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DMs jewellery missing from nursing home

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waltonshipwreck · 22/07/2024 07:54

DM has been in a home for almost 2 years. I discovered this week that her wedding ring, engagement ring, and necklace have gone missing.

She has always had them on and would need help to remove them.

I haven't been to visit this week so when another family member alerted me I spoke to Ddad to check he didn't take them home. He assured me hadn't however he and my brother had a look at home just in case but nothing was found. It would be highly unlikely he would take them home but I couldn't be 100% sure that didn't/wouldn't happen.

I called the home on Friday and a message was passed onto the manager to call me back.

I haven't received a call back as yet but my brother was in yesterday and he was told the manager looked extensively but couldn't find anything.

I'm not sure what to do next. To give more context, DM has dementia so her account of what's happened won't be reliable, DDad is in ill health with severe memory problems so his account also isn't reliable, my brother is on a flying visit from abroad so won't be able to help much, the family member who noticed the missing jewellery lives a few hours away and was visiting DM while they were staying nearby. They categorically have had nothing to do with the missing jewellery.

I'm not bothered about the necklace but I am extremely bothered about the rings as DM had them designed and made using the diamond from her mum's engagement ring along with a beautiful emerald. They hold great sentimental value, never mind the financial cost.

What should I do next??

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ThisZanyPinkSquid · 25/07/2024 09:44

Call the police. If the manager is being so unhelpful then this might put the frights up her. I understand in a care home people can wander in and out of rooms and things can go missing but she’s been quite blazè about a search for it.

my grandad was admitted to hospital and his ring went missing, something he never took off his finger in 40 years!! Was never found and he died during that admission and always wanted cremated with it

Vonesk · 25/07/2024 11:54

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artfuldodgerjack · 25/07/2024 12:13

BoobyDazzler · 22/07/2024 08:01

Definitely call the police although I don’t expect for a moment you’ll get any closure from it, or get them back.

Lots of vile people have sticky fingers :(

Lots of people with dementia also take things that aren't theirs... are they vile too?

MissMoneyFairy · 25/07/2024 12:46

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What's an unknown quantity?

Hollybobs1 · 26/07/2024 13:48

My grandads watch went missing when he went to a nursing home. We went to the police, they "couldn't do anything ". It was never seen again unfortunately.

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