Boomer parents

[Freesamples]

Anyone else got a boomer for a parent that a) has no idea how the world currently works and b) loves to put the boot in and c) is absolutely delusional about how much things cost.

me, I love to sniff out a bargain, crowning glory the summer hols I’ve booked for me, dh and dcs. 4 star+ AI, 2 adults 2 kids, package £2k and in summer holidays. Absolute belter. All to be met with a chorus of how expensive that is and how much we’re over paying and how they’d spend no more than £1k on holidays for us (in the mid early 00s). Plus, don’t want to go there, they hate brits, it’s too hot. (All places we went as kids btw)

it can’t be just me

61 yes
57 no

A lot less social housing today too.

Why does Mumsnet allow blatant ageism?

if it doesn't apply to you, there's no reason to be offended by it. i've seen my fair share of people complaining about gen z, but most of it doesn't apply to me so i don't get offended.

So, @izzydrizzy04 a black person shouldn't be offended by racism if the particular slur/accusations doesn't apply to them? A woman shouldn't be offended by someone's sexism if the slur or action doesn't apply to them?

Seriously?

@Freesamples tell us more about this £2k package deal - sounds like a steal!

No my "boomer" parents still go on holidays so are merrily spending my inheritance on multiple holidays . I jest, they deserve it

That’s the year of birth surely, so yes both boomers.

It's the last acceptable form of bigotry.

I’m a boomer and have every sympathy with younger people. Life is certainly more expensive than in my youth. My first flat was in Hammersmith and cost £32000 in the early eighties, the same flat would now be over £800000. An impossible amount for most single people in their mid twenties. We were a lucky generation in many ways and I believe we have a duty to use some of our wealth to help the next one.

This is the response I got when I reported a post that was egregiously ageist and insulting, earlier yesterday

Many thanks for the report, we will take a look at the background. Do remember that you are always welcome to challenge posts that you disagree with.

The post was left up.

My dads quite wordly wise, he keeps up to date with everything. While he is always right that’s not due to his generation it’s a family trait!. He does come across as a grumpy old man sometimes but he isn’t dismissive of young people and the struggles in modern times. He had struggles through his life too. He hasn’t had inherticance and an easy house, he gets by but only just.

So no you can’t generalise everyone by the generation they were born in. Sorry your parents are like that but maybe some of that is their personalities too.

Why are you telling your DPs the cost of your holidays?

I mean yes you have a good deal, but do you tell them the cost of everything?

My DPs are 85 &90 so not sure if that's boomer or not, but we don't tell them the cost of any discretionary items, in fact not very much at all, because in their mind holidays cost what they did in the 70s, so they would be horrified by the actual today cost.

My parents and in-laws were tight with money and as they aged became out of touch with the cost of things. Much of their tightness with money was because of their poor upbringing and so whenever they could they squirrelled away any spare cash. It became frustrating seeing them living so frugally but that is what they were used to and it was difficult for them to change that mindset. They never derided our decisions to spend differently and we never criticised them either; any discussions about the exact amount of money we kept private from one another. I admit it was frustrating and I'd wished they'd spent a bit more of their savings on themselves but it was their choice.

I'm a boomer. I still have a teenage kid.
It's not 'boomers'. It may be your parents as individuals.
I do remember though when having my first baby my mum saying she'd buy the pushchair. It was £250 (mid range price then) and included the car seat. She was shocked and went on how she thought it would be £50. Or how they bought their first house for £12,500.
It's irrelevant though now isn't it? That house would sell for £6.5m today. A £1000 holiday 20 years ago may well cost £2k today (or more). My kids will probably say the same to their kids.
As for it wanting hot holidays - so what? I don't care for them much either.
And you are delusional yourself if you think people of an older generation don't know 'how things currently work'. It may work differently, but they still live today. And who do you think are in power and set the policies? 35 year olds? No - 'boomers'. Keir Starmer is one.
Watch yourself in 25 years.

@3peassuit so go on - use your money to "help the next generation". Not everyone in that age group did well, maybe you did and so can make up for it?

You’ve heard it’s a common trope?

Are you seriously suggesting that all or indeed most people currently between 60 and 78 are miserable like your parents, simply because they are within that age group?

What unimaginative, closed minded, ageist bigotry.

I found it was easier not to tell them the price of purchases because they thought just about anything was outrageously expensive.

I know, yawn.

Older people are more likely to vote Conservative, older people were more likely to vote for Brexit. The average age of a Daily Mail reader is older. This doesn’t mean that every old person did/does the above.

And acknowledging statistics isn’t ageism.

That’s exactly the same response I got when I reported a poster for blatant disablism. The post was left on the thread and only removed when more complaints were made.

Goodness. If ever there was an example of someone putting the boot in it's the OP!
Anyone else got a boomer for a parent that a) has no idea how the world currently works and b) loves to put the boot in and c) is absolutely delusional about how much things cost.

Because it’s used in a derogatory way. It’s become a lazy ageist slur.

I often wonder whether the people using it in the way the OP does would generalise negatively about other groups. Are they racist and homophobic too?

But applying selective statistics and ignoring others, is.

My Boomer parents are lovely.

Sometimes they’re shocked by what things cost now, in the same way my Gen X husband and I can’t believe the price of “penny sweets” nowadays 🤣

But they’ve been incredible in supporting my siblings and I, never been mean and just let us live our lives.

It's not an age thing, your folks are just either lacking empathy or mean.