Do you vote differently to your husband/partner?

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DP and I are voting differently in this election. It doesn't bother me because 1) it's his vote and 2) it's not drastically different; both left/centre left parties, so it's not a whole different mindset. He's not too bothered, although would prefer if I voted the same to give support to independence to hopefully get a referendum. I'm voting tactically to get an MP in to hopefully get a different government. Does anyone else vote differently to their partner, and if so, how different?

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We both worked for different political parties when we were younger, so obviously used to vote different back then, but floating voters now so sometimes we’re different, this time round we’ve voted the same though (postal so already voted)

We have voted differently in the past, but I think we will vote the same in this election, with the aim of removing the sitting MP.

Yes we vote differently.

He says he is voting for the candidate not the party and he knows of some good things our (Tory) MP has done in the area.

I can never see myself voting Tory.

Turns our DS has voted same as me (we did postal votes) so we outnumber him!

We have gone through stages where we couldn’t discuss politics especially Brexit (although he voted against) and anything and everything to do with Boris Johnson.

I'm not actually sure as I will be voting tactically and I think DH I undecided. I know he wouldn't vote Tory or reform or anything right leaning though

We are likely to vote differently. He's generally a bit more lefty than I am. I think he will vote a Lib Dem this time. I've voted for them in the past butI can't this time because of women's rights issues. I am still trying to decide.

Yes! We've always voted differently. My husband is a die hard Labour voter and I have always voted conservative - won't be voting conservative this election but won't be voting Labour either but neither will he this time!

We have some fabulous friendly debates and I really don't care who he votes for.

Dh has never voted. Just says they’re all corrupt. I always vote.

We vote the same, both raving lefties 😊

I don't know but I assume very much so.

He comes from a wealthly family down south, I'm from a poor family up north.

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. We have similar aims but don't always have identical views on how best to get there.

We're voting differently. It doesn't bother me. I considered voting for the same party he is voting for. We have done lots of independent research and immersed ourselves in making sure we're voting for parties that represent our views.

In the end I decided to vote for a different party than DH but understand his POV

In the end I'd rather be with someone who engages and understands the different viewpoints and actually votes than someone who never votes at all!!! That would be the biggest deal breaker for me if they didn't vote

Don't know

Yes we usually do. We have a similar outlook politically.

I would really struggle to be with someone whose political views were vastly different to my own. It's so fundamental to the way we see the world.

No, we're voting the same (assuming he's being honest!).

I wouldn't mind if he voted for the Lib Dems or maybe the Greens (other than it being a wasted vote), but if he voted Tory or Reform I'd have a real issue with it. It's not about wanting an echo chamber, it's about fundamental view of the world. Anyone who can vote for a party that wants to ship asylum seekers to Rwanda is not someone I can respect at all.

Mostly the same but this time differently. One Labour and one Libdem

We are voting the same in this election. We have voted differently before but not wildly so - like you, we are both centre left. It doesn't bother me in the slightest if we vote for different parties as long as we share the same basic values, but I could not be with him if he was a Tory voter, or even worse, Reform. That would tell me that our values were fundamentally incompatible.

I'm astonished by the people who don't know how their partners vote and never discuss politics at all. It's a very common topic of conversation in our house, and in our wider family/social circle. I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone who really wasn't engaged and/or wouldn't discuss the issues.

We certainly have voted differently, and indeed currently vote in different constituencies.

One of us is more left leaning/pro Scottish independence and the other more free-market/pro union. But, we are both socially liberal, pro-EU, and recognise the need for governments to be fiscally responsible.

Not sure either of us are fully sure who we will vote for in our respective constituencies. Both are relatively safe seats (neither Conservative) - so we are likely to help more minor party candidates retain their deposits...

DH is going Green (our local candidate has a chance to get in) but I'm sticking with Labour. So not hugely different.

I'd have an issue with someone voting very differently - my ex voting UKIP finally gave me the kick up the arse to leave.

I vote green.

He flip-flops between Labour and Lib-Dem.

I couldn’t be with someone who voted Tory or Reform/Ukip.

Mostly very similar. Neither of us would ever vote Labour though.

I think I’d find it hard to live with someone who genuinely believed that Labour was a sensible vote.

We vote the same but we argue about it a lot as we have different stances on e.g. Israel's war with Hamas.

I do get people who say it doesn't matter as long as it's broadly on the left. I can't imagine being married to a Tory though, literally can't think of a bigger turn-off!

Usually we both vote Conservative, he intends to again but I am considering Reform this time around. I wouldn’t mind how he voted though, it’s his choice.

We usually vote differently, but this time we're voting the same in the hope of kicking the SNP out of Westminster.

Nope, social and political values are important to me and I wouldn’t have had a serious relationship with anyone who I didn’t feel I was aligned with in that way. Dh and I vote the same and always have.

That said, my mum was always very left of centre and then she met a partner who had quite far right beliefs. She now just parrots everything he says. She only reads the newspapers he reads, watches Fox News, supports Trump, ranting about immigrants (we are immigrants!), etc. I think sometimes over time people become more like their partners in lots of ways, and other times they become so isolated that they can’t think any other way, which isn’t healthy.