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If you were to meet a member of the royal family would you bow/curtsey etc?

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Blackcats7 · 27/06/2024 22:05

I support the royal family in general in that I don't want to see the institution abolished but I would like to see some changes which I think change will come in time with Charles and then William.
It occurred to me that in the highly unlikely/impossible scenario I ever met a member of the royal family I could not agree to curtsey or call them sir, ma'am, your majesty etc. I would want to be polite and friendly but I just could not show that deference to anyone.
Would you follow royal protocol or just be polite but not excessively deferential?

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Yippiddy · 28/06/2024 13:44

It be hard for me to restrain myself from giving them a lecture so there would be no chance of a bow or curtsey. I wouldn't be rude though as I'm not a rude person.

PrincessMee · 28/06/2024 19:37

I would do a quick dip a la Catherine.

OperationPushkin · 28/06/2024 21:01

Not a chance. Royal protocol means nothing to me. They’re just ordinary people who have been born into/married into a particular family, they don’t deserve to be treated differently simply because of their enormous wealth and privilege. The thought of showing deference to them makes me feel a bit ill, TBH. I’m not British which may have something to do with it.

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Thirstysue · 28/06/2024 22:09

Eww no, it's 2024. Bunch of n0nce supporters. Imagine, in 2024, someone presented the unknown notion of a royal family and how it would be received?

ilikecatsandponies · 28/06/2024 23:06

I met the queen once and I didn't curtsey because she didn't curtsey to me. I figured it was like shaking hands or kisses on each cheek where if you want to be greeted that way you initiate the greeting. I was about 20 and working at the palace. It didn't go that well 😂

ilikecatsandponies · 28/06/2024 23:07

I've also met Princess Anne at a conference which I was one of the organisers of. I offered her a hand and we shook hands. It was much more civilised and no one told me off!

Illegally18 · 28/06/2024 23:48

summersofdoom · 28/06/2024 10:52

How is not bowing or curtseying either stupid or ignorant exactly?

Yes I want to know too

Illegally18 · 28/06/2024 23:58

CurlewKate · 28/06/2024 10:55

There's a picture of Theresa May doing that really deep curtsy to William when he was quite young. I'm not a Conservative but I thought that it was quite shocking that the elected prime minister had to curtsy to a young man who had done nothing but be born....

Yes, I remember that picture. I don't think she had to curtsey to him (I think he said something about that she didn't have to do it), but she wanted to do it as she is a Royalist and patriotic. It was a deep and obsequious curtsey and I was embaressed on her behalf. He was born in his role, whereas she had made an effort to get into hers. He's also much younger than her. I found it very undignified on her part. Plus that straight skirt did her no favours (note to self, always wear a full skirt when curtseying)

WindsurfingDreams · 29/06/2024 00:12

I met a lot of people with titles in a former job and I never felt like I should treat them any differently so I don't think I would . I would be polite and respectful unless it was andrew because I am generally like that with everyone.

WindsurfingDreams · 29/06/2024 00:15

AffIt · 28/06/2024 11:18

Absolutely not.

I met Princess Anne once and shook her hand like I would with anybody (I'm not a royalist, but she seems decent and apparently doesn't really care about all the bowing and scraping).

My ex met Princess Anne and just greeted her like he would anyone else. She didn't seem to mind in the slightest and they had a lovely chat she really went to an effort to put him at ease

Oldraver · 29/06/2024 00:22

No for me

BlowDryRat · 29/06/2024 09:29

Emmz1510 · 28/06/2024 13:34

I’m not sure. I think I would probably try and end up calling them the wrong title!

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AlmaCogansFrockFan · 12/09/2024 20:08

No problem for me, have been curtseying regularly to dance partners in folk dancing for years!

CurlewKate · 12/09/2024 21:10

No

PrettyAsAVine · 12/09/2024 21:17

No, definitely not.

Oldraver · 13/09/2024 12:28

No way

MartyFunkhouser · 13/09/2024 12:30

No way. I’d never lower myself (literally).

I cringe when I see it. Especially Kate doing it to whoever. It belongs in the past.

SammyScrounge · 03/05/2025 02:04

PrincessMee · 28/06/2024 19:37

I would do a quick dip a la Catherine.

Me too. It's a traditional expression of courtesy to the Royals. To Japanese people I would bow my head because that is their form of courtesy..I'd shake hands with the Prime Minister and salute an officer if I was in the army.

tuvamoodyson · 03/05/2025 05:22

No.

Mickeychampionwhatgoodami · 03/05/2025 05:23

No , they're just people.

Gnomegarden32 · 03/05/2025 07:05

I'd expect them to bow to me because my taxes are keeping them in their luxury lifestyle 🙂

Ladyymuck · 03/05/2025 07:48

No I wouldn’t. If I met them or was introduced to them I would never bow or curtsy and I don’t stand for or sing GSTK. They were born into a life of privilege, they have not earned it. They are human like the rest of us, no better, no worse but outdated imho.

PrincessMee · 03/05/2025 23:00

MartyFunkhouser · 13/09/2024 12:30

No way. I’d never lower myself (literally).

I cringe when I see it. Especially Kate doing it to whoever. It belongs in the past.

To whoever? You don't sound very informed ..

Arlanymor · 04/05/2025 07:17

PrincessMee · 03/05/2025 23:00

To whoever? You don't sound very informed ..

Making fun of someone's education is a poor look. Also your username is PrincessMee?!

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