What's been the lowest point of your life?

[Canttakemuchmoreofthis1]

I feel like I'm in it now, and it shows. The sparkle has gone from my eyes, I have dark circles and my skin looks dull.
I just want to stay in bed all the time.
I'm on antidepressants. I should be grateful as I have a loving family and I like my job, but yeah, I'm definitely at the lowest I've felt in a long time.
What was your lowest point and how did you come back from it, did things start to improve?

Maternity leave. Postnatal depression, sleep deprivation, colic, no intellectual stimulation.
Gradually got better with time but it was enough for us to decide to stop at one.

Now unfortunately. I've become chronically ill over the past 2 years and am now unable to work, drive or even leave my house very often. It's been very tough. Although I will say 2023 was probably worse than now, as my mental health was extremely bad then. Mentally I'm doing better now, but physically doing very badly.

I improved my mental health with counselling.

My best friend died of breast cancer at 37 5 years ago. I was drinking too much and couldn't figure life out.
It's better now. I stopped drinking- nothing for 5 years. I miss her every day. But life is calmer

Am in it now sadly due to circs beyond my control and can’t see light at end of tunnel

In 2018 I wanted to kill myself. I had two young kids, a husband who I later found out was having an affair then and was emotionally distant and just absolutely fucking miserable. The most ridiculous thing got me through it. I heard a song that was going on about the life to come and it got me through that day. Then I went to the doctors and got gradually better from there.

My sister died in 2020 from cancer in her 30s. Still probably the worst day of my life.

My marriage broke up acrimoniously and my mother died a month later - I was with her when she passed away. That was a tough time. It took several years and a very good counsellor before I came through the other side.

The pandemic and lockdown. Death of two close relatives, I couldn't attend the funeral of one and couldn't be with the second one when they died because of the restrictions. Trying to be an effective parent to two young children at home constantly and somehow try and work from home at the same time. It was the first time in my life I felt like I was sinking.

When I was in isolation for three weeks alone with two kids due to covid in 2022 . Basically had a breakdown and was depressed and had bad anxiety / panic attacks . Anti depressants helped me massively .
unfortunately in a bit of a bad place again and considering going back on them .

13 miscarriages and lost my grandparents who raised me both to cancer in their 60s over 8 years, I ended up having a mental breakdown at 28 and attempted to take my own life, I spent 2 months in a psychiatric hospital.

3 years later, my marriage is stronger than ever, we have a beautiful 1 year old daughter and life is mostly good (I am still on antidepressants and have bad days every now and then).

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this, the sun will shine for you again. Sending hugs xx

I thought my lowest point was when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. But that paled into insignificance during the last nine months of my mum's life when her dementia went off the scale and she was having near constant vivid hallucinations, and then stsyingbby her bed in hospital for three weeks when she had a stroke, sitting through two days of horrendous terminal agitation before she finally died.

1. when medically seriously unwell with life threatening auto immune condition completely out of nowhere. Kind of speaks for itself. Got better gradually through treatment, recovery, building strength physically and mentally and time (thankfully).
2. in previous job role when completely unhappy, burnt out, probably depressed (although not formally diagnosed) and probably in a state of trauma due to stress, exhaustion, etc. and the nature of the role. Compounded by living alone during Covid for pretty much the first time ever. Managed through changing job (eventually after far too long but the biggest thing that helped a million percent), putting into place the boundaries I didn't before and not apologising or feeling guilty for this (not naturally my strong point, but I'l be damned if letting previous happen again), talking to friends/family/trusted colleagues who totally got how bad the environment was and impact of this, and making sure I had things outside of work (plans at weekend - seeing friends/family, walk, seeing a show/football/whatever it might be I enjoy that meant that could switch off a bit and not feel my whole identity was work.

Trapped with abusive boyfriend in his family's house at the beginning of lockdown, just given birth to my first son. Scared and alone and bullied by him and his family. He went on to force me to have a second child with him before I finally got out.

This too shall pass ♥️

The day I found out what my ex had done is up there. It was very bad and we are divorced as a result.

Been a few. 2019 was a really awful year for me (death of parent, relationship breakdown and redundancy).

Thanks for sharing your stories. I hope things improve for you all.

Now. Divorcing a control freak who watches every move i make

Age 18 I became type 1 diabetic. 3 days after I was discharged from the hospital my dad died. Age 35 my gran died. My mum, her daughter, died the day after her funeral.

I never felt like I couldn’t cope with these events while they were happening but I look back now and wonder how the hell I didn’t fall apart.

The lowest times in my life have been linked to one of my children's autism and the other child's disability.

2023 was pretty crap. A suicide, a stabbing, a chronic illness not diagnosed and fatigue that comes with it, changing schools, moving house, trying to parent a parent...At least this year I have been diagnosed so although health is worse, it feels less hectic. I have to now accept I can't do all the things and work on my MH.

Two.

After the birth of my first child. It hit me like a train. I got through it by going back to work asap and getting a nanny.

When I found out my husband had been having an affair for more than a year. I felt deeply miserable and hated myself (weirdly). I got through it by exercise - running is my therapy - and my amazing kids who taught me how to love properly.

Wishing you all the best OP - you will find your way through.

My first mental breakdown at 16 and my second at 33.
Both times medication and cutting contact with my parents and siblings down to a minimum were the main things that helped me to recover.

Right now

Landlord unreasonably taking almost all my deposit
Family member with possible life changing disease
Abusive partner threatened to kill me
My income has reduced by half
Currently have nowhere to live with DC

I feel lost and can't sleep

Op sorry to hear this

really low when my kids were 2 or 3. Hated my job. Wasn’t that happy in my marriage. Friends pulled away once I had settled down. Mother was constantly putting me down.

anyway I kept doing courses, went part time at work, met a great friend, bought a new house and got a new job, lessened contact with my mother (don’t feel too good about it but I’m healing)

My dad died
Rape abuse and divorce had nothing in that

Time - to appreciate the luck I had knowing him

My gran dying, my daughter being horrendously bullied at work and self harming, my autistic/ adhd son passing the 6 year mark of when he last left the house and my youngest showing all the signs of Autism that my other 2 children are diagnosed with and realising this is my life, and the strongest woman who was in it has gone and I'm alone.