Stb boyfriend constantly telling me to work out?

[dypoig]

He claims I will look better to him and to myself.

Admittedly, I am now overweight from my "usual weight" but I met and started talking to him when I was overweight also. It's due to a variety of illnesses rather than just not working out or whatever but that's by the by.

Is this a red flag?

He just continuously keeps commenting that I should be working out. Fwiw I have never complained to him that I don't like my body etc. He just randomly brings it up.

Fuck that noise.
He's not even your boyfriend yet and he's talking to you like that.
It won't get better if you work out or lose weight, he'll just pick something else to go on about.

why bother answering? Kick to kerb.

My dad did this to my mum when they were dating & she ended up anorexic eating an apple and a tiny piece of cheese every day. She wasn't even really overweight. It was the 60s & she was normal looking, not like twiggy. Ditch him - you don't need anyone making you feel bad - if you want to go to the gym go for yourself. He sounds like an idiot projecting his lack of muscles / own insecurities onto you. Run away now!!

Spend half an hrs reading some of the horrible posts on here as people try to leave husbands who have destroyed their confidence. Add in a reduced career , wage , young kids and several yrs of trying to do it all and please a man child.
Save yourself a lot of grief and finish with him .
Amy partner should lift you up and make it that you are better together as you support and just nurture each other .
Good luck hopefully you feel better soon health wise

If he became your bf he'd feel extra comfortable with talking to you like shit next suggestion is change your hair/wardrobe get some surgery etc etc if he can pick at your weight what's next?

This is a lesson in how someone should love you and accept you for who you are not what you could become. There are lovely men out there, this isn't one of them. The only thing he should be telling you about your physical appearance is how amazing you look. He has said the weight thing more than once, he will just keep putting you down.

You are good enough now, please know that.

@dypoig do not ever let a man? or boy control you!! this behaviour is a major red flag!!

I don’t get his mentality of going on about you working out when he doesn’t himself! Have you pointed that out?

Anyway, probably no point. Who does he think he is?

Of course it's a red flag, surely no one could possibly think otherwise!

Of course it is a red flag. WTF. Why are you with him?! 🤨🤯

Everyone knows what you eat is more important than exercise anyway.

I said this but was told I was incorrect and working out is all that matters.

He drinks and smokes a lot too but he's not overweight so it doesn't matter.

Thanks for the comments again. Now thinking how bad this could become if we became official and married etc. If I got stretch marks after having a baby etc? What would he say? It's not looking good

I did but because he's underweight rather than overweight he doesn't need to work out, he says

Imagine if you stayed with him, had children- had a daughter and he said this to her 😩

Tell him where to go OP, you deserve soooooo much better 🌺

What is the definition of a soon to be boyfriend @dypoig

He's testing you to see how much bullying and control you'll put up with in a relationship. Show him that it's NONE by never speaking to the vile tosser again.

You should be outraged at him saying this, absolutely insulted and livid, not doing him the courtesy of arguing back!

And look up 'negging'.

Don't ever be "grateful" for attention from people who want to change you for their benefit.
If you want to change do it for you
He doesn't deserve your attention, you do not need people like him in your life .
Do not settle, do not compromise yourself for his "attention"

I'm with the other pp.
I can't even begin to think why you would think it's a good idea to start a relationship with some one who so obviously doesn't like you physically the way you are. Who makes derogatory comments about you. And who wants to control your behaviour.
Why you have anything to do with him at all is a mystery.

OP there are a few of us mystified by the 'soon to be boyfriend'.
Is this a thing, now?

Send this prince my way @dypoig . My standards are extremely low, and he might get me to shift my fat lazy arse to the gym.

Oh hang on, even mine aren't that low.
Pass him a tinny and an ashtray and tell him to go fuck himself.

😁😁😁
Well, this cheered me up.

Yes, it's red flag. Ask him to grow his cock, tell him it'll look better to you.

He's not very bright, is he?

OP, find someone who will want and love you for exactly who you are, not what you look like. Bin this one off.

@dypoig where did you meet this charmer?
Please just stop interacting with him, why does he get a vote on your body? You do not need his approval.you do not need him full stop.
What would you tell a friend if they told you that there soon go be boyfriend ( does that mean you're having sex but not exclusive?, If so stop!) spoke/treated them that way?

A red flag?! It's a whole damn bunting parade!

Run away. Fast. You'll get fit in the process 😜