Boomer parents

[Freesamples]

Anyone else got a boomer for a parent that a) has no idea how the world currently works and b) loves to put the boot in and c) is absolutely delusional about how much things cost.

me, I love to sniff out a bargain, crowning glory the summer hols I’ve booked for me, dh and dcs. 4 star+ AI, 2 adults 2 kids, package £2k and in summer holidays. Absolute belter. All to be met with a chorus of how expensive that is and how much we’re over paying and how they’d spend no more than £1k on holidays for us (in the mid early 00s). Plus, don’t want to go there, they hate brits, it’s too hot. (All places we went as kids btw)

it can’t be just me

A & C but they're not nasty about it. Also as an elder millennial I find myself slipping into C more than ever before.

I often wonder whether the people using it in the way the OP does would generalise negatively about other groups. Are they racist and homophobic too?

😆 yeah that’s a reach.

My parents are "boomers" and are incredibly supportive. I have two friends who are single moms and their "boomer" parents are absolute life lines.

My DH has boomer parents who are extremely critical and have always been horrified by the cost of anything, but I think that's a "them" thing.

It's almost like... Everyone is different and you can't lump people together by massive generalities?!

You lost my sympathy at ‘boomers’.

lol now that’s a patronising response “do remember that you are welcome to challenge posts you disagree with”…. They should say nothing.

Those are years of birth not ages.

Both are of the Baby Boomer generation which is up to and including born in 1964.

Why is it a reach? A laughing emoji isn’t a compelling argument.

No. My boomer parents gave me money for a deposit, hate the Tories (and Reform obvs) and think the younger generation have it really tough.

Did you mean to quote me? If so, where did I mention interest only mortgages????

Where did I say I begrudged the "modernising" of life today? Why would I when it benefits me?

I'm a boomer, however I've never been abroad, and the last holiday I had - all three days of it - was over 20 years ago. I also will be renting for the rest of my life, even though I have quite a sum in the bank (inheritance from my silent generation parents). I'm too old to get a mortgage, but don't have enough to buy even the cheapest house (I might be able to if I lived in the UK, but not in my country). Those of us who are single, and divorced just as house prices were escalating are not sitting on the pot of gold some of you think we are!

Or @Meadowfinch is male?

Stop telling them how much holidays cost, how much your house cost, what your mortgage interest rate is, etc. I’m always quite surprised when I read on MN about how family members know all of this, plus knowing their salaries! And who is listed in their will and at what percent. And how much they have in savings.

KEEP THAT SHIT PRIVATE. My family and DH’s family know none of the above. It’s knowledge shared only between DH and myself. End of. So much unnecessary drama on MN due to families over-sharing financial details; resulting in judgement, resentment, and entitlement.

My boomer parents were first gen immigrants who had it very tough in the racist 60s, despite being highly educated and qualified. They lived incredibly frugally and never went on foreign holidays, or had a posh car/house/anything.

They have always been very supportive of me. Emotionally, not financially.. They couldn't give me money for a house deposit, but luckily I didn't need it.

This does sound exactly like my folks, born in the forties.

They had it pretty good, comparatively, and seem to think it’s because they are superior people who chose so wisely. In fact, if I was to start pulling apart their financial decisions I could really go to town. But why would I?

I don’t know if it’s just as SOME people get older they lose track of how much things currently cost. I am 43 and am officially horrified by the cost of trainers. Over my time as a parent it’s gone fucking bananas. £50 used to be enough to get a decent pair, it’s now got silly.

I suppose where I differ from my parents is that I accept things change and I wouldn’t leap to the presumption of fecklessness. At least, I hope not. I dunno why some people love speaking with ultimate authority on matters they know hee haw about but I suppose part of it is for SOME parents their children remain children forever.

Also, to be fair, that’s not restricted to elderly people, I’ve got friends in their forties who also know it all.

I think it depends on the age of your parents. Also their experiences when younger. I'm parent to adult kids and don't have that attitude. My parents would have, because of their war/post war experiences growing up. It's understandable.

Why is it a reach? A laughing emoji isn’t a compelling argument.

A laughing emoji is all that your post deserved. Why would you read the OP and your takeaway be to question if the OP is racist or homophobic?

My dad was like this

How to get a job - speculative CVs or walking in and asking were often suggested

Sure Dad, I'll just walk into any random office building saying "Gi'us a job", that'll work and many employers don't use CVs, any more, they use online application forms

Then came the complaint that I was spending too much time on the computer

This. It's laughable.

if you have more in common (and were born very close to) the next generation - Gen X for you - then you are Gen X.

as for OP: you are a ridiculous ageist person. Pack it in.

I think the point is that not everyone in a certain generation had the same level of privilege, so it's wrong to assume they did.

I’m a boomer -I know how much a holiday for 6 adults and 7kids costs cos I paid for it 😂

No, my boomer parents don’t and are very aware how much harder things are now, thankfully. But yours sound really frustrating!

going back to the OP now

me, I love to sniff out a bargain, crowning glory the summer hols I’ve booked for me, dh and dcs. 4 star+ AI, 2 adults 2 kids, package £2k and in summer holidays. Absolute belter.

oh. You are one of THOSE. Constantly droning on about how clever you are saving money. Know, as the saying goes, the cost of everything and the value of nothing. Maybe this is their way of telling you to shut up about it.

My parents are 'boomers' and are wonderful human beings. They grew up when rationing was still in place, no central heating and no TV; I think they have a right to find younger people snowflakes on occasion! I would also never tell them how much my holiday cost; why is that even a topic of conversation?

Not always! My son landed a job doing just that a couple of years back. On my advice. A good job with an NGO who just happened to need maternity cover. He ticked many of the boxes and they gave him the post.

I get it about online forms. But occasionally there are spaces between, and employees still like someone who has the confidence to rock up and ask.
So don't discount it as a strategy!

By the way I'm just too young to be a boomer. Whatever that is - stupid labels used and designed to divide not unite us.

I'm living this through every phone call i have with my Mum 😅 I wonder what I'll do to annoy my son when he's older, there's an even bigger generation gap between us!