Friend expecting twins - would you buy two gifts or just stick with one?

[Demandingfriend]

A good friend of mine is pregnant with twin girls. She is a nice enough person, but can be somewhat demanding and is also prone to oversharing things on social media occasionally. A few examples are that when she became pregnant, she was straight on to facebook to post photos of the positive test. She has also posted photos of herself with her belly wrapped in two pink ribbons, along with her DH kissing her bump. She has commented that she is hoping that people will get two gifts for the babies instead of just one. What do you think the etiquette is here? Would you only ever buy one present for someone even if they are having twins?

I would always buy 2 gifts, one for each baby.

Depends on the present surely? A book of nursery rhymes to be read to the babies then one. Babygro… two obviously 🤷🏼‍♀️.

I guess it depends what your go to gift is. Mine would have to be 1 each baby, but if it's like a hamper thing then I'd just do one but put extras in.
Tbf either way people shouldn't expect gifts

If she’s a good friend I’d probably get 2 little outfits or 2 baby gros? They’re not that expensive.

but if she’s asking for 2 gifts rather than one that might change my mind

I’d buy two for any friend where I’d buy at all. (I also buy something for the mother) but I’m pretty selective about whom I buy anything for!

Depends what you're getting. If it's a teddy bear a book a blanket or a babygro then you'd get two (but perhaps get cheaper ones). If it's a box of books, a present for mum, or something practical for the nursery like a steriliser then you'd get one.

How can you say she's your friend and then say she's showy etc etc ? Of course she wants people to treat her babies as 2 separate people . Get then a gift each.

If you're getting something for the babies then it makes sense to get two.

If you're get something for the mother/household then you'd still only get one.

I don't think you need to spend anymore money, just buy two cheaper things.

As a mother of twins it didn't bother me if you bought none, one or two presents. What has bothered me is giving one birthday present when they are aware (id rather they're given none or just a bar of chocolate each) because twins have to share so much individuality is very important. I however wouldn't demand anything but have been known to keep back joint presents so dc weren't aware they were being seen as one.

Depends what you’re getting. You certainly don’t need two of everything! I’d advise not getting teddy bears - we had lots of people who gave us two matching teddies and we ended up with so many!!!!

I'd get something for her personally. Everyone will be buying for the babies but no ones thinks to buy for mum.

You clearly don’t like her so don’t get her a present. Her social media presence has no bearing on how many gifts to buy.

This

She has commented that she is hoping that people will get two gifts for the babies instead of just one.

I think that this is pretty damn cheeky to tbh

I'd buy 2 as there r 2 babies, that is the etiquette surely anyway? Weird of her to discuss it on social media

This!

I'd buy two gifts...one for each baby...and if a close friend, something for the mum/parents aswell!

When a colleague had a second child, I bought a present for the 4 year old older sibling. I reckoned the baby wouldn't miss it but the older sibling could feel that baby was getting all the attention!

I’d buy 2 gifts for the babies. Not necessarily 2 identical gifts, but I think it would be a bit weird to give 1 outfit or 1 book for twins!

But if it was something bigger like equipment or something then I think just one would be fine.

Your friend is weird and rude to mention it though.

If the gift is for the babies, then yes I'd get two. If it's for her, just the one.

If she had two children a year apart you'd buy each a separate gift wouldn't you? So yes I'd either combine and get something more expensive both can use, or a separate gift for each child. Having twins is expensive.

Is she talking about when the babies are born? If so then if you were planning on getting a present for the baby, get double of what you would normally buy. It would be weird to give 2 babies 1 babygro/blanket/hat etc.
If you were just planning on getting something for the new mum then you would just get one of whatever it is.

two babies = two gifts.

Mine got one colouring book between them as a birthday present once. A £1 coin each would have been better.

She's being cheeky but she's right. You buy for the baby, there's two, you buy two. If you can only afford X, not a problem, buy less but two.

None.

i wouldn't be friends with someone so crass.

but a normal friends having twins 3-6month cute, zip up baby grows & cardis

mind you fucking miracle if any of my friends were having twins! (I'm 55 most friends same age/older) I'd be buying them a regular delivery from 'cook' & a coffee machine, if I had loads of money I'd pay for a weekly cleaner!