How clean and tidy is your home.

[Shithole101]

If you have children. How tidy Is your home? What does tidy actually mean , in my head i always think people's homes are really tidy and visitor ready all the time. I see posts on Facebook and it will say please excuse the mess. When there is no mess.

Then there's tiktok videos with trashed houses that says let's normalise this. And they do a tidy up thicktok/video.

Handful of people on here may know I struggle with keeping on top of my house stuff and there's times it's Been trashed and shamefull. But im thinking it's not good to normalise that.

Some people manage to keep show room looking houses . How do people do that ?

I don't work but still struggle alot so how do people keep their houses really tidy but also work.

very clean and tidy

but it means being on top of it day in and day out

worth it though

oh and i’m brutal about any kind of clutter

how old are your children?

I think a lot of it depends on personality/neurotype. Some people find it a lot easier to keep on top of things because that's how their brain works - it sees a job and immediately completes it. Others lack the executive function to get things done piecemeal as they arise so instead the mess accumulates until it feels too daunting to tackle.
Energy levels vary from person to person too. The messiness of children varies a lot as well.

Clean and tidy but teenage DC not little ones. Tons of storage, not a huge consumer and I have a cleaner for three hours a week.

i remember your “shithole” photo of tour home where you got loads and loads of good advice

Same for me. 1 child and work partially from home so that helps. I also have no clutter and avoid buying more s*

I actually think working makes it easier to keep your house tidy because you aren't in it enough to mess it up.

When children were small downstairs was still always very clean and tidy but upstairs far less.

Always clean and tidy in ours. But I have a routine.

Ruthless with clutter and I have a place for everything. So cleaning is really easy and tidying. Toys have boxes that are hidden and covered so we throw them in at night time.

In the morning we have the same routine with making beds , cleaning everything away and it makes it really easy. It doesn’t take long at all but I do have to keep on top of it all day and wouldn’t just not unload the dishwasher or leave washing out etc

I think all my friends houses are similar . However - my sisters not so much. Both her and DH work full time, they have a lot of stuff and would go to bed and not have done the kitchen type thing and leaves all the breakfast stuff out each morning until they get home that night . It stresses them out but they find it hard to manage so I think it depends on how you are.

I did it was really helpful. And it became quite positive really.

That makes sense actually

Not always visitor ready but I wouldn't be embarrassed if I got a surprise guest.
Just finished work and I need to, hoover upstairs, put clean washing away. The garden needs mowing but I'll do that at the weekend.

I'm thinking maybe I could achieve this as an everyday thing for down stairs. I still javecto make myself . But less so compared to upstairs .

It's clean enough in importance places.
Not tidy.
If I lived alone it would be tidier. I'm refusing to spend any more time on housework or tidying.

I used to be in a place where if someone turned up I’d be embarrassed but now I’m always at the stage where it’s a little messy but not too bad, in kitchen a lot of surfaces clear and wiped, floor swept, bathroom not bad UNLESS they entered the en-suite which I never get to in terms of cleaning!! Kids rooms not bad as I threatened them with turning off wifi if they didn’t hell cleaning up!!!! But saying that it’s non stop work, I clean when the kids go to bed. It’s lived in though. It’s a fun house

Mines a mess on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday because I look after my dgs aged 17 months. I spend my days playing with him, sod the housework. Rest of the week my house is very tidy/clean though.

I have three kids under 7 and my house is visitor ready 95% of the time. To do this, I do one big job a day, multiple loads of laundry that get put away as soon as they’re dry, and constantly do smaller jobs to keep on top of things throughout the day.

Always clean and tidy, even when the kids were small. Obviously they had stuff out and in toy boxes when they were younger but it was mostly always tidied away. I’m a tidy person by nature. I hate clutter and it just comes naturally to me to tidy as I go.

Some people are the complete opposite and that’s ok too. My close friend’s house is absolutely full of stuff - everywhere. It would honestly make me anxious to live like that but, although I think she’d like a bit less of the stuff (her husband is a big culprit), she’d probably hate to live in my home because it’s too tidy and hasn’t got the things that make her happy.

Untidy
Cluttered
Dusty, but not dirty.

I hoover, mop floors, keep kitchen surfaces and bathrooms clean. But the STUFF is everywhere. DD and I are big consumers, it’s not great but it’s okay.

Mine is pretty messy. I just don't see the benefit of it. Like, I could spend 12 hours scrubbing my house to within an inch of it's life and then sit back and look at my super clean skirting boards and colour coded wardrobe, but why would that improve my life in any way? As long as your house isn't a health hazard, I don't see the point.

Not very. I'm naturally untidy and struggle with executive function (likely ADHD). I've also now got incurable cancer and chronic pain and fatigue as a result. Plus 2 really untidy DC, far too much stuff, and a DH who does his best but between working long hours, parenting and caring for me, he rarely manages more than the day to day essentials. We do have a cleaner for 2 hours a week so the bathrooms and clear surfaces and floors are done then. But there's always a lot of mess and clutter, and jobs like the oven, fridge, under/behind furniture aren't done nearly often enough. Sometimes I might have a good week where I've got some energy and I make some decent headway, but one bad week and we're back where we started. I'd love to live in a very clean and tidy home but it feels impossible.

That said, we're lucky enough to have lots of friends so see inside lots of houses and, whilst we're at the messier end, we're far from the messiest.

This "visitor ready" thing gets on my nerves, do people honestly believe the fools on Insta and tiktrash that have you think their houses are like palaces 24/7. Are they hell, surely grown adults understand it is all smoke and mirrors. Nobody goes to visit peoples houses, they go to visit the people that live in them.

Mine’s ok. Not perfect. Upstairs messier than downstairs. Downstairs is clean but the DC have crafts out on the dining room table and toys all over the floor in the playroom (and some in the living room). It’ll all be tidied away before bed though as I like to start with a clean slate in the morning.

I'm sorry to hear that news it must be so hard for you and your family. I'm not very good with words . But I hope your grttk g lots of support. 💐

Its very clean and tidy but as others have said it is constantly staying on top of it, having a place for everything and always tidying up after meals, washing dishes and sweeping up, wiping surfaces etc. Resetting a room after every use, always putting stuff away, Not having too much stuff, regular clear outs and not buying stuff without careful thought.

I have adhd and being really organized and having a strict schedule for cleaning and things like laundry is what works for me. I prefer not to let it get beyond a certain point.