Is this something to joke/tease about?

[JoeHendry]

Just wondering if it's normal to tease or make light of a mugging. (One where the victim isn't hurt)

One of DD's friends was mugged one evening and handed over his phone.

When DD told me she was laughing a lot and found it hard to keep a straight face.

Seemed a bit harsh to me. Like you'd never want it to be you.

Are you serious? Of course it isn't.

No, it's not normal. Most people have some empathy.

Ask her straight out what she finds amusing about it all. Sometimes when they have to find the right words they see how bad they are behaving. Does she normally see things like this as funny, or just because it happened to a certain person?

I felt this as well. I thought DD was being really rude and told her "you wouldn't be laughing if this happened to you".

Probably her friends were all laughing together about it so she thinks it's OK. Set her right.

@JoeHendry how old is your DD?

19

Having been with 2 other friends who were mugged and having a knife in your face at the same time, it goes without saying, it absolutely isn't.

I thought you were going to say she was about 14. What on earth did she find funny about it?

Just the fact that it happened and his phone got nicked I think.

Absolutely not funny. Seems a bit immature for 19. I could see my DS finding this hilarious at 15 though.

Tbh I don't even understand your reaction OP calling her behaviour " harsh".
Laughing about something serious and unpleasant and dangerous happening to anyone is plain wrong. The fact that she is laughing about this happening to a "friend" is actually horrible and doesn't say much good about her as a person.
What if this person had been badly injured in the mugging? Would she still be laughing?
Perhaps you should be having some serious conversations with her about right and wrong and friendship?

My (robust) son was mugged as a teenager and it still affects him to this day. It’s not a laughing matter. As per the pp, you might want to address the lack of empathy she has.

Thanks for the responses. I'll have a word with her.

I'm hoping that the laughter is actually a cover for feeling unnerved by it. People sometimes do laugh when they don't know how to 'be'.

Unless she genuinely found it funny, in which case I'd be worried about a profound lack of empathy.

Could it be that she was actually really unnerved and laughing as a defence mechanism.

I remember when I was at school, a girl saw a flasher whilst walking to school. When she arrived and told us all, she started laughing hysterically before bursting into tears. Some people do this

Maybe shes a closet fan of Peep Show. "he asked for your phone?". "And you just gave him it?" Was a knife or a shooter involved?

Cross post with @ClawedButler !

She was telling me about it like "mum mum. Harry (not real name) got mugged!"

DD was genuinely laughing and finding it funny

Laughing is a fairly normal response if people feel unsure and do not know what else to do as others have said.
Maybe just talk it through and suggest how scary that might actually be if it happened to them. Your dc's brain is a fair way from being fully formed yet.

That's a very immature and insensitive reaction.

Absolutely fucking NOT

That's really callous. I'd be very disappointed and tell her so.

Teach your adult daughter to be kind. I'd be ashamed if my adult kids were like that.

That's bad. I'd be ashamed of my DD if she behaved like that

I would be mortified and believe i have failed as a parent somewhere!!