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Have you ever stolen anything?

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inthislight · 18/07/2024 13:39

This is I guess sparked by the thread about the friend taking glasses but I don't want to derail it! All of the responses have been so shocked and severe... all cut her off this is unthinkable.

But it just reminds me of an incident when I was 17-18 where I did steal £30 from a friend. I of course accept now that it was unjustifiable but I had ways to justify it in my head at the time - I was annoyed at her, she was much richer and flash with her money, she was careless and wouldn't even notice the money was missing, she'd messed up my evening (she'd got into a state on a night out and I'd taken her home - which I now realise makes it even worse in that I took advantage of her vulnerability, god that bit still makes me feel a bit sick that she was probably grateful the next morning I was there to look after her), she'd been a bit lax in paying me back for something else because money just wasn't a big deal to her. I felt really bad in the aftermath - I probably spent most of it buying her drinks! And even now when I treat her to something I think about it sometimes.

I've grown into an adult who is scrupulously honest (I think actually more so than some people I know). I wouldn't dream of doing something similar now. But then again I also have plenty of money now so I'm not tested in the same way - I feel confident that I wouldn't do something like it though even if I was on my uppers. I'm so grateful that she never found out as 15 years on I feel confident in saying it was a momentary lapse. We've got such a close friendship and been there for each other through thick and thin. I always had less money than my peer group and I had a moment of weakness after a few drinks.

So, I'd be interested to know if anyone has anyone done similar? I guess I'm struggling to believe that I'm the absolute minority in having done something so utterly shameful like that... maybe I am?!

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SalviaDivinorum · 18/07/2024 13:50

Not knowingly no.

I may have made a mistake when using the handhold scanners in the supermarket, but if I have, it wasn’t deliberately done and I don’t know about it.

DinnaeFashYersel · 18/07/2024 13:54

When young and daft (and drunk) I sure took a pint glass home now and then and even the odd pub ashtray 😳

Apart from that no.

TheNoonBell · 18/07/2024 13:58

Stole some sweets when I was little. Got caught by the shop keeper, got a lot of whacks from wooden spatula, never did it again.

Sunshineafterthehail · 18/07/2024 14:01

Once took a doll's dress from a friend's house.. It was a really baby outfit and even back then I wanted a dc so badly. Dm saw it in my coat on the bus and went mad...
I did take the dress back next visit to friend..
And had a dc very young..
Never have taken anything since AFAIK.

Buzzbaby · 18/07/2024 14:09

I did it once in Woolworths years ago the pik n mix going round. By hell did I know about when my mother saw me.... I accidentally went out of a supermarket last week and forgot to buy a t shirt I had hanging on the trolley I soon went straight back in when I noticed by my car. I couldn't live with myself otherwise.

libertybonds · 18/07/2024 14:11

Not that I can recall

May sound like virtue signalling, but this morning I went to a shop and paid for something they forgot to charge me for last week

Honestly is extremely important to me as a personal value

inthislight · 18/07/2024 14:11

Interesting - none of these are really in the same universe culpability wise as what I did.

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PNDshame · 18/07/2024 14:12

I took a tiny clown figure (toy) from my aunt's house when I was about 6 or 7. No idea why, I just wanted it. My mother gave me hell for it and I never stole or took anything that didn't belong to me again

CheeseWisely · 18/07/2024 14:12

This conversation came up with DH the other day. Not so much as a pick & mix sweet or a strawberry at the pick your own farm.

KStockHERO · 18/07/2024 14:13

Yes.
I used to shoplift socks quite regularly as a teenager.

Me and my best mate used to collect 'souvenirs' on our nights out - one thing from every pub/club. I still have lots of these souvenirs.

I nicked £200 from an ex-boyfriend's wallet when we were splitting up so I could get a taxi home, get a McDonald's on the way, and have a night out with my best mate (she of the souvenir shenanigans) that evening.

GoingRoundInTriangularCircles · 18/07/2024 14:13

Yep stole a Mars bar from a shop in a hospital one run by volunteers. Got outside and felt so bad I took it back.

Jifmicroliquid · 18/07/2024 14:14

Accidentally stole a pint of milk from Tesco. I put it under my arm and got a few more items, then went to the manned checkout and put the items through and just forgot about the milk under my arm. The cashier obviously didn’t notice either. It was when I got to the car that I realised. I contemplated going back in but I was mortified and drove off.
I was convinced there’d be a poster up with my picture on in the store, saying “watch out for this thief!”

inthislight · 18/07/2024 14:15

libertybonds · 18/07/2024 14:11

Not that I can recall

May sound like virtue signalling, but this morning I went to a shop and paid for something they forgot to charge me for last week

Honestly is extremely important to me as a personal value

I don't think that does sound like virtue signalling and it's actually what I meant when I said I feel I'm now more honest than some people I know. In that I always point out mistakes on a bill, follow up and send stuff back to Amazon when they send me a duplicate order, don't use an unchecked train ticket twice etc. I work in a profession where integrity is very important and I feel honesty is part of my identity. But, I did something so dishonest...!

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Pogggle · 18/07/2024 14:16

I used to all the time when I was a child/teenager. I don't know why, other than I used to get a thrill from it. I stopped when I was about 15 and am now 30 but I still feel awful for it and wish I hadn't done it

hildabaker · 18/07/2024 14:16

I used to steal money from my mother's purse when I was aged from about 7-11. I felt bad about it even at the time, and once I remember I was so overcome with remorse that I put the money back in her purse and she caught me putting it back and didn't believe that I was putting it back! Of course, she didn't believe that I was putting the money back and you could hardly blame her.

I sometimes wondered why I used to do it (apart from the obvious, eg buying sweets etc) and then one day I read a post on Mumsnet that it can signify that the child wants attention in some way. This really resonated with the adult me, because my Mum had little time for me when I was growing up, for a range of reasons. Amazing what one can learn from MN.

IncompleteSenten · 18/07/2024 14:18

Yes.

I stole a little toothache tinture bottle from the local shop when I was about - I can't remember. 8? 9? Maybe.

I honestly don't know why I did it. I didn't have toothache. It was a weird impulse thing I suppose.

I do remember how sick I felt afterwards and how guilty I felt. I took it back into the shop a while later and put it on a shelf (I wasn't brave enough to admit what I did) but I still felt like everyone knew I was a thief and I was going to get into terrible trouble.

AlarminglyAwful · 18/07/2024 14:18

Not deliberately although there was once a bottle of alcohol in my supermarket delivery that I didn’t order and frankly I could not be bothered with the hassle of trying to return, so didn’t.

Lentilweaver · 18/07/2024 14:20

No.

fussychica · 18/07/2024 14:20

As a young teen leaning over the open counters of make up in Woolworth and an eye shadow fell in to my bell bottom turn ups unbeknown to me. Discovered it on the bus. Not even a colour I'd use.🙁

feelington · 18/07/2024 14:20

Yes I have, I have done for decades. I'm not a scrupulouslying honest person at all, but I've never been caught and nobody would suspect me.

Lolatusernamesuggestions · 18/07/2024 14:20

Stole from my dad's change box, was caught because it was a float he used for work as a rep. It was to buy myself a toy I really wanted. So I learned I didn't like that feeling and didn't do it again. Before that I stole a small bracelet from the school dressing up area. I've never shop lifted or stolen a glass from a pub like my mates did.

squashyhat · 18/07/2024 14:23

Quite recently. It was a very low value item amongst several others and just would not trigger the self-scan. I tried typing in the number which didn't work. The place was heaving and there were no staff around so I gave up. Was going to put it back on the shelf but just thought 'sod it' and walked out.

MissKittyFantastico84 · 18/07/2024 14:25

I once accidentally stole a pack of nappies from Boots by placing them on top of the pram, paying for everything else, and walking out.

A few pair of earrings from Topshop/Claires as a teen.

Two wine glasses from a fancy bar about 17 years ago. I still have them!

A master criminal, I know.

Thecomfortador · 18/07/2024 14:26

As a 7/8 year old kid, lemon shaped soap from a gift shop in Wales. I could never enjoy it as I was paranoid about questions being asked / police turning up. A bit older, a pencil eyeliner that saw me through uni, I think a music magazine and a bounty bar on a different day. The urge to steal diminished after that and never did it again. I'm honest when I've been undercharged or been n given too much change for anything and would be horrified/ furious if my kids ever did anything like that, whether they were caught or not. Do as I say and not as I did, and all that....

Cookerhood · 18/07/2024 14:28

I was very light fingered as a pre teenager - sweets, make up, nail varnish, goodness knows what else. It was a group thing, we all did it. I wouldn't dream of it now.
The only thing I've knowingly stolen as an adult was a pair of pillow cases from John Lewis - they were balanced on top of the buggy & slid out of view. I realized when I got home but was too sleep deprived to make the journey back again. I stool feel guilty every time I go to John Lewis!

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