Stb boyfriend constantly telling me to work out?

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He claims I will look better to him and to myself.

Admittedly, I am now overweight from my "usual weight" but I met and started talking to him when I was overweight also. It's due to a variety of illnesses rather than just not working out or whatever but that's by the by.

Is this a red flag?

He just continuously keeps commenting that I should be working out. Fwiw I have never complained to him that I don't like my body etc. He just randomly brings it up.

OMG block him now.
He isn’t even bothering with love bombing first, he’s going straight for pure toxicity.
Block block block block.
He is truly vile

He's telling you quite clearly that he doesn't think you're good enough for him.

Massive favour he's done you there. You're not even dating and he's shown you he's a shallow, controlling freak who will make your very existence a living hell and destroy your self worth by a million wounds.

Ffs, don't waste a moment more on this piece of trash.

OP, could you explain the 'stb' bit?

Personally I wouldn't get together with someone who isn't happy with me. You should only be together if you both fancy each other. If he doesn't fancy you now, he's just going to leave when you get pregnant and gain baby weight. He isn't the right person for you. You should only work out if you want to, not because someone's telling you to.

If we said 'sounds like a catch you better get the fishing rod and reel him in' what would you think? Of course it is and you know it

Definitely a red flag. Don’t get me wrong I do think when you’re married/been with someone a long time there are times when you may encourage each other to eat better/do more exercise for health reasons etc and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, but for someone who isn’t even your boyfriend and the fact it’s to make you “look better”, red flag.

Quickest way to lose a significant amount of weight is to dump his ass!

You deserve better than this!

He's not a medical professional, Nutritionist, or even a personal trainer is he? Watching a few TikToks about working out doesn't make him an expert does it?

A smoker and a boozer doling out health advice with such authority is ridiculous. If you saw him giving a friend this advice when he hasn't even acknowledged that they were recovering from various illnesses - what would you say to that friend?

What's he basing all this kindly advice on? And why does he think you are obligated to follow it? The sheer arrogance! I'd be telling him in no uncertain terms that you are following GP's directions, not his.

This is supposedly at the beginning of a relationship.. What would he be like a year or so in? Doling out "expert" advice on everything and insisting that you are doing things wrong, only he knows the secret to doing things right?

He has no self-awareness and certainly not much awareness of you!

How can you even consider him becoming your boyfriend????

Tell him to jog on, you can do without his nonsense

I gained nearly 4 stone during a long course of fairly unpleasant drugs. No one ever said anything negative at all, none of my friends or family made any suggestions about how I should go about getting back into shape. The drugs are finished now, the weight is gradually coming off and everyone who cares about me is massively supportive. Still no one has suggested that I should hit the gym which as we all know will make very little difference anyway. Unless he's a personal trainer with special knowledge then you know what to

Come on op! Raise your standards! He sounds absolutely horrible!

Soon to be boyfriend?? So this is him at his best and most charming????

If he doesn't love you for all that you are then he isn't good enough for you.

Simple as that really.