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I need to rehome don't I.....

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letsallcountsheep · 16/08/2024 09:40

I have a 7 month old Collie cross. She is lovely, well trained and full of energy.

She came into season about 3 weeks ago, the temperament has changed a little, she's become a little possessive over me and food

2 incidents worry me, when my daughter and I were stroking her my daughter leaned in to give her a peck on the cheek and she nipped her nose, she sometimes gets over excited giving kisses but it scared me enough to pull her away and smack on her nose to stop her. The second happened this morning, I was making my dogs lick mat, I was walking to the freezer to set it and my cat(12) walked across my path, my dog snapped and went for her, she didn't actually get my cat as she ran away. I locked my dog in the kitchen while I checked my cat.

I have a dog walker while I work part time in an office. So she's not home alone all day, she says both incidents are completely out of character and could be because she is in season but I don't think I can relax with her now.

I mentioned we might have to rehome her to my daughter and she was heartbroken as am I, I tried to explain it to her but she's SN and 7 loves our puppy to bits. 😢

WWYD rehome now or see how she is after her season has finished. I will be getting her spayed so no more seasons after this

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Wwyd2025 · 16/08/2024 09:42

Why an earth are you allowing a 7 year old to get in a dogs face for?! That's not the dogs fault that's entirely your own fault. YABU.

StarShineHello · 16/08/2024 09:43

She's in season. You need to keep the other animals and kids away from her. She has dog PMT.

This is on you.

Hellohah · 16/08/2024 09:45

Please don't smack your dog.

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StarShineHello · 16/08/2024 09:45

The child should not be 'kissing the dogs face'
It's a dog, not a teddy. They don't understand kisses. She's stressed and having someone up in her face is obviously going to cause a reaction.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 16/08/2024 09:45

Cant you neuter her?

Pogggle · 16/08/2024 09:45

I'm honestly not even sure what to say about this. Your dog is in season and you let a 7 year old get in her face, then smacked the dog on the nose because she was unhappy with a child being in her face?

StarShineHello · 16/08/2024 09:46

Hellohah · 16/08/2024 09:45

Please don't smack your dog.

Omg I missed this.

On 2nd thought PLEASE rehome the dog through a RESCUE. She deserves so much better :(

NuffSaidSam · 16/08/2024 09:46

No, you don't need to rehome. You need to educate yourself on dog behaviour and get her spayed.

LittleLongDog · 16/08/2024 09:47

No I wouldn’t rehome.

You need some serious training though. (And I mean you rather than your dog.)

I also wouldn’t unsettle my dc by telling them I was thinking of rehoming, I’d wait until I was certain of the decision.

FreshFelt · 16/08/2024 09:47

You need clearer boundaries around the dog. Don't smack and don't kiss for a start.

JustAnotherIdiotAgain · 16/08/2024 09:47

God what an idiot... dog in season, child allowed to kiss her face. Give your head a wobble... if you don't see anything wrong with this picture, please don't ever have dogs again.

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 16/08/2024 09:48

Why are you letting your child kiss the dog especially when it is stressed and in season?

Why are you smacking the dog? Which is unforgivable.

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letsallcountsheep · 16/08/2024 09:49

Thanks for the support 😨

We were all sat on the floor giving strokes and cuddles, my child is always rolling around on the floor playing with her.

I actually thought I would get flamed for NOT rehoming her after the first incident.

I really don't want to rehome her, I have been coddling her through this season she is so young and obviously doesn't know what is going on.

Like I said totalling out of character and I don't want to rehome but also don't want to risk my child or other pets.

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Hoppinggreen · 16/08/2024 09:51

You need some training, YOU not the dog.
I am not being nasty, my DC needed it when we got our dog too.
A child shouldn't be getting in a dogs face, you shouldn't hit a dog or lock one away for reacting to a cat near its food.
Hopefully with some training and spaying your dog will grow into a lovley family pet

ItsAlrightDarling · 16/08/2024 09:51

Why on earth did you tell your daughter you were ‘thinking’ of rehoming when you haven’t made a decision?
She’s in season meaning her hormones are all over the place and a child got into her face. No wonder she snapped.

SunnieShine · 16/08/2024 09:51

StarShineHello · 16/08/2024 09:46

Omg I missed this.

On 2nd thought PLEASE rehome the dog through a RESCUE. She deserves so much better :(

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Yes, she does. You don't understand dogs.

AllrightNowBaby · 16/08/2024 09:53

Poor dog!!
You need to tell your daughter to stop kissing the dog, some really do not like it, my little Cavapoo who is calm as anything, pulls away and is uncomfortable if I’ve ever tried to kiss her nose because she’s so cute, so I never do it… EVER!
You need to do a lot of reading about dog behaviour, as what you’ve described is your fault not the dogs.

Costacoffeeplease · 16/08/2024 09:54

Yes, rehome through a reputable rescue organisation, poor dog.

BlueGrackle · 16/08/2024 09:54

Why on earth have you not just got the dog spayed ?

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 16/08/2024 09:55

Typical mumsnet supportive/helpful responses for you here op,🙄
Speak to your vet for real advice
Good luck

LittleLongDog · 16/08/2024 09:55

Hoppinggreen · 16/08/2024 09:51

You need some training, YOU not the dog.
I am not being nasty, my DC needed it when we got our dog too.
A child shouldn't be getting in a dogs face, you shouldn't hit a dog or lock one away for reacting to a cat near its food.
Hopefully with some training and spaying your dog will grow into a lovley family pet

This.

We all make mistakes OP, it’s not the end of the world if you rectify your behaviour: look into getting support to help you and your dc understand and manage your dog and you’ll be fine.

Dearg · 16/08/2024 09:56

BlueGrackle · 16/08/2024 09:54

Why on earth have you not just got the dog spayed ?

First season ? Depending on breed, it’s usually advised to wait until 3 months or so after her season . That could be first season, or possibly second for larger breeds. This dog has not reached that yet.

DowngradedToATropicalStorm · 16/08/2024 09:56

I think you should rehome this dog.

If you don't and there's a disaster, you will regret not doing so. Maybe get another when your Dc is older and don't get anything with collie in it would be my advice.

I have worked with dogs all my life (I'm old). The chances of this going horrible is high. I have seen devastating injuries in children from dogs that are totally misunderstood and the dogs pays with it's life when a re-home, done well, means the dog can get it's natural span.

Dogs have very high levels of frustration that they learn to live with day to day. Sometimes their bucket is just too full and it overflows.

anothermnuser123 · 16/08/2024 09:57

You need to have learned about dogs before getting a dog!

If you havent noticed, the dog cant talk, the only way they can communicate is with body language and they are using that to tell you they arent happy and are getting punished for it.

How else is the poor dog meant to say get out of my face? They didnt bite, they told you, in a dog way, to go away. They didnt bite the cat, they warned it. No need to check on the cat, there was no attack!

If you dont understand the poor dog is hormonal, stressed, probably in pain and wants space, then what on earth is she meant to do? She cant talk and when she tries to say in the only way she can, you hit her!

Learn about dogs fast or yes rehome through a rescue because the poor dog deserves better. And stop your child pulling her around like a teddy!

Beth216 · 16/08/2024 09:57

Agree with other people. You dog is not a toy, your dd should not be kissing it's face or rolling around on the floor with it. Smacking your dog will just make it hand shy at best - or at worst your dd starts copying you and ends up seriously bitten.
She's only 7 months, that is so young, how long is she being left alone for? You say a dog walker comes in but if you're working full time hours some days then that is still far, far too long for her to be left alone at that age.
I think the dog might be better off being rehomed tbh,