Friend expecting twins - would you buy two gifts or just stick with one?

[Demandingfriend]

A good friend of mine is pregnant with twin girls. She is a nice enough person, but can be somewhat demanding and is also prone to oversharing things on social media occasionally. A few examples are that when she became pregnant, she was straight on to facebook to post photos of the positive test. She has also posted photos of herself with her belly wrapped in two pink ribbons, along with her DH kissing her bump. She has commented that she is hoping that people will get two gifts for the babies instead of just one. What do you think the etiquette is here? Would you only ever buy one present for someone even if they are having twins?

I think it’s bit odd buying one present for two babies, but also if you don’t like her you don’t have to be friends with her.

2 babygros = fair enough
2 big items off a list = cf
I am tasteless though, I'd be buying these!

Naughtees Clothing - Thing 1 and Thing 2 Printed Short Sleeved Babygrow Onesie in 4 Sizes : Amazon.co.uk: Fashion

If my 'friend' spoke about me like you have, I think I'd rather no gifts at all.

Just get 2 cute babygrows/dribble bibs/hats... Something useful!

Two babies equals two gifts in my mind. I can’t imagine turning up with one teddy or outfit when there are two babies.

I find your friends need to post this on social media a bit crass but hormones are at play and she’s possibly felt a bit overlooked.

I’d buy two gifts and spend twice what I usually would because the babies are separate and I’d want to celebrate both, I usually buy things like outfits, books or toys though. I would buy each baby a different version though, so I would get two different outfits or books or teddies etc, I wouldn’t buy anything identical.

Most people got 2 presents for my twins, but closer friends or family got me one more expensive thing I needed. For example someone got a big feeding cushion, someone bought a sling, someone bought a twin baby bath. Because she is being such a spoilt brat I'd buy her two cheap baby outfits. She sounds painful

Exactly. Twins are not somehow one baby-unit. They’re two individual children who happen to be born at the same time. It’s sad that so many people don’t get that and twins are sometimes expected to share one present.

A 'good friend' you call a 'nice enough person'. Why bother?

That’s not showy, why is it bothering you so much?!

oh and two gifts.

You said she's a good friend- get 2.

If it's clothing, then 1 outfit each baby.
If it's an item then 2 different like photo frame and baby age cards etc.

As a twin mum I didn't want too much stuff - tbh we were so tired when we had our twins that a lot of outfits/presents didn't even get opened until after the babies had grown out of them which I felt really bad about. If she is asking for two gifts (bit cheeky I think!) I'd just get a couple of babygrows for say 3-6m so she has time to get all the clothes sorted. I thought it was sweet when people sent two cards for them but also definitely not necessary as they are just babies and don't care about their individuality at this point!!!

Depending on the item. I agree that it could be one book or one basket of baby products, but if it's something that's meant to be used for one of them at a time, then go for two separate items. My cousing is a mother of teen twins and we use that rule with them as well. Two gift cards, two ring lights, two hand written cards but one Smartshow 3d birthday video, etc.

It doesn’t sound like you are particularly close friends so maybe don’t get her anything. Otherwise is depends on the present. If it’s a cute outfit or toy, then 2. If it’s a storybook, then one. If it’s for mum (candle, plant, etc) then one is also fine.