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If you were to meet a member of the royal family would you bow/curtsey etc?

226 replies

Blackcats7 · 27/06/2024 22:05

I support the royal family in general in that I don't want to see the institution abolished but I would like to see some changes which I think change will come in time with Charles and then William.
It occurred to me that in the highly unlikely/impossible scenario I ever met a member of the royal family I could not agree to curtsey or call them sir, ma'am, your majesty etc. I would want to be polite and friendly but I just could not show that deference to anyone.
Would you follow royal protocol or just be polite but not excessively deferential?

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MushMonster · 28/06/2024 06:38

I would, but not to the person really, but to the bearer of a title on behalf of the UK's crown.
Same as I would show respect to Rishi Sunak if I meet him up today, because he is the Prime Minister of UK. But as long as that title goes away, he will not get even an ounce of respect, that none of the tories have earned from me.

Itsprobablynotcominhome · 28/06/2024 06:39

Fuck no. I don't respect any of them.

DaffydownClock · 28/06/2024 06:43

NewName24 · 27/06/2024 22:50

I have done (met more than one member of the Royal Family) and they don't expect you to bow or curtsy any more.

^^This. It’s entirely up to the individual, I didn’t when I escorted Princess Anne on three different occasions.

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TiddlyCove · 28/06/2024 06:44

No. I'd treat them with the same politeness as any human being but I wouldn't curtsey to them or use royal forms of address. If I met the King I'd address him as 'Charles'.

DeadbeatYoda · 28/06/2024 06:53

Absolutely not.

Janehasamane · 28/06/2024 07:04

I like and support the royal family. But no I’d not bow or courtesy, I’d feel like a twat from the 16th century.

RockaLock · 28/06/2024 07:11

I have met the King and I didn't curtsy, I just shook his hand. As did everyone else.

He didn't mind at all, and was very jolly and friendly.

Gwenhwyfar · 28/06/2024 07:19

No.
Only caveat would be if my work threatened to sack me if I didn't. I wouldn't meet them in a personal capacity.

Gwenhwyfar · 28/06/2024 07:20

RaininSummer · 27/06/2024 22:44

Definitely not. Happy to shake hands and call them Sir or Madam just as I do with any relative stranger I meet.

You call other people Sir and Madam?

Janehasamane · 28/06/2024 07:30

Gwenhwyfar · 28/06/2024 07:19

No.
Only caveat would be if my work threatened to sack me if I didn't. I wouldn't meet them in a personal capacity.

Can I ask what you do where that would be a possibility?

Freysimo · 28/06/2024 07:59

Yes, I would. I've been practising for years on the off chance!

fieldsofbutterflies · 28/06/2024 08:06

No. I'd just shake their hand.

skippy67 · 28/06/2024 08:09

No. Absolutely not. I'd be super polite and smiley, but none of that curtsey nonsense.

skippy67 · 28/06/2024 08:11

*curtsy

Gorgonemilezola · 28/06/2024 08:14

All a bit irrelevant as it's not required or expected.

TemporalMechanic · 28/06/2024 08:14

I would not bow or curtsey. I'd shake hands.

I hadn't thought about it before but I realise I'd have no problem calling Charles 'sir' - but that's not because he's royal, it's because he's an elderly man and for some reason it feels rude to call people that much older than me by their first names unless they've invited me to or it's an informal social context.

Wouldn't call William or anyone of his generation sir, wouldn't address anyone's highness, majesty or grace.

PicaK · 28/06/2024 08:15

The king, camilla, Anne, William, Catherine and their children =yes to curtesy and deference. The rest = none of that. Prince Andrew - stonily ignore.

I once met the queen and was horrified to find that she almost flickered in front of me - one second little old granny, next second the queen. I looked towards the door and realised that if terrorists burst in I'd feel duty bound to throw myself in front of her to save her. It was the strangest feeling and very disconcerting as I'd no idea how much of a royalist I was! (Highly unlikely obviously as it was in Buckingham Palace 😂)

BlindHarbour · 28/06/2024 08:19

Pinkypup · 27/06/2024 22:37

I’ve met a lot of royals and have always curtseyed. It’s just rude and obnoxious if you don’t.

It really isn’t ’rude and obnoxious’ not to tug your forelock at one of a bunch of human anachronisms.

3peassuit · 28/06/2024 08:28

I would be polite and use whatever form of address required but a curtsy seems outdated and ludicrous in this day and age.

CuttingMeOpenthenHealingMeFine · 28/06/2024 08:30

I quite like the royals but no, I wouldn’t, I just couldn’t.

I’m not entirely sure it would bother them tbh it seems like all their hangers on are more into that stuff, well actually I get a feeling Harry and Meghan would bother if you didn’t use their titles as they seem really hung up on them.

skippy67 · 28/06/2024 08:34

I get a feeling Harry and Meghan would bother if you didn’t use their titles as they seem really hung up on them.
🙄

Itsprobablynotcominhome · 28/06/2024 08:35

CuttingMeOpenthenHealingMeFine · 28/06/2024 08:30

I quite like the royals but no, I wouldn’t, I just couldn’t.

I’m not entirely sure it would bother them tbh it seems like all their hangers on are more into that stuff, well actually I get a feeling Harry and Meghan would bother if you didn’t use their titles as they seem really hung up on them.

So hung up on titles that they left the royal family.

That doesn't compute.

CuttingMeOpenthenHealingMeFine · 28/06/2024 08:43

Itsprobablynotcominhome · 28/06/2024 08:35

So hung up on titles that they left the royal family.

That doesn't compute.

‘left’ yet retained the titles does massively compute but you do you

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 28/06/2024 08:45

No, I wouldn't bow or curtsey but I would call them there title, just as I expect those who don't know me to call me Mrs What until I decide otherwise.

NagaTheThird · 28/06/2024 08:48

King, Queen and Princess Royal, yes. I met HMQ a decade ago and yes I did.