I'm so done .

[Shitshowme]

I'm so done I can't take any more . I really can't.

Has something happened tonight that has upset you?

Time to walk away then.

Yep, if it's so bad, whatever it is, you need to walk away,

I don't have Any words . I tried so so hard . I have had to block my own adult condition and my 17 year old . I can't cope anymore. It's done

Maybe you could speak to the Samaritans? 116 123

Everything seems worse at night. Honestly the best thing to do now, is to try and get some sleep. Listen to a bedtime story or sleep music on You Tube to help you drift off.

No it's really not. I have had it for years.. I can't do it anymore.

Do you want to add to this? Here for you

Would it help to either explain in a little more detail what has made today so difficult, or perhaps as someone suggests you could call Samaritans who will listen?

It sounds overwhelming

Please tell us more so we can try to help you.

Private message if need to? Here if u need fo vent

I'm sorry you're feeling all this. You sound exhausted. I don't know what it is you're dealing with, but have you got a chance to just stop and breath for a moment? My eldest has some very difficult mental health problems and there have been times when I've felt I just can't cope with anymore. It doesn't solve anything but retreating and having a coffee or even better a nap can help me to keep going. I'm thinking of you and wishing you strength.

For as long as I can remember successfully joining MN I have posted for years about the problems I have had. About myself and my kids /adult kids. No matter what I have always put them first 100% before me . I have actually been a massive mug. I have been there for everyone else wearing myself down never ever asking for anything back.

I have baby sat 3 times a week since baby gs was a few weeks old he's now 16 months . Other Gs is 6. I did the same with him till he started school. But I still baby sit both if dd has plans etc . This is not for work reasons but so dd can go to the gym and driving lessons.

There has been some stuff going on that's Been stressful. Uts on another thread I made . I think I called it family unit broken or ficked up something like that . It's under thus none though.

Anyway things were really bad between adult dd and teen ds. I managed to sort it out so they can clear the air . Dd left the kids with me . At 6.30. I messaged them about 2.5 hours later asked hie long they would be. Dd tone was already bad because she was pisssed of that I asked... in the end I just said could you leave the pub by 10pm she said yes I thought this was all sorted no worry. At 10.30 I make contact again. They have not even left the pub I told dd to come get her kid now.

She then gets verbally aggressive telling me how selfish and nasty I am . Even called me a liar and said I don't baby sit 3 times a week. Apprently because (she) has not asked to go to the gym in 3 weeks . That's Apprently on me. And because of thar appears I have nkt been baby sitting for all them years nope that Apprently never happend.

I have also been accused of saying I will leave the GS inside . I never said that i said I will bring them out when theu are close.

They did not even turn up till after midnight. All in between I was getting abusive messages and phone calls being accused of all sorts.

An hour or so I got a call from ds saying what a sick fuck i was and that I have been saying stuff infront of GS . Which is in no way true. So it's like they are making stuff up.

It all sounds so petty written down but there's a big back story really .

None of this would have happend if I had not asked DD to come home.

It doesn't sound petty at all. It sounds like you have been taken advantage of and you were happy to help because you love them and they aren't even grateful or appreciative. That would be infuriating and make you wonder what the point is.

The truth is we can't change others behaviours and we have to change our own. It sounds like they've had a drink and so nothing good is going toncone of a conversation tonight and tomorrow you need to work on some boundaries that you are happy with and stick to them.

They are not entitled to your help. So you decide what you are willing to do and if that's nothing for then time being because you've been disrespected then that is totally fine.

A little break would likely do you some good and give her the opportunity to realise how much you do.

Ultimately I wouldn't be doing any favours for anyone who was abusive to me and you don't need to feel bad about that. They do.

I hope you manage to get some rest tonight and make some plans to look after yourself in the time you now have available.

Hopefully they will come to their senses once they've sobered up and calmed down.

This sounds very easily solved. Just don't babysit anymore.

Yep. Problem easily resolved.

It runs deeps than that ...

It runs deeps than that ...

It really doesn't.

@Parky04 and @Loveandhatred

I think your answers are unhelpful.

This is an emotional/relationship problem. It might be straightforward practically, if viewed simplistically from the outside without empathy, but the op has to live the reality.

@Shitshowme It is hard when these conflicts happen, hopefully you can take time to think things through and get advice on here.

Well I don't know what you want people on here to say then. We don't know your situation as well as you do.
You could stop babysitting which might make them sit up and realise you're human. I'm not sure what else to suggest from the info you've given so I'm out.

Both of them were so nasty to me last night .dd seens to think its her right. For me to have the kids . She even thinks she never gets to go out etc I never baby sit yet I have done so since ds 6 was born 3 times a week till he went to school. Then when ds 16 months came along its 3 times a week. For him so dd can go to the gym and driving lessons.

I had aggressive messages and phone calls telling me I'm a liar . It makes absolutely no sense so I have dream the last 6 years apparently.

All I did was ask her to leave the pub by 10pm which she said OK. And its turned to this.

I have put them first every single time I know that's what mums do but I feel like i really put myself out for dd big time. Not many people get the support she has has thry really don't.

My adult ds left home because he could not cope with how DS was at the time and although DD has her own place she was still here alot. And DS could not manage how dd is . He avoids taking her calls/messages he does not want her to know where he lives.

My ex told me everything revolves around them 2. I have to say it's true it does.

One of the prick things about me. Is I will take the blame for things I ( know) are not my fault. Because I just want the upset to stop.

Anyway I do Need to be away from both of them

Is it really necessary to be so aggressive in tone @Loveandhatred ?

The OP is experiencing difficulties, don't kick someone when they're down.

I don't think the poster really meant it in a bad way. Not really. When there's no emotional attachment or hurt. Things can seem simple .

I wasn't aggressive.

I just wanted to show how I get spoken to. There is a part where I said come get your kids that could be seen as nasty. But I had called dd a few seconds before that and she was screaming down the phone at me.

And where I was one word type answers i did not want to get sucked in.