Have you ever had to wear a bridesmaids dress you hated?

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If so did you feel like crap all day or did you not give a shit after a while?

It's a big puffy sleeved high neck number and is so not me.

Yes, baby pink satin with puffy sleeves and flouncy skirt, it was also one size too small and tight!
I just drank enough not to worry about it!

Yes! It was monstrous. The dress itself was ok, fitted and flattering but it was a vile colour and had shocking accessories, and many of them. I felt embarrassed all day but my husband kept telling me how beautiful I looked and at least there were 3 of us!

I'm dreading everything about the day to be honest. Bride is insisting on heavy make up/false lashes and a hair style that doesn't suit. I just know I'm going to feel like a clown. I've got 2 months to go and can't wait until its over

My future SIL came up with an awful purple thing with puff sleeves and cheap material. I said a flat no. My mum backed me up (I was 19) - I think that was the clincher!
We agreed on something else and it was fine. I would have been very disappointed if I'd had to wear the original.

i was once a bridesmaid in a dress I didn’t like and the bride wanted me to have hair and make up that was totally different from what I’d normally choose. I did feel quite self conscious but it was fine. My friend appreciated that I was willing to put myself out a bit for her to have what she wanted to her wedding day so it was worth it.

I actually told my friend I wasn’t going to be her bridesmaid (for the second time!) as she linked me to a photo and told me to organise a dress in the shade of the swagged bright pink curtains. I was 49 at the time, and just wasn’t going to do it.

Yes! A turquoise satin bo-peep monstrosity.

However, I was thrilled to be a bridesmaid, and my mother told me that it was the bride's day and my job was to smile and enjoy it.

The dress is a reflection of the bride's taste and style, not yours. Enjoy the day.

Yes, they didn’t suite or flatter me at all, but it wasn’t about me and not the end of the world. If I had been closer to the bride I would have said something, but ultimately it was her choice. It’s just a dress.

I was a bridesmaid at the age of 6. I remember all our dresses ripped as the dressmaker skimped on the underskirts at the Bride's request to make us bridesmaids take small steps to be more elegant so instead of puffy skirts (this was 1976!) the underskirt was nearly skintight. Was ok (just about) for the ceremony but within moments at the reception we'd all ripped our dresses while walking from the cars to the do. We were all under the age of 11. 🙄

Yeah. It's not a big deal. It's one day, then I never had to wear it again. I didn't have to pay for it though - which I think does make a difference.

Urgh yes, me too. It's horrible isn't it? At least my experience was before the days of social media... I feel very sorry for you!!

Yeah although I did have to tell the bride. The dress she picked I couldn't get underwear to work. Had to be honest.

Yes , baby pink with puff sleeves . The main problem was that net was inside the sleeves to keep them super puffy , but it was also incredibly itchy all day .

Yes! Twice! One in purple which was nice but looked awful on me. Another in green which was cheap from China.

The third time I was a bridesmaid, I got to pick my own dress in black. I loved it. Then the wedding was postponed due to Covid and I was heavily pregnant when it was rescheduled so I had to get a different dress that I just didn't love as much.

This is what I'm telling myself. It's not my day.
Plus there's a free bar so if need be I can numb the pain lol

I didn't even know puffy sleeved bridesmaids were even a thing now

Yeah, a bit. In the end it wasn't too bad but I did have a moment of absolute panic in the planning stages when the bride WhatsApped a really horrible dress from one of those Chinese websites which looked like Margot Leadbetter crossed with Barbara Cartland (very old references, there). She chose some more toned down dresses in the end but hey, they wouldn't have been my choice but then it wasn't my wedding. I was really touched to be part of it though, thats what really mattered.
Hair and make up were another matter though - think crispy octopus on the head, Alice Cooper's nan make up. When the 'make up artist' did the reveal, I genuinely didn't know what to say.. words utterly failed me. I looked at least 10 years older! I managed to just keep it buttoned. Honestly, I'd have hated to cause a scene and my mate had a great day etc. I think that's all you can do.

Hit the prosecco = the best thing you can do. Oh, and discreetly excuse yourself and replace the tangerine lipstick with your own. No one will notice by then.

Not me but DD has, she was 15 at the time (2 years ago). I don't think that she felt like shit, she's not really one to care what she looks like but she didn't like the style of the dress and she said it was uncomfortable. She got changed for the evening do as soon as she could!

Yes hideous. Painted on a smile and completely forgot about it

Oh and both DDs (same wedding, DD2 was a flower girl so wore a different dress) had to wear matching shoes that absolutely killed their feet.

Yep, and the bride actually told me you're going to wear this dress because I don't want you to be outshining me. To be fair, I was much better looking than her!

Yes, Circa 1985. . It was that hideous crinkly material, shocking pink with a huge bow smack on the bum. We had to wear huge lace sun bonnets that tied under the chin with it and long lace gloves.

Yes it was 1972 and I was six. It was a yellow empire line long dress. I was a tomboy and lived in jeans. I had to wear an alice band decorated with chrysanthemums too and wanted to wear a circlet style headdress like the chief bridesmaid. I look grumpy in all the photos.

So if it's the brides day so you have to be in something you don't like and with make up and hair you don't like? And immortalised like that forever in pictures?

Seems crazy to me.