that we would hold off telling anyone but we ended up phoning our parents almost right away

Terrified. Even though he was planned I was suddenly overwhelmed with fear. Scared that I wasn't up to the job and that my husband wasn't up to the job either.

My life flashed before my eyes
It was a horror to behold.

It was like Nick Cave was on the toilet with me. And yes, those lyrics did run through my mind.

Thrilled, panicked, stressed, delighted, sick, happy, worried, all the emotions!

Yes, terrified but mainly absolutely ecstatic and excited as well, as was DH. It’s one of those days I’d love to relive. It was weighted much more heavily in favour of scared the second time round (even though my second was just as much wanted).

So happy. A bit scared but not of being a parent but that something could go wrong. I felt less scared once I reached 12 weeks. It's such a lovely feeling knowing you're growing a baby and when no one else knows, it's such a special time, I can still remember the feeling.

Your choice of words 'may have to go through this soon' doesn't sound like you're too pleased about it OP. Are you ok?

I was surprised, a bit disbelieving after 3 years TTC and excited. Other emotions came later.

Terrified. Sick. Lonely.

(he is wonderful now and I enjoy being his parent)

Yes!
I was secretly completely freaked out.
DH much calmer than me and really pragmatic.
Didn't help that I felt so sick for months with all-day-long morning sickness😩
In all honesty, I really struggled to get in the right mindset for a while, but by the second trimester I think I'd adjusted to what was coming.
By the 3rd trimester I was a big, happy roly-poly and looking forward to meeting the little peanut😄
There's a bit of guilt attached to that period of time, possibly made worse by my Mum who had 6 kids and was very vocal about her views that women who don't enjoy every bloody second are 'unnatural'!! 😬

Scared, nervous, sick. But she was planned.

She was planned and I was pleased and cautiously excited. But I also felt quite trapped and claustrophobic. Strapped into a ride I couldn't just choose to leave at any point. That was more about the pregnancy than the prospect of having a child.

Elated, absolutely completely and unreservedly excited.
Immediately felt different, the excitement came from my gut 24 hours a day. I couldn’t think about anything except my baby growing inside me.
We were amazed. We were completely ready, it was planned and so wanted.

Unfortunately it began the next few years of multiple miscarriages and long periods of infertility so I never got to feel like that ever again.
Each pregnancy after that was filled with dread, pain, sadness and desperation.

My first was unplanned- I was on the pill. I was shocked and quite scared initially. That really didn’t last long though and we are now expecting our 6th.

Pleasantly surprised because I think I must have got pregnant on literally our first attempt. Very much planned, we'd been married a few months.

Shocked and scared. I was 18 and it wasn’t a planned pregnancy. I told a few close people and got different opinions, I was honestly clueless about what to do.

my mum (for her own narcissistic reasons) was ecstatic and told me I had to keep it! It would calm me down (wtf?!) and she’d be there so I could still work, amazing!

I went through with it, mum was overbearing but didn’t help with childcare. DD’s dad was useless and by 21 I was a single parent. We went through hell and back but now I’m 33 and DD is 14, we had it so rough but she is my constant, whatever has happened in life she’s always there looking up to me.

Come back here if you get a positive result and get some support OP, I hope you’re ok xx

I I wish someone had told me this before my first pregnancy but being pregnant does not mean you’ll have a child. Just be prepared for that. I’m 7 months in my second pregnancy now, and I’ve barely even got my mind to the reality of having a child. Getting through the pregnancy day by day has been more than enough