Perfect Friend

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Tell me about your perfect friend, who you live in admiration of.

I believe my friend actually has a perfect life.

We went to her's for a barbecue party last night and everything was just so lovely. She lives in the largest house (actually a mansion) in the village, which is sort of separate from the rest, and has a very posh holiday home abroad (not giving away too much to be outing). She has a really lovely job, which she has made her quite famous in the field. She earns a lot, despite working relatively few hours. Her husband is absolutely gorgeous and also earns mega bucks in a 'cool' job. He's also famous in his field. Their two children are practically geniuses, and are both on national teams for sports and play in top music ensembles. The kids are also very pleasant and likeable. They do lots of things together as a family and really enjoy each others' company.

To top it all, my friend is absolutley beautiful. I mean head-turning stuff.

Everything in her house is pristine. Not just clean and tidy, but sparkling! My DD said that her DDs room is immaculate. My DD's certainly isn't! Their house is huge and everything is so opulent and shiny. It isn't just the money though because they have lots of interesting things which they've collected. Everything seems to have a story, if that makes sense.

What struck me last night is that they are so clever. Whatever topic was brought up by whomever, they could hold their own. Politics, art, travel, books, comedy on tv - anything. They just seem to know so much.

She and her DH have the ideal relationship too. They seem so respectful of each other and are so clearly in love, as though they haven't been together for 20+ years.

She's a lovely, kind person. I can't find fault with her or her life, and am totally in awe of her.

Please tell me about your perfect friend!

I dont have a perfect friend because perfect doesn't exist. Sorry OP but this post is really strange. It sounds like you've taken it from a book. I usually find that the ones who look perfect from the outside are putting on a complete show, and its not the reality at all. You only see what they want you to see, and id be very sceptical if this was the reality. It sounds like you're a little too invested in the perfect family, its all abit weird!

Sounds very fictional. Very odd post.

Really weird. My friends are human and therefore flawed.

Who has perfect friends,? I don't lol. Have friends in different positions but none are perfect. Comparison is the thief of joy! Like you said she's lovely and kind, what she has should make.no difference at all really.

🤣 Okaaaay

She sounds lovely!
I don’t have a perfect friend. I am the perfect friend….
kidding….
but seriously maybe you are also perfect in which case please be my friend?

OK right, summer holidays do bring some interesting ideas

Perfect does not exist and op you know that

Who on earth would want a perfect friend? I'd rather have some relatable flaws, as god knows I'm far from perfect.

Everyone commenting seems kinda jel…

I love my friends, and I admire them all for various reasons, but they aren't perfect. This friend sounds like someone out of a novel!

Not like your friends op, but I knew someone who always managed to be pristine in appearance, nice hair and her children were always well behaved and polite.
Your friends are on a different level, but life is easier for some people more than others and some are just more put together

Of which bit?

Of the beautiful, rich, and clever bit

Not jealous at all 🤣 seems like a boring and miserable life having to be perfect all the time. Cant imagine its much fun tbh id rather be spontaneous, relaxed, and have a laugh with my mates not stuck up and pristine putting on a front. How boring.

Maybe she’s not putting on a front. Maybe she’s just naturally that way. Nothing to say she can’t also be spontaneous and relaxed.

That's the perception she's giving off though. Its an opinion, doesnt mean anyone is jealous. Id rather be myself and not feel pressured into giving off the perfect stepford wife vibes. Couldnt pay me enough money to live like that, not everyone wants that life!

My friends are wonderfully flawed like me!

I get it OP, I have a friend like this, she has it all and if she wasn’t so bloody lovely I’d be really envious of her.
Her house is a converted Victorian nursing home and it STUNNING, as is she, and I just found out her husband earns £3 million A YEAR!!
She really is the nicest, most down to earth person I know, but her husband reminds me of American psycho and I think he might be a Scientologist.

They're probably both having affairs or something. Life is far more complex than your post suggests.

A question: were they both born into relative wealth? You can't underplay the impact that has on adult success (by which I mean income and becoming established/known in a field) - and also on education.

Your friend is probably lovely, and I'm glad you have her in your life. But I hope you're not constantly comparing yourself. Because you're only comparing to half the picture

Whether or not people perceive her as perfect doesn’t mean she’s not naturally the way she presents herself, or that she feels pressure to be that way. She might be supremely comfortable with it. Some people just really have their heads screwed on and can flourish by being really organised and tidy and finding ways to better themselves.

Personally I’d like to be a bit more like that. I wouldn’t say no to some extra beauty, brains, cash, and elite life admin skills. If anything I think I’d be able to enjoy my life better that way because I’d probably be more on top of everything and feel like everything was in hand.

Erm... "but her husband reminds me of American psycho and I think he might be a Scientologist."

Then she does not have it all!!!

You assumed everyone was jealous of her lifestyle just because you would want to be more like that. I pointed out that its not jealously, not everyone wants to be like that. The perception is what I personally wouldnt like, having to keep up appearances. The way OP described her friend is uncomfortable to read because shes holding her on a pedestal and most people like that feel they need to stay up there. Great if OPs friend doesnt feel that way, but most do. Once they have that image its usually important for them to keep it up and is a lot of unnecessary social pressure.

I just thought some people sounded a bit jealous because they were very quick to run her down and say that normally with people like that there’s loads of shit behind the scenes, etc etc. Normally people who aren’t jealous are just able to be happy for people who are doing well rather than wanting to find chinks in their armour.

Not you, necessarily. If you don’t fancy that kind of life then fair enough.

Weird. I have a perfect friend. She is perfect because she is kind, thoughtful and makes time for me even though she is very busy herself. She’s a great cook, always has good ideas about presents for others in our group, and is very clever and extremely funny. She’s a great mum and I think I’m incredibly lucky to have her as a friend.

Her house is usually a mess (because it’s lived in, not on show), it’s full of books and music. She’s permanently skint since she kicked her partner out. She swears a lot. I’ve never seen her wear makeup, and she lives in jeans and sweatshirts.

I think we have very different ideas of what makes a perfect friend. I know which one I’d rather have!

Its just a weird thread, I think most people were more concerned that OP had even written all of this in the first place. There's nothing wrong with pointing out that most of the time things aren't always as they seem and that nobody is "PERFECT". It's just a strange way to look at a friend. Its not like people are insulting OPs friend right to her face.